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The Illusive Man

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Well, this thread has kinda been a long time coming and it's time for me to be honest with you all, its really hard for me to write this and I hope you can understand and appeciate why I have taken so long to do so and why I have done what I have done for as long as I have.

The Truth is, I'm not really a guy...I never have been, everything I ever told you about Me has been actually about my brother.

My real name is Becki, I'm 26 years old (the youngest of three, my brother is actually 28 and my oldest brother is 30) and I'm well...a Girl gamer.

The reason I have never said anything before and why I all let you believe I was someone else is because of bad experiences I have had in the past with being honest about being a girl.

I've been leered at, stalked, and made to feel so uncomfortable that I've litterally had to cancel gaming accounts out of fear of being harrassed and pestered.

I would like to appologise to you all from the bottom of my heart, and I'm truly so sorry for lying to you all and letting you all believe I'm someone else, It was wrong of me to do.

The reason I'm being straight with you all now is because, well I love you all at FFF and I think your all great people, like one big happy family, and I could not going on hurting you with my lies any longer.

I hope you can all forgive me.

Becks x x
 
I understand that situation before, happened to another friend I know at one time. Not for the same reasons but he did the same thing.

At least I get to call Darth Revan, Sith Lady. :awesome:
 
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Yay :cheer: You are a girl. They rock :gasp:

But seriously, using lies to cover up for the bad things that has happened in your life isn't good. They can be very hard to recover from. I am glad that you decided to come out to us ( we must be really trusting people :awesome: ) I hope that I can treat you in a way that won't make you scared or feel like you used to and hope that we can allow you to have fun and be yourself here. Thanks for telling the truth (y)
 
I've known a lot of people who did the same thing. I understand Becki, I really do.

Am glad you told people. As you said on msn, you don't like pretending you're someone else and I'm so glad you came clean to. I respect you highly for it.

No-one here should think any less of you for doing what you did. Past experiences affect us in ways some people can't imagine unless it's happened to them.

I don't think any less of you, at all. Congratulations for telling the truth. It takes more balls to stand up and tell the truth than it does it lie. <3
 
Hey there, Becks. :kinky:

:wacky: Anyway. I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to "come out" as it were. Doesn't really change anything on my part, so .... uh.... I guess.... welcome? Again?
 
yes Becky, you must have guts of depleted uranium doing what you did....(I hope I didn't offend) I'm happy you decided to come out.
 
Wow out of all the years you've been on this site, I never expected that. No worries though, I would like to formerly welcome you then, because this is a new person basically to me.

I hope you.. well enjoy yourself this time around.. and seriously if anyone messes with you about your gender.. please report it =\. Can't have that stalking business here.
 
I can't say I've ever pretended to be a guy but everyone thought I was a guy anyway when I first joined the forums. :monster:

I don't think we've really had a chance to talk a lot on the forums here but I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to finally be yourself.

Nice to meet you, Becki. xD
 
o_O I don't blame you for having been cautious at the start. I know a girl who refuses to admit she plays games because of the same sort of reasons. It's not good enough that people should have to feel that way in the society we live in today...

Well, seeing as I only knew you for a couple of days before reading this... it makes no difference to me :D

So... I guess hi Becks.
 
Fair enough, a lot of girls have been in your situation and have gone the same route simply because they didn't want to be harassed. Frankly I don't think you were hurting anyone through this, but thanks for being honest anyways.

Really, PLEASE don't get upset over this. Nobody is mad at you!
 
Hey, I know how tough it is being a girl and being a gamer. We get shit on a lot. No worries. I don't hold anything against you or blame you for pretending to be a guy. Sometimes a girl's gotta do what she's gotta do in order to protect herself, right? Kinda like Mulan! Okay, if I'm comparing shit to Disney, then I'm really drunk. Anyway, I'll post in here tomorrow when I'm sober. :wacky:
 
Oh wow, this was surprising. I never would've guess, although I do understand. Some people can be just horrible, harassing others and such. I'm glad you trust FFF as a whole enough to tell us the truth, and as Tyler/Shu said, report it if anyone gives you trouble <3

It's really brave of you to make this thread, a lot of people wouldn't have told the truth at all. There's no forgiving needed, here at least, since you had good reasons. Harassment and stalking isn't pretty at all =/
 
Wow...just wow, I really was not expecting the response I got at all, but all I have to say is thank you all so much for understanding, it really makes me love you all even more ^_^
 
these guys have good points, we're your friends, Becks, (okay, I really need to lay off drinking man), if anyone try to harass you I'll be sure to chew them out if nobody tries to stop me.
 
In all my years of forum browsing (four in total) I never witnessed this kind of thing. But you had every right of being cautious, and I understand why you did what you did. Screw those @$$[beep] that harassed you. I may not know you, but I hope that can change soon. :)

From me, all you get is a gentlemanly bow. Let us all embrace you for who you are.
 
I really don't think you have anything to apologize for, to any of us. =]

Your reasons were your own, and from what I understand of your initial post, they seem legitimate and reasonable. Experiences such as those can truly be so taxing on a person, and I don't think anyone can tell you otherwise. While we'd like to think that we can brush it off and press on so undeterred, it's never really easy, and we instinctively look to protect ourselves from that which harms us.

By "stepping up" and admitting these things, it must take a lot. I hope you find that it to be gratifying, and I'm glad you felt comfortable enough here to express something that must be a big deal for you.

Take care. I hope you find your time here at the forums that much more satisfying.

And now I understand the Jill Valentine thing from you in the SB yesterday. =D
 
Well Becki, as Highwind stated, there's no need to apologize to us at all. :) Girl or guy, we welcome any members here all the same. I have to admit that surprised me but hey, you have your own reason for doing it and that will always be respected. Thanks for trusting us enough and I hope you continue to contribute to the community. =]
 
I agree, no reason to apologize. I like the fact that some women make the effort to protect themselves on the internet, there are a lot of sickos out there. But it's nice to meet the actual you for sure! :ryan:

I was completely and totally convinced that you were a man though, so kudos on your ability to hide that. Now seeing the female screen names makes some sense (which makes me question if Adri is a girl now? :hmmm:). So now that you've officially revealed yourself, I hope that we'll get to see you on the forums more often. Again, it's nice to meet you Becki! :ryan:
 
I don't know you personally since i'm pretty recent to the forums but as others have said, there is no need to say sorry. It's hard sometimes I understand why you did what you did and your very brave for coming out and telling the truth and I have high respect for you. Me being a female gamer I understand your situation with the whole harrasing/pestering thing. Keep your head held high and just keep moving forward. :) and nice to meet'cha Becki =)
 
I don't blame you for lying about it, lots of people get stalked and harassed, I've been in the situation before. I've never met you before this, but as others have done, I'd like to welcome you as you.

Welcome, Becki. :)
 
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