Common Courtesy

[Saints&Storms]

Okay, so Common Courtesy is a big deal with me personally.

My Example; I have a problem with people not respecting other peoples wants of not breathing in smoke and getting second hand smoke cancer. So walking through a place and passing through someones smoke cloud is very aggravating to me, I get you like to smoke I do. But don't do it around me or other people who don't want you smoke in their face.

Or another example is insulting someone who stutters while they speak, seriously this pisses me off.

Does anyone else ever find it disturbing/irritating how people act without Common Courtesy?

 

[Bambi]

Manners. It's not hard to say please and fucking thank you. I just held a door open for you, is saying thanks really that hard? Il slam it in your face next time

Pushing in pisses me off no end as well, Ive not stood waiting for ages just for you to shove me out of the way, its bad in the bank, im like, just because im filling in a paying in slip, you can walk infront of me? NO. MOVE, THERE'S A QUEUE, GET THE FUCK BEHIND ME. Im the same with the bus as well. You're going to get a seat, wait your fucking turn.

Edit* I know Im a foul mouthed arsehole, but I know how to use my manners, and I'm not rude unless some one really pisses me off

Like that irritating old bid who got her foot run over by my pram after repeated EXCUSE ME'S and she made me miss my stop on the bus, why she felt the need to get out of her seat and hog the aisle when she didnt even WANT that stop

 

[Linnaete]

The most common thing that has irritated me every day is when people start talking while I'm talking at the same time - commonly interrupting me on the spot. Now, that is just plainly rude. If you want to interject while someone else is talking, at least make a gesture that indicates that you want to talk, or just wait until the person's finished. It's particuarly frustrating when I just cannot get my point across without having to repeat it over and over again because I was unceremoniously interrupted.

 

[Abstract Debauchery]

Personally, I have no problems with smokers. If I don't want to be around smoke, I'll do them a favor and not get in their face about it. Smokers and non-smokers can co-exist, damn it.

Otherwise, If you pass the car of someone you haven't seen in years, and you feel the need to stop IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FUCKING STREET to talk about it, pull your shit car to the side of the road so I can get by. FUCK. YOU.

Also, no, I will not stop cursing in front of your kids. Whether I do or not isn't going to stop them from cursing in private with their friends.

NO. I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR YOUR BABY CRY IN THE MOVIE THEATER. I don't know why you feel it necessary to bring them. They're not going to remember the movie. Leave them at home, and if you can't, LEAVE THE THEATER.

Also, I would really like it if you fucking douchebag's would stop trying to convert me to your religion while I'm eating a meal in the park. I'm Atheist, I don't want to hear about how I'm going to go to Hell. Even if I wasn't Atheist, I would like to think that my imaginary friend can beat up your imaginary friend any day of the fucking week.

NO, I DO NOT WANT A FACEBOOK. Go bitch about your farm to someone who gives a shit.

 

[Sullivan0930]

TBH im not much of a thank you'er, and i never say your welcome. But i am a nice person, i always hold doors and will pick something up if i see someone drop it in front of me. I always think of how i could be in someones way whenever i do something, so im usually not in anyones way.
What i hate is when people talk or even have there bright ass screen phone on during a movie, people having crying babies in restaurants, and thats all i could think of but theres a lot more.

 

[Sepalcure]

So I can't stand it, absolutely fucking HATE IT, when people insist on skipping in a fucking line. Especially when I used to go to school, all of the god damn underclassmen would insist on doing it, bunch of fucking impatient pussies. Of course there were times where I would just shove past them or my awesome bodyguard of a friend would be all like, "Tho shalt NOT pass, motherfucka." Miss her to bits. But anywho, I never understood why people couldn't wait to just have their fucking turn. The food isn't fucking running away on some legs, it's not going to magically disappear, and let's fact it, you pushing people and shit ain't gonna make the food service go any faster. Fucking wait to be served and move behind the person you're meant to stand behind.

The above also applies to fast food restaurants. Yup.

What else? Hm . . . when people insist on asking me for shit and don't say 'thank you.' Like if I lend you money because I pity you since you're going to starve for today in the cafeteria, say fucking thank you. Don't take my shit and not say anything or take my pencil or whatever else I lend out to you and not say shit. I didn't HAVE to give you anything, I'm not obligated to lend you out anything. Nothing. I could be a cold ass bitch and be like, "No, I'm not giving you a pencil, BAH! Humbug." But I'm not so at least say fucking thank you and give IT BACK!

Another thing I hate . . . when people like to be fucking disrespectful and talk down to me, especially when they're MY AGE! What the bloody hell?! Who made you God of the universe?! For instance, my one "friend" is a bitch simply because she likes to bitch and moan about how I insert certain vocabulary words into something OR she just likes to make me look like a dumb ass. Rudely. Like she's Einstein. Of course, I just keep my mouth shut and give her the silent treatment and let my real friends point out the fact that she's wrong. I mean, I'm fine with being proven wrong. I'm not going to stick up my nose in the air and be haughty about it. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong. So what. But don't you dare ever be arrogant or rude or just bitchy to me like I said something annoying, or like I'm some kid, or someone you hate. Just be respectful and point out my mistake, what's so bloody hard about that shit?

Yeah . . . those are some of the things that piss me off. So children, say please and thank you and always be courteous to kind people or else they might just come back and slam your head into a desk.

 

[Valvalis]

I'm with a lot of people on the crying-babies-in-theaters issue; I don't really understand why anyone would bring a 2-year-old to see Lord of the Rings I think part of the problem, though, is that a lot of these people just assume that everyone thinks babies are adorable and won't mind, which is an incorrect assumption. I was actually at the theater a few weeks ago, and this toddler in the row in front of us kept turning around and tapping us on the knee during the movie Which would be fine and cute if I was, you know, sitting on a park bench or something, but not during a $10 movie And especially since the mother was right there and wasn't doing anything about it. I could've easily stolen the kid and walked out of the theater and she wouldn't have even realized it until the movie was over Dumb people are dumb Oh, and perfume/cologne/cleaning chemicals is another one, many people like me have massive allergies to artificial aromatics like that, and yet people still get spritz-happy and Febreeze-happy and don't care that they're slowly killing their nostrils and everyone else's I'm thinking of finding some sort of cowflop-scented aerosol to carry on me to spray on those people, hopefully then they'll get headaches and pass out too and the score will be settled.

Another thing humans do that I find generally discourteous is the way big corporations whore out the environment, but that's a massive and complicated rant for another day.

 

[SapphireStar]

Ive always moved out of the way for people, its something automatic. But I hate arseholes who just insist on walking right into you. Douchebags.

I now refuse to hold the door open, unless its for women with prams or elderly people. Others dont even acknowledge you when you do so!!

And yeah manners is a peeve to me, specially when I work in retail. Manners cost nothing you faggots.

 

[CassinoChips]

Manners cost nothing you faggots.

I find this sentence ironic.

I'm not as upset by the crying babies as everybody else seems to be. I can understand in a theater that you a discrodant cry can upset the mood of the movie or whatever, but I'll give parents a little leeway. Now if the kid is bawling for minutes straight, then yeah, let's handle the situation. But in a public setting that doesn't necessarily require silence (restaurant/airplane/etc.), the crying babies don't really bother me a whole lot. Because, frankly, raising a kid is tough. And parents still have to live a life, otherwise they'd go nuts.

If you're willing to babysit for me, I'll gladly leave them at home.

Now what does irk me is lateness and/or people not doing what they said they'd do. Again, within reason. If you tell me you'll meet me at 4 pm, and you show up at 4:10, we're probably all right. But if you have me waiting all frickin' day for you, we've got problems. I have a cell phone. Tell me what's going on. And for God's sake, don't tell me you'll do something and then not do it. Silly me, I take people at their word.

Also, people who are loud for no particular reason irritate me. Some people are just naturally loud, and every now and then is fine. But if I'm 5 feet away from you, there's no need to shout. And if we're in a group, you don't always have to have everybody hear what you say. You'll be all right. Inside voices, please.

Anyway. tl;dr: I don't hate babies, be on time, and keep it down.

 

[blakstang98]

My Example; I have a problem with people not respecting other peoples wants of not breathing in smoke and getting second hand smoke cancer. So walking through a place and passing through someones smoke cloud is very aggravating to me, I get you like to smoke I do. But don't do it around me or other people who don't want you smoke in their face.

Well, if a person is smoking in a place that it's legal to smoke, and say they're sitting in a chair talking to someone (not walking anywhere) and you choose to walk past them, then you don't have a right to have a fit about their smoke getting in your face because you walked toward them. Little by little the freedom to smoke a cigarette is being robbed from people, and I find it unfair that people that don't smoke can bully people that do smoke, basically confining them to smoking in their home only. But by choosing to walk past them, you're basically taking the risk of getting "second hand smoke cancer", so you can't complain about them. If you walk up to you and blow smoke in your face, that's a different story.

/end mini-rant

I find this sentence ironic.

Yeah, I have to agree with this. Using a word that acts as a slur to a group of people shows poor manners. Please try to refrain from using such words please. It can be very insulting.


I can think of 2 reasons off the top of my head that make me feel like common courtesy is completely lost these days. Both of them relate to driving.

The first would be when I let someone cross the street, when they aren't on a crosswalk. I'll let them walk, then they'll basically walk really slow and take their sweet time. "Hey asshole, I was being nice and let you go when I didn't have to, now lets not make my wait really long." Sometimes in a residential neighborhood, people just sort of randomly cross the road, even if they see you coming, and they almost slow their walk down when they see you approaching. Like, why does this happen? Are people just looking to get me pissed off and make themselves roadkill? That sort of thing pisses me off.

Another thing that pisses me off is how people drive these days. People drive so aggressively, why can't they have the courtesy to respect my vehicle space. Instead they drive about an inch from my bumper when I'm doing 75 mph, and they love to cut you off when they have more than enough space to turn into the lane when there is more clearance between you and them. Unfortunately, something like me not wearing my safety belt is more of a crime than someone who wants to drive their vehicle so close to mine at high speeds. But even when you're at an intersection with a 4-way stop or something, and the last person to the sign feels they should get to go first. "Hey asshole, wait your turn!" The way people drive these days are just so disrespectful of others. Some people shouldn't be allowed to drive.

 

[DeadFantasy]

I'm a pretty nice person so, I tend to be be polite and hold doors for those behind me idunno. I can't say I expect the same but I sure as hell don't like it when people slam the door like right in your face. I mean, you looked right back at me could you make an effort to hold the door?

As Jesse said, i'm not too bothered by the baby thing that much either. I mean good parent's should bring their children with them anyways if they don't have a sitter. If it's really extreme where they baby is screaming it's head off then maybe but being a public place, I don't expect it to be completely quiet.

In the theater what really bugs me when people have their cell phone's out or they have their feet on the back of the seat (if someone weren't in front okay go for it but seriously ) it's rather irritating.

People who can't wait in line bug me too. I mean like shut up or get out of line ya know? You aren't the only one who has to wait we all do so quit complaining and pushing/shoving it's just childish

Drivings always my thing. People just don't know how to drive. I hate it when people cut you off I mean, I try to be nice and let others in (occasionally i'll get a hand gesture saying thanks) but not as often anymore.

 

[Channizard]

TL;DR TYME!!!

I grew up heavily on manners, and I'll sometimes say my thank you's or please'ses five times in a sentence, especially if someone is really putting their selves out for me.

Pushing in pisses me off no end as well, Ive not stood waiting for ages just for you to shove me out of the way, its bad in the bank, im like, just because im filling in a paying in slip, you can walk infront of me? NO. MOVE, THERE'S A QUEUE, GET THE FUCK BEHIND ME. Im the same with the bus as well. You're going to get a seat, wait your fucking turn.

This is possibly one of my hugest pet peeves in the world, ESPECIALLY the old people who will push in front because "I'm old, my life is shorter and worth more than yours" and shit. wtf ever and just get in line and wait. In 7-11 today two old guys tried to push in, y'know.. even though the line had CURVED in the opposite direction, and stood right next to me... there were three others behind me who were totally pissed, and I pointed them to the back of the line. They begrudgingly went.

The most common thing that has irritated me every day is when people start talking while I'm talking at the same time - commonly interrupting me on the spot.

Yes, because often times whatever the other person has to say is so obviously more important than what you're saying now to not interrupt.

Another thing I hate . . . when people like to be fucking disrespectful and talk down to me, especially when they're MY AGE! What the bloody hell?! Who made you God of the universe?! For instance, my one "friend" is a bitch simply because she likes to bitch and moan about how I insert certain vocabulary words into something OR she just likes to make me look like a dumb ass. Rudely. Like she's Einstein. Of course, I just keep my mouth shut and give her the silent treatment and let my real friends point out the fact that she's wrong. I mean, I'm fine with being proven wrong. I'm not going to stick up my nose in the air and be haughty about it. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

These types of people can also go suck a big hairy cock. I hate those that feel they must have an air of superiority over others for whatever reason, because most often than not.. it's unwarranted.

Also, people who are loud for no particular reason irritate me. Some people are just naturally loud, and every now and then is fine. But if I'm 5 feet away from you, there's no need to shout. And if we're in a group, you don't always have to have everybody hear what you say. You'll be all right. Inside voices, please.

I come from a very loud family.. my mum and my sisters all just have... naturally loud voices, it's sometimes quite overbearing. I once asked my mum why she had to be so loud when my sister was 3 feet away from her, and they both threw a shit fit over it, saying I was rude. I dare not question it again.

I can think of 2 reasons off the top of my head that make me feel like common courtesy is completely lost these days. Both of them relate to driving.

Has anyone else ever actually really noticed how driving de-personalizes common courtesy? You bump into someone or almost walk into someone on the sidewalk, you just say 'excuse me' or go around them... on the road, if someone guts you off, you start an instant vendetta against them and vow to beat them to whatever destination you're both headed in.

 

[SaShman]

I think common courtesy is important but I can't really fault people for some mistakes. I'm sure I've annoyed people in the past without realizing and such. I reckon most of the scenarios in which people apparently display bad manners are misunderstandings. For example: you hold the door for someone, they don't say "thank you"', but they give a thankful smile which you don't see..

It's important to remember that in any situation, everyone will have a different point of view. Say you're in a cinema and your friend's phone rings, they may get embarrassed, you might find it hilarious but the person sitting several seats away may think that your friend has bad manners.

The first would be when I let someone cross the street, when they aren't on a crosswalk. I'll let them walk, then they'll basically walk really slow and take their sweet time. "Hey asshole, I was being nice and let you go when I didn't have to, now lets not make my wait really long."

Admittedly I do this a fair bit. The way I see it is that whoever is letting me cross is in a car, therefore they will get to their destination comparatively quicker regardless. Also there is that old rule of not running across the road. I still give them a thumbs up or something as thanks though.

 

[Rorolina Frixell]

When I have that I can't help but dash across, I don't want to hold someone up after they nicely let me go past

Speaking of cars though, there's an opposite to it which bugs me

People on the other end of the street that CHARGE across to the road you're walking across when they can clearly see i'm crossing and almost run my leg over the amount of times I get it, rage brewing tbqh

As well as that it's when people ae unnecessarily loud in public places, like a restaurant or something and they need to scream to the top of their lungs so everyone has to hear it i'm sure you can have your little conversations without every other person here needing to hear it.

More but all I can think of atm

 

[Daenerys]

I've been brought up to say please and thank you, and to mind my manners. My brother is awful for it, and I'm constantly nagging him about saying please and thank you, but at times, I'm over polite. My Grandma makes fun of me each time I ask her if I can go to the toilet, since I'm programmed to ask nicely first xD

I try to hold doors open for people and say excuse me and stuff, little things like that don't cost anything, and most of the time, people will really appreciate it. I can't stand people who just push past in the street, it's really just rude. If you don't want to say excuse me, then just walk around?

Although, at the moment, my biggest pet peeve is people not indicating when they're going round a roundabout. It takes two seconds, and as well as being polite, it can be a life saver. Me and my friend have nearly been wiped out on a roundabout three times in the past two weeks because of people not indicating >_> It's small things like that that really grind my gears - it doesn't take any special time or effort, it's just common courtesy ><

 

[Rasputin]

HELLO THAR SIR THANKS FOR BAGGING MY STUFF SO NEATLY SAY DID YOU KNOW THE END OF THE WORLD IS NIGH? I HEARD THIS IN CHURCH YESTERDAY AND I THINK IT'S PRETTY IMPORTANT I MEAN ALL THE BAD PEOPLE ARE GOING TO HELL AND IT'S ABOUT TIME BUT THE BIBLE HAS BEEN PREDICTING THIS FOR A WHILE NOW SO IT'S A GOOD THING IT'S FINALLY ABOUT TO HAPPEN

WHY DON'T YOU TAKE THIS PAMPHLET TELLING ALL ABOUT OUR CHURCH

YES I KNOW THERE ARE PEOPLE WAITING IN LINE BUT THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT I WANT YOU TO PROMISE ME THAT YOU'LL JOIN THE CHURCH BEFORE I LEAVE YOU SEEM LIKE A NICE BOY AND I DON'T WANT YOU STUCK IN HELL WHEN THE APOCALYPSE COMES

OKAY OKAY I'LL PAY FOR MY STUFF JUST A SECOND NOW. SAY DO YOU BELIEVE IN ABORTION, I MEAN ABORTION IS BAD AND YOU CAN GO TO HELL FOR THAT

WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE NO OPINION ON IT OF COURSE YOU DO HOW CAN YOU JUST WORK HERE, I'M GETTING ALONG JUST oh thank you very much maam for checking out my stuff just conversing with this bagger over here FINE WITHOUT A JOB AND YOU WON'T EVEN TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK OF ABORTION DON'T YOU CARE ABOUT THE END OF THE WORLD I HEAR IT ISN'T GOING TO BE PRETTY

OKAY FINE BE THAT WAY. NOW TAKE THIS EXTRA PAMPHLET AND BE SURE TO STOP BY SOMETIME. DON'T WORRY IF YOU LOSE IT I SHOP HERE EVERY DAY SO I CAN GIVE YOU AN EXTRA NEXT TIME I VISIT

 

[kitcatpawed]

Im really big on manners lke please and thank you but im not going to force someone to say it(unless its one of my friends asking me to do something i wont respond till they say please but its all good fun XD)

And i do move out of the way from people im kinda short so the big scary guys who have obviosly had a bad day tend to walk right into me i guess its bad luck XD

But im pretty big about loud babies in public but then i always calm myself down by telling myself that i dont know what its like to have a baby and for all i know parents just learn to zone their kids out. Come to think of it maybe thats why my mom used to ignore me so much when i was a complete chatterbox, still am but not near as bad XD

 

[Coco]

Common courtesy isn't that big a deal to me. Well, not anymore--not since I've learned that most people don't bother.

I really don't like it when someone would just walk right into you, so in the end I would be the one to give way. Same applies in driving. People who cut you off or swerve in front of you. In regards to smoking (I saw it was brought up here somewhere), I dislike it when people blow smoke really close to me, whether it was intentional or not, but then again, just I'd rather just avoid those areas altogether.

I think manners are important as it's somehow related to respect. It's just that people usually don't care when you're a stranger to them. That's the problem, I think.

 

[SapphireStar]

I find this sentence ironic.

The reason its worded like that is cause Im in a pretty mush pissed off mood by the time Im done serving a rude customer.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

One thing that annoys me is that whenever I'm in a shopping centre I am ALWAYS the one who moves out of the way for other people walking past.

I swear if I didn't move, neither would they and we'd have a head on collision.

They just instantly think they have right of way. I should just keep walking in the same line one day and see if anyone actually moves out of the way for me. <_<

Also, when you hold open doors for people and they don't even say thank you. That is just rude. I didn't have to hold it open for you, but I did and the least you can do is say thank you.

Those sort of people are the people who turn you off from doing anything nice for anyone else. <_<