I guess the beginning is the best place to start with this. I used to have this friend. I'd known her all my life. We got on quite well in primary school, but when secondary school started we didn't really talk for a while. Then we both stayed on for the optional two years at our old school, where we picked up where we'd left off 5 years earlier. Over the next two years we bcame best friends. We were inseperable. Every day you could find us skipping lessons and playing cards in the back room of the school's sixth form area with Liam (another good friend of mine). After we left school (or when i left school rather, she stayed on for another year) she met a guy over the internet. They started off as friends but it was clear to everyone that there was something more. Eventually he came down here to meet her, and as expected they became more than friends. Fast forward to the christmas before last, he finally meets me. We got on great at first. But a few months later she starts saying that he doesn't like me much. Fair enough i thought. But shortly after my birthday last year, he decides that he owns her and forbids her from ever talking to me again. I thought it was funny at first, until i realised he was serious. And to my horror, she just went along with it and stopped talking to me. Now 'crushed' would be one way of describing how i felt at the time. Liam tried everything to get her to talk to me again, finally suceeding last july by planning to lock both of us in a room together and not letting us out until we'd sorted things. Not that he needed to, she was happy to see me. After a few months her boyfriend once again decided that she wasn't allowed to be friends with me, and once again she stopped talking to me for fear of losing him. And this time, there was nobody to lock us in a room together (Liam had moved away two months before). Fast forward to the present day. Liam tells me that Louise (the 'friend' in question) admitted to him that i was right about her boyfriend all along. The whole time i said that he obviously doesn't love her if he orders her around like that. He also tells me that he made her get a new mobile number so i'd have no way of contacting her. Asshole. Anyway, following her admission, i feel that she might start talking to me again (Liam was nice enough to give me her new number), but at the same time, i don't want to risk going through all of this again. She was irreplaceable as a friend (nobody else i know shares my passion for the sonic the hedgehog series, amongst other things), but i feel like i'd be a fool to trust her so easily again. Any suggestions?
I feel a need to rant
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Become Amish?
I say buy a gun. Unless you got one. Pop a cap in dat boys ass, i think is the way the gangsters talk. Or you could be civilized and tell the boyfriend to knock it off, your just her friend, nothing more. Cause it's obvious he's abusive and paranoid. He thinks you might take her from him. Best way is to either beat him up maybe, or tell her to break up with him. Although, after that, you might advise her to carry a gun, cause I heard that overly protective people like him might kill the girl who breaks up with him.
I'm not mean enough to tell her to break up with him (although i must admit the thought had crossed my mind). And that's mostly the reason why he doesn't like me - he was afraid i was going to muscle in on his woman, despite telling him several hundred times that wasn't going to happen. And as for the abusive thing, i did once notice a big bruise on her arm, but she insisted that she just knocked it. I didn't believe that for a second.
I was saying abusive as in over protective(a type of abuse), but dude, seriously, he needs to be dealt with. It's bad for him to not be gotten rid of. Internet dating never really works. If they were good people, they wouldn't need internet to find a date.
Try bugging her car with a GPS system, and installing security cameras in her house. Also, get a good lawyer in case you have to deal with those silly restraining orders.
I still think becoming Amish is a good idea.
I still think becoming Amish is a good idea.
Amish means no tech means no internet means no worries... for the rest of your days
It's a problem free... philosophy
It's a problem free... philosophy
BUTTER!!! CHURNING!!! OWN!!!
But tbh, I'd probably knock the shit outta that guy. No one should have the right to say who they should and shouldn't see, especially to that extent. Feel free to go and have him sorted out, there is every reason too
But tbh, I'd probably knock the shit outta that guy. No one should have the right to say who they should and shouldn't see, especially to that extent. Feel free to go and have him sorted out, there is every reason too
quite an awkward situation. I dont know what you can really do. Talk to people that know her really well that she might confide in to get the whole story if you haven't already. and try to prove to her that he's not right for her. Idk man, toughie
Funny thing is, same sorta thing is happening to one of my friends, his friends boyfriend is being an arse and trying to make her not hang out with him
He doesn't care anymore, because none of us like her anymore.
He doesn't care anymore, because none of us like her anymore.
Honestly there are a LOT of woman that want to be controlled. I was with one but I broke up with her because I didn't want her to control every step. She found a new man and he gave me the same treatment. lol She was banned from talking to me, ever. I'm not as hurt by it as you are but it did sting. Anyhow, as much as you like her... and as much as it seems like he's using her... she might just want to be controlled like that. Honestly a lot of women find it very comforting to have their man make all the decisions for them. Personally I think that's boring... but some women are that way. So I guess what I'm saying is you really hold her in very high regard and him in very very low regard... but you should probably even it out a little. She's obviously liking being controlled as much as he likes controlling her.... so you can't really blame the one without the other. And if you can't control anything at all, either one of them, then you better start realizing she's not as wonderful as you may thing if you ever plan on moving on. No one's perfect and she sounds like she's in a very messed up place... and enjoying it just fine.
Moonchild, I have to agree with you for once. Though if you do beat him up, remember this list:
1. Brass Knuckles are good, but a gun is better
2. If he is bigger than you, or stronger, give up.
3. Punch him in the nuts, no matter how gay it seems. Trust me, it's easier after.
4. this is very important. Check the safety switch.
1. Brass Knuckles are good, but a gun is better
2. If he is bigger than you, or stronger, give up.
3. Punch him in the nuts, no matter how gay it seems. Trust me, it's easier after.
4. this is very important. Check the safety switch.
I however must concer...
To quote a great cult film, known as Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels....
...Or sommit like that, tis been awhile. You get the drift anyways.Soap from LSATSB said:
This is the situation where you get other people in, even if they need paying...
Never punch anyone in the nuts. Its hurts to the extent that they may never have children in some cases. Do you want this on your mind? No ofcourse not. If you are going to potentialy jeprodise his chances of reproduction, may as well do it in style to make it worth it. BATTLERAM THE FUCKERS! That way you are safe in the knowlage that not just a measly little puch ruined a mans life
....Agreed.
Omnislasher483
Posterboy for FFVII
I really couldn't be bothered to read through the whole thread to see whether or not your problem is solved, so I'm gonna give you my advice anyways.
If your friend has such a weak morale code that she'll drop you at the drop of a hat whenever her boyfriend wants her too, then she's not the type of person you want as a friend.
I've come to learn a few things in my life, and one of them is that (as corny as it sounds) good friends are hard to find. I'm 23 years old now, and I only have two people that I truly consider friends. Whether I have a new girlfriend or they do, we don't forget each other just because were getting some on the regular. Though when you're in a relationship, you have to make more room for your girlfriend/boyfriend than you do for your friends, but that doesn't mean that you cut them out completely.
That said, your probably better off distancing yourself from this girl due to the fact that she doesn't hold you in higher esteems than she does her love of the week.
If your friend has such a weak morale code that she'll drop you at the drop of a hat whenever her boyfriend wants her too, then she's not the type of person you want as a friend.
I've come to learn a few things in my life, and one of them is that (as corny as it sounds) good friends are hard to find. I'm 23 years old now, and I only have two people that I truly consider friends. Whether I have a new girlfriend or they do, we don't forget each other just because were getting some on the regular. Though when you're in a relationship, you have to make more room for your girlfriend/boyfriend than you do for your friends, but that doesn't mean that you cut them out completely.
That said, your probably better off distancing yourself from this girl due to the fact that she doesn't hold you in higher esteems than she does her love of the week.