Not sure if this is the right section for this but...
I am surprised at how many people that marry and did not even discuss some very important issues before hand.
What do you think is important to talk to your SO about before deciding to spend the rest of your life together?
Having kids. Needs to be discussed and agreed upon. I've see people divorce because one member wanted kids and the other didn't. This just seems like common sense.
Where to live. This one also surprises me. Husband eventually wants to move from Maine to California, but wife wants to always stay near family. They are both surprised years later in the marriage when they find this out. Do people not discuss their goals in life anymore?
Finances. Don't let your SO think that you have more or less money than you currently have! Just imagine the problems that could happen especially if your SO is under the impression that there is not much money. This happened with by brother in law and his wife. She thought they had much more money and would go out shopping. Her husband would tell her not to shop so much but never why. She was shocked to eventually find out how much debt they were in and that they were using revolving credit cards to pay off their house.
Pets. If you're and animal lover and want to own cats and dogs and among other animals. Don't marry someone who hates animals.
Holidays. Ah a big one. And causes so many fights when both sides of hte family is having a party at the same time. This acutally cause a little fight between me and John and we decided to alternate going to his family's house and my family's house each year. This wasn't a problem in the past because his family had always done Thanksgiving on Friday and not the day of.
Lifestyle. Want to live frugaly or live big? Seen this one cause big fights in married couples too.
I am surprised at how many people that marry and did not even discuss some very important issues before hand.
What do you think is important to talk to your SO about before deciding to spend the rest of your life together?
Having kids. Needs to be discussed and agreed upon. I've see people divorce because one member wanted kids and the other didn't. This just seems like common sense.
Where to live. This one also surprises me. Husband eventually wants to move from Maine to California, but wife wants to always stay near family. They are both surprised years later in the marriage when they find this out. Do people not discuss their goals in life anymore?
Finances. Don't let your SO think that you have more or less money than you currently have! Just imagine the problems that could happen especially if your SO is under the impression that there is not much money. This happened with by brother in law and his wife. She thought they had much more money and would go out shopping. Her husband would tell her not to shop so much but never why. She was shocked to eventually find out how much debt they were in and that they were using revolving credit cards to pay off their house.
Pets. If you're and animal lover and want to own cats and dogs and among other animals. Don't marry someone who hates animals.
Holidays. Ah a big one. And causes so many fights when both sides of hte family is having a party at the same time. This acutally cause a little fight between me and John and we decided to alternate going to his family's house and my family's house each year. This wasn't a problem in the past because his family had always done Thanksgiving on Friday and not the day of.
Lifestyle. Want to live frugaly or live big? Seen this one cause big fights in married couples too.
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