Wedding drama

Rydia

Rydia

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I really need to vent.

So I'll be getting married in 9 days. I am both excited and extremely nervous. I've never been one to like a lot of attention so being a bride is a bit intimidating.

And, well, some people just have to be a little dramatic.

John's brother is supposed to be the best man. But he is feuding with the family over something stupid. As a best man it is one of his duties to plan the bachelor party. Well he wasn't doing this, which is fine if he didn't want to, but he got a little upset when his dad asked if he wanted any help and he now will not go to the bachelor party. Also, he keeps trying to pull us into the little family drama, but we really do not have time for it. I'm also afraid that he is going to decide to not attend the wedding the day of. I hate having that worry. We have a back up plan but there is going to be that awkward explaining to everyone.

Then there is my sister. She's an attention whore. And because my wedding is coming up and I am getting a lot of attention, she is doing a lot of things to turn the attention on to her such as intentionally dragging her foot, complaining of sickness, and complaining of long hours at work. And I'm not being a bitch, she does this anytime someone other than her gets a lot of attention. And she keeps calling up me with her problems.

Then I have a bridesmaid. She's a bit of a slacker. I keep calling and asking if she has gotten her shoes. She says no. So I try to schedule a time for us to go out get shoes for her, but she's always busy with something. So I ask her what her shoe size is and I can pick up shoes for her. But she says that her shoe size varies and she needs to try the shoes on. Then, a bridal luncheon was scheduled and she said she was coming so we paid for a meal for her. She doesn't show up or call to say that she is not coming. I try to call her cell phone, and no one answers. I call her home phone, no one answers. I get hell for her not being there. Now I'm not a bridezilla that is all "OMG BE AT ALL THE EVENTS!!!" but if she couldn't make it I'd appreciate a phone call to let me know. I was also worried about her.

My cousin is the DJ. I have called him several times to tell him what song I want to dance to. He doesn't call me back.

My mom gives me a big lecture on irresponsible behavior regarding my friend, the best man, and someone else. I was not in the mood for the lecture.

I want to scream. I can't wait for May 15th when I am on a plane to Jamaica!
 
Firstly, congratulations on the wedding. I hope everything goes well for you and your new husband-to-be. That being said, I hope I don't sound like too much of an ass with the next things I say.

The best man needs to not get into arguments with the family. I can understand if he doesn't want to do the bachelor party, but he needs to not try to pull you into the mess, since you have enough of your own stuff to worry about. At least you have a backup plan for if he decides not to show, but it would be easier, and probably better, if he was there.

Your sister needs to take a step back and look at the big picture. Of course you are going to get a lot of attention here, because this is YOUR wedding. She needs to realize that not everything is about her. When it's time for her wedding, then she can be the center of attention, but right now it's your turn. She also needs to not bother you so much with her problems and try to figure them out for herself.

The bridesmaid needs to either attend the commitment she makes, or not make it at all. I can understand if things come up suddenly and you have to miss, but at least make sure someone knows, otherwise you start to look like a flake, and people will start wondering if something happened to you, which nobody wants.

The DJ needs to call you back, so that things can be organized.

Your mother needs to take the lecturing to the people that are screwing up, not taking it to you. You are doing nothing wrong to warrant any lectures about behavior.

Have fun on your trip. :monster:
 
well damn it is about time you guys got stuff together. :monster:

i can't really offer anything or tell you to take it more casually... It's just one of those things you can't help but try hard to make it come out nice. Just keep on keepin' on, keep your head in check and don't lose your cool :wacky:

also

if you have to scream, when i was a kid my psychiatrist used to tell me to scream into a pillow :monster:
 
Congrats, I really hope everything works out for you :) I'm really sorry you're having to deal with all this drama though :sad3: I don't think it's unusual to have this kind of stuff happen when planning a wedding though, and none of it is your fault at all. When we were planning mine, we didn't really have family drama, but everything else was a pain. I had to babysit the professional coordinator constantly to make sure she was taking care of things on time because she NEVER called me, i always had to call her. Everyone took forever to confirm their RSVPs, so we ended up with about ten extra serving worth of food because some people never gave us an answer but we wanted to be sure there was enough. My best friend and bridesmaid told me she was getting her dress and then didn't do it until the very last minute. And we couldn't find a cheap enough professional photographer so we didn't get very many good clear pictures, because one of the people who took the most pics forgot to turn the resolution all the way up on her camera :ffs: And don't even get me started on tracking down the fabric for the dress :brooding: I have never had so much difficulty buying a product in my entire life. Ordering samples from all over the country, having no luck, then going to five or six craft stores, finding something perfect in not enough length, then using the item number to go on a frigging 2 month long wild goose chase on the phone, I even called Joann Fabrics in places like South Dakota and Alaska to see if they had it and could ship it to me. And then when I finally gave up and chose a different one that turned out being better, that one had exactly the same problems being tracked down, and people lied about having it in the store and I did hours of extra driving for no reason :ffs: So yeah there is always some sort of stress that happens with planning a wedding, I think. But just hang in there, it sounds like you're doing as much as you can, and this day is about you and your husband, and once the day actually comes then hopefully the stress will go away and everything will work out alright :)
 
It already happened and she's having a great time on her honeymoon. The problem is that people tend not to look past these kinds of things and get caught up in the moment. Unfortunately, that might ruin a special day or set two people at odds with each other. But in the end, it--usually--tends to work itself out (not always the case). Anyhow, I think it would be interesting to hear her take on the whole blah blah drama wah boo hoo issue that's over and done with. :3
 
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