What do you look for in a guy/girl?

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Everyone has a few anchors they look for in potential dates: be it facial/physical features, personality traits, or even brain power. What are yours? Do you often imagine yourself in relationships with close friends who share these traits?
Simplified: What makes you :fan: instead of :tooweird:?

Perhaps this won't get many replies as I see quite a few committed people around the forums. ;o
 
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A guy who doesnt flirt with other women in front of me. That pecks my head. I either get the quiet shy guy or the popular ladies man. I cant win no matter what. Someone who doesnt spend his whole time going on about himself, askes how Iam and my family. A guy who knows what I like and surprises me.
 
When I could look for women, I always looked for appearance first. I don't mean that she has to be smoking hot! I just mean she has to hold a clean, healthy look. Then I would try to get to know them and see if they are into my kinda things. I will not spend my time with a woman that does nothing but nag or want my money. I want a woman that needs me to make them feel safe and would like me around a lot. Be careful and don't get this confused with woman that are needy. But yeah, That is really all I look for into a woman. And in case the wife reads this...that is why I love her! Good luck on anyone that is soul mate searching! Sometimes the best thing is right in front of you and you will never know till you ask!
 
Hmm yet again I swear this was a topic on this already, but it must have gotten archived.

Anyway appearance wise:

I generally look for a guy that is a lot taller than me and has tattoos, but not too many.

Not a fan of piercings. They're just icky on guys in my opinion.

I like them to be pretty buff and rugged looking men. I just like the tough looking ones. >.<

Personality wise:

I need them to be affectionate and caring. I look for a good sense of humour and someone who doesn't swear a lot if at all.

They must be committed and not be flirting with other girls in front of me like SS said before.

He needs to be motivated and excited to do things with me more than his friends.

I'm lucky I found all those things in Steve. =D
 
Appearance-wise isn't really that big of an issue with me. She has to be, without sounding shallow, SOMEWHAT attractive, but I'm not looking for a swedish model.

Personality-wise, I want someone who is sarcastic, snarky, and realizes that drama is something to attempt to stay away from, even if she isn't able to. I don't want some over-the-top drama queen that takes everything seriously. I want someone as laid back as I am, if not more. Overall, someone with a very similar personality as mine, except of the opposite sex.

Not like I need to worry about these things at this age, but those gosh-darn hormones force me to.
 
Um, I look for good personality. Someone who is easy to talk to and doesn't mind opening up. Someone who isn't violent. I guess I'm really picky. It's a large list.

It can't be a sleazy guy. Or a liar or someone who plays games on you. Its REALLY hard to explain >.<

Sorry ^^;;; Guess I can't exactly explain but, you'll get the picture... I hope!
 
Appearance-wise, she has to have a sense of style, more specifically a alternative/rock kinda style.

Personality-wise, I love deadpan snarkers. Someone who isn't afraid to speak there mind. Someone who won't take no shit from nobody. That's hot. However I don't want someone I have to babysit and I don't need a fucking princess. I want someone who I will fight with, not for. WHERE are all the snarky, strong, independent women?

Interest-wise, she MUST NOT like anything about that crappy "twilight saga" and she MUST like Your Favorite Enemies, the most awesomest band in the world. She doesn't have to like all the other things I like but she has to at least put up with them.
 
She has to be intelligent,strong, morally sound, and not materialistic and look passed simple things and see whats important. Having all of these qualities is pretty rare. I was lucky to find my girlfriend.
 
For a guy: I look for decency, honesty, trust, humor, loyalty, chivalry and acting like a gentleman. Also he has to be at least a LITTLE bit romantic :)
 
Definetly some good brains, I prefer girls which can actually have an interesting conversation above girls who just look pretty. Furthermore, some similar interests (lifestyle, culture) and personality would be nice to. Oh, and beautiful eyes, the rest doesn't matter that much. (Although good looks are always a nice extra of course :) )
 
I don't really look for anything really in that I never actively pursue a girl (which is probably where I am going wrong).

I don't like setting traits out as then it'll just create expectations which any real person cannot match 100% unless you are really lucky. However I would like someone who is understanding of me and other people and that people are different etc, honest, friendly, a certain level of open mindedness, loyalty (a must).

It'd also be good to be interested in the world, the cultures in it, maybe a bit of history, but at least a love of other places and wouldn't mind coming with me travelling and seeing the world if it ever happens that it is possible to do so.

An interest in animals would be amazing too, but not essentially by any means. I've always loved animals of all kinds (which my OCD "must-be-clean!" attitude might have hidden in the past, but I'm coming out the cleanliness side of OCD in many respects now). I like to go to see them in the wild, and also in reserves and zoo's etc. I love going to Natural History museums and also to watch documentaries on them. So yeah, I'm interested in animals. Dinosaurs and extinct creatures too.

Liking similar music would be good, but to be honest if I was to judge someone on this I'd be narrowing my chances down to impossible. Besides, musical tastes can change over time and I can train her! :woot: But nah, seriously, it isn't much of an issue, but it would be good if we shared similar interests.

Like I said, I don't really follow these at all. Instead I'm in the frame of mind of just sitting here and hoping a girl falls from heaven onto my lap and that I'd immediately fall for her, and her for me, and we'll love each other passionately to the end of our lives and have the happiest existance in the world ever....

...But that's not likely to happen, and I don't "girl-hunt" or go on the pull as such, so I don't actually look for anything in a girl, but wait for it to "happen" sort of thing, which it has yet to happen and I'm not sure it is likely to any time soon.







EDIT: Goddamnit. For someone with next to nothing to say on this subject, I appear to have made the longest post so far. :sad2:
/me apologises.
 
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Now this is an intriguing question with many answers. I guess I'll stick with the basics for what I look for.

She has to have a good personality. I like a girl who's nice; basically one that doesn't want to pick random fights over small, meaningless things. But at the same time, I wouldn't want a girl to be too nice, where she essentially won't defend herself. I prefer for a girl to have common sense as opposed to raw intellect. Basically, I would never expect a girl to have a high education, so long as she has common sense, that's all I expect.

As far as looks go, I'm a little pickier. I suppose it's hard to fully describe the kind of girl I like. I wouldn't want a girl to have odd piercings. I can deal with something like a nose ring or a bellybutton ring, but more than that gets a little bit freaky. I'm not at all a fan of tattoo's. A small one in a not so obvious place is fine, but ginormous arm tattoo's or neck tattoo's or even tramp stamps, I'm not at all a fan of. Height doesn't matter, so long as she isn't taller than me (a girl taller than 6'2" is somewhat scary). For weight, I prefer a medium build, nothing too large, nothing too skinny. I really can't use numbers as a reference, but a medium build nonetheless. I love to see a pretty face, more so than a hot body. I love nice hair as well, but mainly hair that isn't really short, like mine. I know I've mentioned my glasses fetish. I would never hold that against a girl though if she didn't have them.

Yeah, so I suppose I'm flexible, yet picky at the same time. It's hard to really describe the kind of girl I really like, but I know, and that's all that matters. :ryan:
 
Someone who can make me laugh. If you can make me laugh, then we could already get along great. I would like someone who can handle my weirdness, and who are a little bit on the quirky side themselves. It'd also be nice if I could talk to them about anything, not just the fun stuff. Because if you have that, it's more than just love, it's friendship too, which I think is important.

Plus a great smile would be awesome too!
 
Amanda has the right idea. I would love a guy to be able to make me laugh- or at least smile. I really don't like these awkward silences. Someone with a sense of humour is most definitely my type.

I don't want someone two-faced, who consistently lies and flirts behind my back. I've experienced the pain of something like that before and and in way, shape or form do I want that to happen again.

I am NOT a tattoo or piercing fan. I want someone who I deem looks rather acceptable. They have to be clean and tidy as well. They have to be always hardworking and not be continuously slacking.

I guess what's also important is someone who doesn't become easily angered. I've experienced traumatic experiences this time as a small child with family members with vicious tempers.
 
I just want someone who is almost exactly like me....The same level of Zaniness, the same tastes in music, Waaaaaaaaaay openminded ane loves a good luagh.....yea.....I think thats enough for me....I kinda like more of the tomboyish types....A pal to hang out with and a luva Rawrs! XD
 
What do you look for in a partner?

so what is it that you like on a guy/girl? do you have a MUST for who you will date? What is your preffered personality?

I'll go first.

Someone i date ABSOLUTELY MUST have a good neck. The neck is my obsession/fettish. The face doesnt have to be GORGEOUS but just nice to look at, NOT a butterface...For the body type im not too picky, they just need to not be fat, large is ok if i like the personality enough. as long as its not fat tbh, i can be shallow somtimes. I have no prefferance for the (shall we say rear end?) area. It never appealed too much to me...

She needs to be very unique, having few normal aspects to her. If she is unorigonal then i wont want to stay with her. I know everyone is origonal, but i think i made my point clear. She needs to be open to me so we can talk about things. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but what makes on worth having is making it through the bad times. This cannot be done if she chooses not to be open. She also must be prepaired at all times for me to be emotional, because im haunted by certain fears that should not remain in my mind but I cannot help it easily. Another thing is, she must have a touch of evil. I cant resist a touch of insanity.

And the rest of my standards involve my sex life, so ill keep it age appropriate...
 
Threads like this are good for the venting. It means I can put my thoughts out there somewhere knowing they exist physically.

Speaking of physical, I would like to know a girl who is good looking yet I pride myself on looking for the right personality. However those who have have often gone for the better looking boys or the older boys themselves.

They have to be a simillar age to myself. I have an odd thing about age, mainly because how one year seems to have made a difference with the way people judge me or how I am treated by those within that one year boundry comapred to others. I'd also like someone who I could really...just talk to. I don't even get that with mates.

I'd say more but I've discovered that it's not as easy to pin down or talk about as I thought it would be...


EDIT: Someone who can actually enjoy my entertaining. I feel like I waste my life trying to get my friend or others to kind of just loosen up. Life's a buddy movie and you can make it like that if you let it happen. You can have a laugh, you can turn the days into something to pass the time by, to entertain and become the comedy sidekick. But the comedy sidekick doesn't get the girl. Ever. And often others would rather I was just kept the quiet one while they kept to their simplistic and bland conversations or talks of other days.

I'm a jester but of course this makes me a fool.

Wow, I think I nailed one of my major ranty things.
 
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And to add, I'll say mostly quiter girls. Ones that are not exactly in the lime light, or in those little clicks. I have known to fallen for girls that have the blue'r eyes, but seriously it doesn't matter. The personality has to be a bit laid back.. so many damn girls loved to holler at me =P. I might be a tad bit of a stubborn mule, but look towards my other qualities !
 
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Appearance
I'm not the shallow type, but I would expect any girl I date to be clean and tidy, or at least have SOME standards. If being fat is just what some are, I can accept that. But if they let themselves go just because they find someone, I wouldn't accept that. I don't expect a lady to look like a model, but at least trying to look good every now and then wouldn't hurt.

Also, I wouldn't want one with tattoos all over her. Sure, some people are turned on by that. I'm just not that guy. Same thing for piercings.

Personality
Someone with trust is a plus. I'm tired of girls not trusting me every time I even approach them. Gosh, the least I would want is a friendship.

I'm kind of a clumsy fellow, so I hope whoever I go out with can put up with that. Sometimes people get mad over accidents, but that's what they are: accidents.

Someone of the same religion. Yeah, I know. I'm better off that way. If I dated a non-Catholic, I have to make sure she at least puts up with it and raise the kids Catholic if we ever got married. I'm just better off with someone with the same religion, or at least someone who wouldn't mind putting up with it.

She should be nice. Very nice. But strong enough that she's able to stand up even to me, so I'd have nothing to worry about whenever she goes out shopping. I guess I'm just adding what I would expect of my soulmate instead of just any girl. :)

So I guess that's it for me.
 
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They must be committed and not be flirting with other girls in front of me like SS
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I wonder why people have said it like this. Honestly, why wouldnt you want them to NOT flirt behind your back or at all truthfully. Ideally that should be the case, but so many people do this crap now it's ridiculous. I can hardly tell sometimes who is dating who because of so much flirting go on.

Now, to get to my feelings on the subject.

Looks wise, they just have to be attractive to me. Someone may be attractive to one person, but unnattractive to another. Truthfully, I cant really say I have a type because appearance isnt the only thing that matters, but the girls I tend to be attracted to are pale and have darker hair. Though the most recent one I was with (who I cared for alot), had a little darker skin than usual.

Of the three women Ive dated, two of them were smaller, and one was medium-ish. One was really skinny and I dont find that too attractive. One was not real skinny and it worked for her since she was a smaller person and she looked very good. The first girl I was with, had some weight too her, which I liked as well since I dont like real real skinny.

But, the only reason why I think heavy is bad is because to me, that shows you either dont put enough effort into your own appearance or are unhealthy, which both show no confidence in my eyes. It's not the case all the time, but alot of the time it can be. People should have dignity and show themselves they are important to themself.

Personality wise, I like someone who is a little on the crazy side lol. Someone who likes to have fun and jokes around, but is sweet and nice at the same time. I think that personality compliments mine. Im more reserved and not as outgoing, so if someone is a little more outgoing than myself, then it makes me act a little more like that and in reverse. So I think it's a good combination. Though I dont mind if the girl is introverted either. I like that as well.

Loyalty and commitment are a must. When I'm in a relationship, I don't hug other girls, flirt with other girls, and truthfully, if a girl who I was friends with asked me to hang out or something when I was dating someone, I wouldn't do so since I don't think it would be right one on one. And I expect the same in return. Pretty much, I give unwavering loyalty, and if after a little while, I dont get it back, then things probably arent going to work out.

I prefer someone who doesnt drink or smoke/do drugs. Im also not into the party mentality and the lifestyle that goes along with it.

Pretty much, if you are nice and we dont even have to have all things in common. I think it's good to grow together and experience hardships and good times together to grow together as a couple. Working together and helping each other out, even if it's not convenient for one of the two at all times. If you dont have everything in common then you can try to develop new interests and have fun together, and if you do have the same interests then thats just as well.
 
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