Are you socially awkward?

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Kandy-Sugar said:
I used to be very anti-social. During my school years I was always classed as one of the rejects and no matter what I would say I would get people's snide comments thrown my way.

I was never good with anyone but my close group of friends and I was extremely shy.

I hated having to do Oral exams in class for English or whatever it may be. I always got the shakes and felt sick to my stomach because I knew what people thought of me.

It wasn't until I left high school and got a proper job that I gained more confidence in myself and didn't feel as shy anymore.

People who never spoke to me in high school or disliked me in general (for no good reason) even started to speak to me.

Though I didn't really care for them after how they treated me. I don't give people like that second chances.
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Oral exams? Ugh those were the worst. Especially when people didn't take me seriously. It's bad enough I had to go up there in the first place.
 
I was socially awkward from the start of middle school throughout high school. Not sure why. I left elementary school, and I suddenly found myself unable to communicate without feeling extremely nervous.

About three years ago, it went away. Just like that. I literally woke up one day, and stopped feeling awkward when I was dealing with other people. If I slowly transitioned to that state, then I did so without noticing.

So no, I'm not socially awkward (though I'm prone to awkward situations). I can carry on a conversation well. If I liked people more, I bet'cha I'd be a social butterfly.
 
Yes, Very much so. Its hard for me to be social, or talk to people for two reasons I'm a really shy person and I am very bipolar, I'm a really irritated person, so yeah I am socially awkward. :wtf:
 
I guess I'm fairly average.

... In the sense, I feel that the person feels more awkward than I do. Not that I don't feel any awkwardness, or whatsoever, but it would always seem to me the person with me feels that way.

At least, to people I'm knowing. (Not though I have known) People I have known probably see a brighter side to me, whom can joke, laugh, and be sarcastic openly.

So, if I look it at it in general, I suppose I'm not exactly socially awkward that much. (Which is good to know)
 
I used to be a very shy and awkward kid. I had trouble making friends, talking to girls, and simply keeping a conversation going.

At some point though, I changed drastically. Now I'm a sarcastic and overconfident prick. I just realized one day that I'm better than most of the assholes out there in the world, so the awkwardness vanished! Poof! ^^

Although even with the social awkwardness gone, at the end of the day I prefer being alone. Hey, maybe that will go poof! one day too. xD
 
Honestly, I've been doing so good with my socially awkward state lately. I mean, I'm not that great at avoiding any awkwardness, but I have improved. I guess it starts off slowly. Hopefully, I'll be fairly comfortable with not only myself, but myself around others as well. Being socially awkward is a pain in the ass, needless to say.
 
Blue Wolf said:
I get really nervous around complete strangers...around anybody I don't know anything about, I am socially awkward, and that is a huge problem for me, because it is very extreme, I can't even think of anything to say, my mind just draws blanks.

I am almost age 20, will be in little more than a month, and I still haven't gotten a job, because I've never been ready to work surrounded by people I don't know anything about, and dealing with customers, more people I know nothing about, if they are just good people, or have done some very bad things in the past...

What I think my problem is, is mainly fear. When I see people I've never met before, I fear they may be a nasty person, but I know there is a lot of good people out there too, I just don't know which ones. :ness:
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I feel the same way as well, I am twenty one and I have no friends outside the internet and almost no life outside the internet. The world is a very big place and it is easy to get 'lost' so to speak. I will say hi to people and make some small talk but I hate when people mostly my parents mock my habits or anything just o annoy me. I just won't deal with that meanwhile looking at my habits to see can be changed.

Shuya said:
I'm not socially awkward at all and people who are just make everyone else feel uncomfortable, I feel.

If you're with people you don't know, theres no need to be your socially awkward self. If they don't know you, you can act how you want. So act confident!

REALLY socially awkward people just make me want to cry. I can't handle people who don't talk/reply with 'hm's or other monosyllabic words.

D:
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That would be as well as I most of time have a hard time speaking clearly and it may sound like I am saying anything at all or am not forceful enough.

Flagg said:
People being people? Well that seems a very broad term. Do you think everyone is the same? I don't smile at people because they might think bad things about me. I smile at people cause that's how I roll. So a few people made fun of you. People will make fun of people all the time, it's how comedians make their money. And so what if someone is negative about you, the problem lies with them, not you, so I wouldn't bother giving said persons the time of day.

And it is so, so easy to just get out there. You are the one making it so so hard, nobody else. The internet in many ways is a terrible place, because it makes the world smaller. Where's the fun in sending someone a letter when you can email someone on the other side of the world within a second. Chatrooms, forums and the like are not good for people with lacking social skills. It will just make people more insecure about themselves.

Hey im not bagging you out but sugar coating something like this is very counter productive. You have obviously had issues in the past which has made you the way you are and highly sensitive, but the world is not black and white. I do think joining a sports team or a group society thing is the way to go but hey, im not you.
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Alrighty but it will long time and I will not make progress in one day however I will go out more.
 
Am kind of far from being awkward - I'll talk to anyone - find something easy in common and talk about :) or something we dont agree on and discuss why etc..

I am apparently really easy to get on with :)

When am around there is no need to feel awkward as i won't leave someone out of the convosation :)
 
Yes, when I was younger (still kinda am now) I have always been shy. Just until recently, I have always kind of hid in a shell if you will. Growing up I was always teased laughed at picked on and the kids would mock me... (personal reasons) but I always felt left out and I was always the "outcast" I had a few friends but because of all that teasing mocking etc it got to me and I think thats why I was always away and doing my own thing. And yes on the internet it is a lot easier for me to socialize an' whatnot but it's not that easy in RL. Now that i've grown up though, I learned that I shouldnt let the past get to me so i'm getting better about making/talking/meeting new people n all that jazz ^^
 
Im odd. One moment I can be a loner and not mind being alone with people. The next I need conversation and someone to interact with or I get mega upset. Its bizzare. Sometimes I say odd things at work and home and people look at me as if Ive gone mad. Im the black sheep of the family and my workplace, its uspetting. On the Internet I find those who accept my odd behaviour and dont think anything of it.
 
i've always been a distant guy, yet despite that i have friends. a best friend? who knows, probably not with the way i am. but i do care for my friends and when they need help i try to be there for support. i'm a bit of a loner and don't like large crowds, i'd rather spend time with a small gathering of people or by myself doing what i like to do. i suppose compared to society's view of how we should act, i am socially awkward :)
 
.. ehehehehe.. socially awkward? Oh yes. Extremely, although it may not seem like it.

It seems like most people are okay online, and I am too. It's different. There's no confrontation that actually is right in front of you. You're not worrying about what you look like or sound like. I'm rather upbeat and happy sounding online, and I'm that way in real life too.. depending on who you are. I'm fine with certain members of my family, and some of my friends. I appear to be fine with the rest of my family and with the rest of my friends. I'm happy, I'm nice, I'm bubbly. I'm completely and utterly fucking fake.

People ask what's wrong, and I say I'm fine. When I'm breaking apart and want to slide to the floor and cry, I'm "fine." Fine is my favorite word to describe myself. Even when I'm not, I'm just "fine."

The judging you thing someone mentioned? I feel that. I have very near to zero self confidence, it's hard to accept nice things and think they're not just saying them to be.. nice. I'm constantly wondering what people REALLY think about me and if it's bad. I assume it is, but maybe it's not. Maybe it is. I'm still in high school, and it's a really small high school. 96 people. That's four classes, average of 24 or so people per class. I worry about what each one of them thinks. I can name them all, and I worry. A lot. "Oh there's Sara... is she looking at me like that? =/" It's like that with everyone, even my "friends."

I'm considered a smart kid here, so I wonder how many people are nice to me just to copy my homework or something. I wonder how many of them think they know me.

Anyways.. yeah. I never know what to say, and I'm quiet more often than not because I worry about what people are going to think when I'm loud. When I am loud, I'm constantly worrying about opinions. I'm not just awkward with what I say, but what I do, what I wear, how I feel, everything. That, however, would be better said another time or in another thread. I think I've answered the question well enough ;3
 
I'm very quiet IRL but very talkative online. Its kind of strange if you think about it. But I do have friends though, in school I'm just the person that sits at the back of the class working... not really bothering to talk to people.


/weird
 
Bethany said:
I'm very quiet IRL but very talkative online. Its kind of strange if you think about it. But I do have friends though, in school I'm just the person that sits at the back of the class working... not really bothering to talk to people.


/weird
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To be honest that's not uncommon. I sort of kind of was the same way to an extent. Even when playing Counter-Strike or games and such with friends in Highschool, I would be very talkative over voice chat, but in real life they would always try to get me to talk as if I were playing.

I just had rather strong social anxiety though. Talking online is a bit different than talking in person. For one I hated when people looked dead into my eyes, hince why I looked like a meager little kid who always looked away from you when talking. I still feel pretty uncomfortable when people look into my eyes, especially women.

I am the most down to earth person you will ever meet online or in person though, I even give big ole hugs.. now a days.. but back then it was a entirely different animal. You would have to twist my arm to get me to talk..
 
I'm pretty distant. I can't really help it. At a young age I was just taught not to get involved with other people. Eventually it became a part of me to the point where I hardly talk with my own parents. I'm slowly getting out of it though. However, whenever I try to get into an actually conversation I'll accidentally say something flat out rude. :rage:

It's a tough habit to kick, but I believe anyone could do it if they put their mind to it. Remember folks, mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

Delusion helps too... -__-
 
Nope.

I've never been awkward.

Everyone else who's got their heads shoved up their own ass trying to find out what kind of interior decorating they can do down there have been the awkward ones. o_O

At least, that's my take. But I think that a lot of people do find me awkward. Not that I really care, but it's a pretty obvious observation taken from body language that I've observed over a lengthly amount of time.
 
You could say that I guess.
I was really shy and quiet when I was younger, never an unpopular person, but quiet nonetheless, but in the last 3 years, I came out of my shell for a while, having a laugh all that. But for the last 6 months, I've been stuck in some rut, where I can't speak as much. Nothing to do with a depression, but I feel I've got nothing to talk about and I feel awkward when people look to me to talk.
 
Basically, yes.

I have anxiety, and while it's not necessarily social anxiety, it keeps me from just walking up to a person and saying hello. I'm always so afraid of sounding like a total moron, so most of the time I'll just keep my mouth shut. I really don't like when in real life you talk to someone, but if they have nothing to say they won't respond. It's like that air of awkwardness afterwards, and I think that's why I keep myself from being social. I tend to distance myself, whether that be good or bad.

Shu said:
Even when I wanted to strike up a conversation, I had anxiety creep over me and muddle my words up in my head. It's funny.. I could say a memorized speech perfectly (speech class) but when I wanted to say what I wanted to, to a few friends of mine, well I basically mumbled and couldn't make sense of it.
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That's the thing, I can say a speech in class without fault. My hands may shake a bit, but I suck it up because I know I have to do it. With friends, you aren't necessarily required to speak. If I had a choice on whether or not to speak, I would choose not to.

I usually always mess up what I am trying to say, so people sometimes don't even understand what I'm trying to get across. Whenever I do have a conversation, I try to make it as short and to the point as it can be.

I don't like talking much, and when I was in middle school I was "the quiet one" (apparently, this makes you "emo"). High school, you just get ignored. I liked that :awesome:

I'd have to say that online I'm quite different. Make a mistake, and you can just hit the backspace button and revise what you were trying to say. I do have trouble finally hitting the enter button, because again, I don't want to displease anyone. I guess that's just how I am.

I think this is why I'm so awkward in public, because of the OCD and anxiety... and maybe a bit of "if I do this then so-and-so will be pissed". I do a lot of thinking before I do things now.

Most people would say that I was "born an old woman" because I never acted my age. That made things awkward when talking to people that were actually my age. That being said, I usually dress awkwardly- in things that no teenager would normally wear (no, not the cat sweater... <_< >_>).
 
reading all of your entries, makes me want to hug the lot of you :)

it seems a lot people will have inner fears about rejection if you look into them closely enough...or maybe it's just us RPG fans :>
 
Lol most people do have inner fears of rejection. We were raised on other people's stories and most of us don't ever put ourselves out there. It's good to talk to a couple of strangers a day. What have you got to lose?

:D

I used to be afraid of people. I eventually realized that was stupid and began to talk to people and make more friends. Turns out I must be a pretty like-able guy! :wacky:
 
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