Serious Changing your attitudes and beliefs...

[Demon]

I'm kind of just doing one of these threads for the hell of it, but I have something useful to say:

So I will get off meeting people. Sometimes those people will like me, and we might become friends. But then these friends generally expect me to act the same way as I did when I met them, because that's the side of me they like. So if they ever see me acting any differently, then I'll be hassled over it. It's kind of like they stop trusting you if you don't remain stagnant. Perhaps any sign of a person acting different gives off signals that they're untrustworthy or keeping something from you.

 

[Tmoo]

those kinds of people aren't really your friends then mate. real friendship isn't made in a day - you always start out as acquaintances. that's what i believe at any rate.

 

[Morrigan]

I'm kind of just doing one of these threads for the hell of it, but I have something useful to say:

So I will get off meeting people. Sometimes those people will like me, and we might become friends. But then these friends generally expect me to act the same way as I did when I met them, because that's the side of me they like. So if they ever see me acting any differently, then I'll be hassled over it. It's kind of like they stop trusting you if you don't remain stagnant. Perhaps any sign of a person acting different gives off signals that they're untrustworthy or keeping something from you.

Yeah,I kinda relate to you in that.I feel like I have to suppress myself in order to keep people.I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything,but I feel like I have to get on their level and that makes me so tiring because some people can't just appreciate the differnces and variety in personality that I always end up pushing myself back to keep them happy and satisfied.

I'll tell you something,those who will want to know the real you will try to explore you.They won't be happy with just a superficial relationship.

 

[Big Casino]

those kinds of people aren't really your friends then mate. real friendship isn't made in a day - you always start out as acquaintances. that's what i believe at any rate.

This pretty much sums up what i thought when i read the first post.

When im around new people i dont really act any different. If im out with my pals and we run into new people then im just the same always. Im not gunna act differently to try and impress them or make them like me because honestly i dont care what they think of me if im just being myself, cuz thats who i am. Ive been this person too long to change, i wouldnt know how to change if im being honest.

Your friends will accept you for who you are. Granted if your a bit of an arsehole theyl probadly tell you but thats much better than them pretending to be your mate while secretly they want to avoid you.
People moods change from time to time and thats gunna reflect on your attitude and actions on certain days. I fully understand that people can get grumpy and angry so im not gunna hold that against my friend as i know we all get like that at times and if it were me in their shoes theyd think the same thing.

 

[Gaige]

I think that people evolving and develoing different sides is key to growthas a person. I don't think you can stay the same way all the time. You need to adapt to certain situations. It's something you need to do in order to mature as a person. Otherwise, you're stuck in a rut. If these people, acquaintances, friends or otherwise, can't accept that, they really aren't people you wanna know. You have a right to grow and develop in your way, Others shouldn't be allowed to dictate who you are. You can onl change yourself. You can't change others.

 

[Demon]

I guess that, in an essence, my ability to judge them (whether I use it or not) means they have the ability to judge me.

Generally I find that most people I meet don't evolve or develop their character, however.

 

[Pandora]

I never change for anyone different than me. Not even for my relatives (and quite frankly a few of them do not like that.). I meet a whole bunch of people throughout my life and when I make a new friend, I don't want them to change for me. I want them to be themselves and share some things different about them that may impress me. Chances are if a friend of yours is trying to make you something you're not, they're not going to be a reliable friend. There are plenty of kids at school that note me as an outcast, and I really couldn't give a fuck. I should be speaking for everyone when I say that if someone doesn't like my personality, that's their problem - not mine.
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[Bei Bei]

I'm generally a shy person when I meet someone. Sure once I get more comfortable and open up more people get to see my personality and how I really am. I'd rather be more comfortable before people know more about me. I won't act a certain way for anyone though, that's just not who I am. Sure I might do things for a friend if I know they are a really great friend to me, but I won't go against my beliefs for anyone. And any friend who would expect me to I don't consider them a real friend.

I have lost friends because after a while I noticed a big change in who they are. I'm friends with them for a reason, and when they totally change who they are, well then that's not the person I originally became friends with. Now it doesn't mean that we probably could never be friends, because even I know that people do change whether we like it or not. It's more like they're not going to be the friend that I originally thought and knew.