Crying in front of others

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Are you able to cry in front of others?

One thing I have trouble with is crying in front of other people. If I am very upset, or sad, or watching a sad movie, I will do my best to hold back tears. And if I can absolutely not do so, I will try to look away from others so they don't see me cry. I don't even like crying in front of close friends or family members.

I never understood why I hate crying in front of people. Generally, it is more socially acceptable for a girl to cry in public. And I have had friends that do it.
 
I can't cry in front of other people. I don't really cry as a rule but I would try especially hard not to get too emotional in front of other people, even my family. Showing my emotions, particularly tears and the like, in front of others has never been something I've been comfortable with. I doubt I ever will be.
 
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Do it all the time.

I've been a particularly emotional person all my life, and cried over the smallest things in school... a lot. Even now actually I'm still a very emotional person, and cried the other day at work when my boss yelled at me when I was just asking some simple questions. Of course I went outside and bawled my eyes out, but yeah... it doesn't take much for me to just burst. And I'm not particularly bothered by crying in front of people either.
 
Not unless it is under extreme circumstances, like I found out someone I know is dead or is dying and will be dead. The last time I bawled in front of someone was earlier this year when I was saying goodbye to our dog in January before the vet came to put her to sleep. I was with my mom and we were just petting her and then I decided I needed to leave cause I couldn't stay and watch.

Other than that, I can't really think of any other time I've cried in front of someone. I did have my ex over once when I was going through a very stressful moment in my life, not knowing where I was going to live or if I'd ever be able to get a job, etc. I went into my room first and laid down on the bed. I didn't want to cry in front of him and I was merely leaking tears, not necessarily bawling...just pissed off, I guess and I lost it.
 
A combination of me being a guy's guy and a person who doesn't express emotion much, means that I don't really cry much in general. But when it comes to the woman I love, I am completely vulnerable to crying. And when I do, I'm not afraid to. I won't make an attempt to hide it or fight back the tears.

I'm assuming it'll happen again soon. It's just hard to deal with situations sometimes, especially when emotions are powerful. :(
 
No, not if I can help it. I'm the kind of person who doesn't express emotions that much. Especially in front of others. And to think I'm a girl. It's just that, I think other would pity if I show them I'm emotional. I feel like it makes me inferior. Yes, I know this isn't true but, for years I've learned how to be callous. I'm weird I know. :shame:
 
I don't cry very often.
If I did cry, I would feel like it would be for something important, like a death of someone close, and in that case, I wouldn't mind shedding some tears in front of people.
 
I have done it a couple of times, but I try not to. It's hard for me, though, because of having to listen to and hear all of the drama from everyone during school, I guess it made me a little......what's the word I'm looking for :hmmm:......soft?
 
Only obnoxious people cry in front of others freely without an extreme reason why they should. That's just how I feel, because it makes others around you uncomfortable, sending out distress signals to everybody. The public is not built for that kind of stuff.
 
If someone is able to make me cry in front of them, they are either someone I have an invaluable (or special) relationship with... or someone is about to get hit/something is about to get broken. Or at least, the atmosphere is about to become unsettling.

For me, to cry is to admit loss and lose control. It's the only shameful thing there is to me.

There are exceptions, but very few.
 
I do try to hold it back which I can do if it's summat trivial and just me big a big girls blouse, I will just bawl away. Hate crying infront of my mother though, I try so hard not to, it gives me a headache

If I'm actually distressed enough to cry in public, well, summats CLEARLY up and people can just look away if they don't like it
 
I'm one of those people who doesn't cry at all really.

I think I may have cried twice in the last ten years. It's just not who I am and I've not been comfortable with it when I have cried in the past.

I hate crying, whether it's in front of people or not.

I think it just makes me feel weak and I hate people feeling sorry for me. =/

You can guarantee that when I do cry, that something is really up though. >.<
 
I have no trouble crying in front of others. Mostly because I have done it a couple of times. Not purposely I just happened to be in public. I mean really what are they going to do, make fun of me? Most likely if that happened someone would come along and clock them one or tell them off. Most people just walk around and try to ignore it. Some try to comfort.

I'm all about expressing myself and I've seen people cry in public and it's nothing to get embarrassed about
 
When someone died I don't care if I cry in front of somebody,
but I hate it with other things, since I am getting emotional pretty fast. I can cry easily with sad moments in movies, or when people start to cry in documentaries.
But also when someone criticizes me I already have trouble to hold back tears because it somehow 'hurts' , I always try to hide my tears by getting angry.
 
It depends on the people... but overall, I prefer not to cry in front of people. If it's someone I really know well, that's a bit different, but even then... eh. If I'm going to cry (I don't mind crying itself, but I hate the awkwardness you feel when trying to comfort someone and you don't know what to do.) I'd rather do it alone.

I can count the times I've cried in front of people on one hand.
1) when a bunch of family issues hit me really hard all at once, I cried in front of my best friend
2) around June-ish at the end of the school year when I thought I was going to fail after staying up all night catching up on homework (that... was in front of my grandparents, and I was still sniffling/wiping my eyes at school.. not my best moments.)
3) after I failed a final exam, I had to go sit in a quiet room and calm down after I went into the school office crying

That's all I can remember, in 18 years. :wacky: Other than eyes watering from getting hit in the nose.. but I'm not counting that. :mokken:
 
Meh.

I'm a caring person, and I've accepted that a long time ago. I could try and tell myself I hate crying in front of others, but when I feel the need to cry, I'm not going to act like I'm so strong. I rather give in to feeling how I feel, and let that moment take it.

For a long while, I used to be the person in our family, holding tears back most, even through rough times, and trying to get everyone through it.

I don't cry often though, unless it's something about people I care deeply for, and if that's the case I really don't give a shit if I'm supposed to act strong or not, it's people close to my heart, geez.

I'm more likely to tell myself to get a grip over trying to hold it back, rather then holding back tears.

I do, however, avoid eye contact when I'm feeling upset, though that has nothing to do with trying to stay strong.
 
No Sir.. I didn't like it.

I'll start off by saying.. Uh Yea... no I don't ever cry in front of folks. I have my reasons, but for the most part I can't feel the tears unless by myself. Even around a woman, it's entirely difficult for me to cry even if I've known the person forever, and/or am with the person.

I must be such an ass in folks eyes though, but seriously, my burden is my own, sure I'd like to lighten the load, but I'll never know how. I just don't have that "right" feeling when around folks. I hate pity. I hate folks expressing fake empathy. I just need to get myself together usually.

Life is better than what most people make of it.. so only a matter of time before I bounce back from whatever.

My silence is worse than tears though.. that's when folks know there is something wrong. But whatever.
 
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I hate pity. I hate folks expressing fake empathy. I just need to get myself together usually.
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This is how I usually feel towards the matter.

When other people cry, most of the time the people around them don't really care, but pretend they do.

I would hate that. I really do not like people taking pity on me either. It's just not my cup of tea.

Some people might think I'm a bit of a bitch perhaps when I don't cry over certain things, but really, you can still feel that same amount of grief without having to show it through tears.

I hated it when something happened at school, like a fight between friends and just because the other friend balled her eyes out, she must of been the one that was emotionally hurt.

The one that wasn't crying must be the bitch.

I just don't care to express that sort of emotion in front of people and I hate the fake attention it brings when people do cry. =/

They pretend to be all caring and what not, but really, they just want a bit of drama.
 
I don't really cry all that much anyway. When I get upset about things I usually get angry which isn't any better really. I usually would want to be on my own anyway so I wouldn't be in a position to cry in front of other people. Plus, I think I bottle emotions and then release them my own way (scream into a pillow etc etc).

I wouldn't be ashamed for feel weak if I did though because:

1) I can't stop my feelings if I find get some terrible news.
2) I don't really cry out loud or scream like you see people do on TV. I'm more of a silent, face in my hands crier. :hmmm:
 
I usually try not to cry if I can help it simply because A) it gives me a huge sinus headache afterward :gonk:, and B) because being a girl, I hate the idea of people thinking "oh I'm just being too girly" or whatnot; I spend a lot of time during the course of each day trying to break down gender stereotypes amongst the people I know, and so I'm often hesitant about doing things that could potentially work against that. It's not that I don't want to be myself, it's just that if I'm already in an upset mood, the last thing I need is to think that the people watching me might be considering me that way, and take me less seriously because I'm doing something that is generally considered to be more "feminine" or a sign of weakness (even though I think that in itself is wrong). Plus, far too often I've found myself crying just to get attention, like if I'm in an argument I'm not winning and someone is yelling at me, I just get to this point where I automatically start crying because I want to end the fight and I know that will work. I hate that I do that (sometimes I have to with certain people or they won't stop), but sometimes I can't help it. But now especially since I found out I might be getting asthma, it's just a really bad idea, both physically and mentally, and it bothers the people I do it in front of and in reality, it doesn't actually make anything better. The only things I can justify crying over are really serious things like people have said, or at fictional movies/games with sad parts that are designed to make you do it, or if I ever have a moment where I just randomly start thinking about how much horrible stuff is going on in the world at any given moment and how much work needs to be done to fix it (I know I'm crazy but I get those every once in a while :/). Then I will cry, because from what I heard somewhere it actually does release some bad chemicals from your body or something :hmmm: But it's unhealthy if you do it too much.
 
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