Excuses Excuses

[Kandy-Sugar]

Are you one of those people who make up excuses to get out of certain things?

I've always been pretty straightforward with people about things when I can't get to a certain place to meet up or attend an event etc.

But some people have the hardest time telling people how it is no matter what. They feel they always have to lie.

They feel they have to lie to get out of things if they don't want to attend, perhaps because they feel they'll hurt people's feelings if they say they just don't want to go.

Now I'm going to be that person today because I have two issues to sort out and they both involve friends.

At lunch we're meant to go to this BBQ that I never said I wanted to attend in the first place but apparently Steve told them that I was coming. Now I have to either say, 'I'd really rather not go.' or make up a likely excuse as to why I can't go.

Usually I have no issues with this sort of thing but I know I'll upset them if I say I just don't want to go. =/

And tonight is sort of the same issue again with some other friends.

Are you always upfront with your reasons as to why you can't be someplace or does it depend on the situation as to whether or not you will make up an excuse or not?

 

[Noize]

I'm usually straight up aswell, I don't really have a reason to lie, i mean they are my friends, and they do mean well, but seriously, they should ask you, instead of dragging you off places you'd rather/rather not be.

If one of my mates comes up and tries dragging me off somewhere, i either tell em straight up "No", or i split up from them early on if we're in town, then head off somewhere on my own.

So i guess to answer the question: it depends on the situation as to my answer/reaction will be.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

With the situation tonight it's a bit hard. >.<

I went out last week with the girls regardless of whether or not this other friend (who I had a falling out with two years ago) was going or not.

But they've just told me today she's definitely going tonight and now I'm all iffy about going along. =/

I want to say, 'I'm not going because I can't stand such and such and would rather spend my night with people I like.'

But at the same time I don't want to sound like a bitch. =/

I could say I have no money but I just told them last week that I had money and I don't want to tangle myself up in lies and get caught out and look like an idiot.

 

[Noize]

If that'd the case, just tell them that you'd rather not hang out with the friend you had the falling out with, and if they don't understand and keep hounding you over it then just split.

It's not like you have an obligation to be there with them, you are allowed to pick and choose who you hang out with. Do they hang out with people they don't like?

I wouldn't think so.

If they did, that makes them an even bigger idiot for not doing something about the situation (No offense to you if this offends.)

Seriously, i mean how would they like it if they were stuck with someone they didn't like for half the day/night?

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

This is true.

None of those other girls have a problem with this girl I'm not wanting to hang out with tonight so of course they'll feel comfortable and not give a shit about how I feel. XD

I think I'm just gonna stay home and tell them how it is, because another girl has dropped out of the gathering which makes the group even smaller and more awkward!

I'm so over the highschool crap. >.<

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Anyway don't wanna turn this into a Temple of The Ancients topic. XD

I've noticed with a lot of people lately that when they don't want to go somewhere, they just don't show up.

Like, they'll be fully enthused about said event, tell everyone what they're wearing, how they're getting there and then just not show up.

It's like, DUDE! why would you exaggerate on how excited you are about the event and lie so much and then not show up. XD You look like more of an ass now then if you just made up an excuse not to show up in the first place! XD

 

[Bambi]

if you cant do something you cant do something, sure we've all told a porker on occassion to get out of summat - but for the most part, whats the point, just say no, its not hard. my friend is a pain in the arse for this, she agrees to do summat even when she has no intention of. We know this, she knows this, we only ask her to be polite, infact, we dont even ask her any more because of this - id you know youre not gunna do summat, dont fucking agree to it, then lie about why you cant go/do it

 

[Tyler Breeze]

I'll make excuses to get out of little things. Example:

There's two bags of clothes staring at me right now. I should be folding those and putting them on hangers in the closet. But I've convinced myself that since today is Sunday, I should enjoy myself before school tomorrow.

That's my excuse for today. I'll come up with many other great ones to avoid even the smallest of things. If it's not on my terms, I'll try to avoid it for as long as possible.

 

[Kinikko]

No, I very rarely if ever do this. If I don't feel like doing something or go out with someone, I'll just tell them straight up I don't feel like it. I hate being lied to especially if I know the person's lying so I try my hardest to make sure everyone knows what my intentions are.

 

[The Master]

'Excuses are like armpits... Everyone has them, and they usually stink.'

My music teacher used to tell us that ALL the time. And it's true! I'm one of those people that make up excuses ALL the time and I'm about ready to just DO the stuff I've been putting off because blowing things off has gotten me nowhere, fast....

 

[Marquis of Granby]

one time when i was 17 my mum told me it was time for me to feed and she sat me on her knee and told me to suckle on her lactating nipple. i said "mum. i'm too old for this!".

does that count as an excuse? if so then i make excuses.