Getting married?

[Bambi]

I know we have a few married/engaged people.

It never occured to me how much like hard work planning it was, it's took us forever just to draft a guest list, and even then there's too many people, we've got a list for day time guests a list for evening guests, how many kids (ive put a ban on any children outside of immediate family, im not being over run by children) its going to cost a fortune. We've agreed on a venue at least, though we were at loggerheads at one point over a place I discovered then changed my mind on, which he was dead set on... luckily he saw the light when we went there and I got my own way

A friend asked me what I was doing for 'favours' I was like... come again, what the fuck are they? I was outraged when I discovered that on top of everthing else, I need to get all the guests some form of gift too

There's so much I hadnt thought about, or at least how much there was to think about

Do we need wedding cars, will we be staying over somewhere so we dont need cars?

We need to see if we can get a registrar and a venue that are avaialble on the same dates

Not only do we need invites, but 'save the date' cards too

Then theres the catering, actually getting everyone to RSVP, DJ, flowers

My heads in a right spin lol

Share any wedding planning stories? And just to open it up to the rest of the forums, would you even consider getting married? What would you're ideal wedding be?

I have my colour theme sorted at least, I want my bridesmaids in TARDIS blue, I think Il have the flowers a different colour though as blue flowers, after a quick google search dont actually look that nice

We're also having it at the science and industry museum in manchester, we can hire the steam train they have ;D

I also plan on having some computer game/tv related theme, maybe in the food, and some of the table decorations. I want our personalities in it, and not just the generic albeit very nice and respectable get up that most folk tend to go for

Other than that though, Im generally at a complete loss. Im not the most organised of people at the best of times

And we still haven't picked a date....arghhhhhh

 

[Lirael]

Oh gosh, all the hassle that comes with getting married. I personally have never been a fan of the ideal wedding, nor a busy one. Preparing such a long list of things just seems like more trouble than it's worth - I'd like my wedding to be as stress free as possible, and quite simple.

If I get married, I'm hoping my fiancee will be okay with my plans. I see myself getting married somewhere small, with only my parents, his parents and our grandparents present. I may extend the invite to aunts and uncles, since I really wouldn't want one of my aunts to miss the wedding, but I'm not close to the majority of my extended family, so I'm not entirely sure. It feels rather cruel to invite only one aunt!

I would wear one of my favourite dresses - I feel no need to get a wedding dress - with some comfortable shoes. I WOULD ask to get my make-up done, since I've always wanted a make-over. Depending on how confident the parents feel taking photos, I may or may not hire a photographer... I love the idea of lots of photographs, but I feel photographers CAN intrude as they insist people try out certain poses and whatnot. Furthermore, they're expensive, and their photos aren't always flattering. I'd rather just take my own DSLR along and ask a trusted family member to take lots of shots.

I see us all having a meal, possibly at home, afterwards - if my favourite restaurant is still open, we can go there! Seriously, this restaurant is the best place on earth! I'd consider hiring the place out for the evening so that we could have a private celebration there. We know the owners fairly well - we've been going there for years - and I'd actually quite like to share the experience with them as they host a fantabulous three course meal!

I'm not really fussed about flowers, and a long list of guests sounds like a nightmare! I'd hate to have a long wedding that drags, with lots of speeches, entertainers and a ceremonial dance (I can't dance; I get too embarrassed).

 

[Hliðskjálf]

I've never understood why people go all out on weddings. I know that its a special day for both people, but dropping 10, 20 even $30,000 on a wedding is just iinsane imo. That would make one hell of a down payment on a house, car etc.

My wife and I kept our wedding small and we were happy with the outcome. There's no random assholes showing up to crash your wedding. You'll always have that friend who says "oh, i can't go alone. can I bring *insert name*?!". That 1 person turns into 4. Those 4 turn into 10 then you have about half of your party that you didn't even invite showing up just to get free alcohol/food.

 

[Bambi]

Well, we've got the car and mortgage, so we don't really have much left to pay for, we're both pretty sensible about money, we have no loans or credit cards, and we're pretty comforable, so it's not hard throwing extra money in savings, the thnings we do need are the new bathroom and kitchen, which will come first, and then its essentially just the wedding. I can justify splashing out becasue we can afford it. And I really want that steam train I'm hoping we can do it next year, but with the kitchen and bathroom if that doesnt happen, it doesnt happen, we've got all the time in the world to save for an amazing day really

There's no danger of our friends bringing uninvited guests either, our friends arent dick heads

I'll be saving money where I can, but I'm not skrimping on everything either. I know that the venue and catering is going to cost a fair bit, but theres no way we will be spending near whatever the equivillent in pounds of $10,100 on this wedding. I cant even imagine what I would have to buy to have it cost that much....

 

[Dionysos]

The science and industry museum sounds awesome.

My sister got engaged soon after you did. She's going to get married in a place where there are apparently going to be alpacas running around in the fields outside. I'm looking forward to meeting them.

Planning seems like a nightmare though... And you'd have to make sure you have money behind you to be able to sort everything out.

I've honestly not thought much about my own wedding ideas. The gulf between my dreams and my reality is always very wide. Whatever it is must speak for the both of us. Since at present Argor roams solo, I cannot even imagine what the wedding would be like if we were to customise it like that. I'd always just assumed that the traditional wedding would happen, but I quite like the idea of putting a creative twist on things. So long as it isn't too weird that some of the guests chit-chatter behind your back about how odd the occasion turned out to be. That said, that wouldn't matter as only the couple matter on that day.

 

[Bambi]

Id love it if my friends said it was odd xD

Im really lucky that me and tom have very similar ideas and interests, i cant imagine he'd be half as enthused about it if it was just a function room with pretty flowers, id be pretty dissapointed if he thought all my wacky ideas were stupid and not near serious enough for a wedding

Make sure you end up with someone that loves dinosaurs and youre all set!

Im desperately trying not to go all bridezilla though hahahaha, I know il break at some point and spaz out over something, thats just in my nature

Alpacas sound amazing

 

[Hliðskjálf]

Well, we've got the car and mortgage, so we don't really have much left to pay for, we're both pretty sensible about money, we have no loans or credit cards, and we're pretty comforable, so it's not hard throwing extra money in savings, the thnings we do need are the new bathroom and kitchen, which will come first, and then its essentially just the wedding. I can justify splashing out becasue we can afford it. And I really want that steam train I'm hoping we can do it next year, but with the kitchen and bathroom if that doesnt happen, it doesnt happen, we've got all the time in the world to save for an amazing day really

There's no danger of our friends bringing uninvited guests either, our friends arent dick heads

I'll be saving money where I can, but I'm not skrimping on everything either. I know that the venue and catering is going to cost a fair bit, but theres no way we will be spending near whatever the equivillent in pounds of $10,100 on this wedding. I cant even imagine what I would have to buy to have it cost that much....

$10,000 can add up rather quickly. In America things cost WAY too much (it varies from state to state of course). The place we originally wanted to have our wedding held out was $2,000 alone. That didn't include anything other than the rental of the place for about 6 hours and the guy to do the ceremony. With the extra costs of alcohol, catering, travel expenses, the honeymoon itself (which was ruined btw..horribly ruined). We were right around $5,000.

I realized after re-rearding what I had posted earlier I probably came off as a prick. So, I apologize for that if it seemed that way.

Good luck with the planning, though.

 

[CassinoChips]

Don't plan your wedding from 1500 miles away. That makes everything 1500 times as irritating.

We did ours for around $5000 or $6000, and that's pretty much on the cheap. Our wedding was fairly smallish though, maybe 80 people all told. The only suggestion as far as planning I would really offer is to do it all ASAP. That way, when something goes wrong, which it invariably will, you'll theoretically have a bit more time to deal with it.

The Laura got her wedding dress at a Bridal Expo/Women Against Cancer event thing. It was technically a second-hand dress, but it was custom-made for the original owner and was pretty freaking awesome, tbh. It cost around $500, and I think maybe $100 more for the alterations. We also saved money by having a friend of ours do the wedding photos. He's a bit of a techie, so it all worked out pretty well. We only paid for his and his girlfriend's ticket to Texas and their hotel rooms. But even that was probably half the cost of a "professional" wedding photog. Talk about a racket. Those people charge you an arm and a leg, and most of the time don't even let you keep the negatives or half of the pictures they took.

Everything planning-wise went ok for us, which is a minor miracle considering we were planning it from 1500 miles away, like I said. We had some other issues pop up, like The Laura losing her driver's license in an airport on her way to Texas (which makes it difficult to apply for a wedding license without official ID), but we soldiered through.

 

[Apricots]

We didn't really have a wedding. We got married in court, and then 3 or 4 months later had a big party we invited everyone too. All in all it costed just under $5000 for everything.

I don't like having focus on me, and neither does my husband, so we didn't even dance or anything like that. It was very simple, but I was very happy with it. The guest list was easy too -- actually the hardest part was meeting the minimum because together we don't even know 60 people, haha. Except for 4 people and a couple invitee's guests, it was almost entirely family... and not even the whole family.

I found it to be easy and not stressful at all but the level of anxiety involved really depends on how "out there" you're going!

 

[Rydia]

Lol yes, planning a wedding is a lot of work. Luckily I had my mom to help out with my wedding. It was still a lot of work. The best part was the cake testing. I could do that once a week

It will be busy and at times frusterating, but enjoy it while you can. Having it at the Science and Industry Museum sounds awesome.

 

[Bambi]

ive done a fair bit of researching and I can do quite alot of the stuff myself, i just need to install photoshop so i can have a dabble on there

i reckon il pick up a dress on the cheap somewhere as well, i need to offset as much cost as i can as the venue/catering prices are astronomical

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

The one thing that I hope will cut down on costs for our wedding will be the wedding dress. I would like to buy my own, but at the same time when will I ever wear it again?

I think it's silly that the boys hire the suits and the girl buys the dress, when it should be the other way around considering the boys can then re-use their suit for another function.

I really don't want to go all out on my day. I want it to be simple and stress free. I even asked Steve to apply to that 'Don't tell the bride' show just so I won't have to worry about any of the planning. >.<

I want a nice day with all my family but I don't want to organise it. I can see me locking heads with Steve on a lot of things already.

He suggested that for the reception that we not have any seating and order in pizza. I want to be cheap but not that cheap!

We've at least hurried up the date of the wedding. Initially it wasn't going to be until 2015 or something or at least until after we bought our house. Now we're living with mum and dad, we can get married sooner as we will be able to save more and get married before we move into our house.

One thing I learned that I thought was really odd was that most people don't use their wedding cake as the dessert. 0_o They'll fork out money for a dessert and hardly dig into the cake.

My brother and his wife used their cake as the dessert and it saved them a lot of money. (They got married last weekend. So cute. >.<)

Anyway, at the moment our idea for the wedding is to have it at a penthouse somewhere on the Gold Coast and then go somewhere for the reception and then Steve and I will come back to the penthouse and stay there for our first night as husband and wife before running away to Hawaii for the honeymoon.

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

not having cake for dessert is a massive tradition. i'd say catering companies probably do some sort of discount if you pay for a full three course meal rather than two. i think my parents still have some of their wedding cake 30 something years on.

 

[Bambi]

We've had a mock invoice from the place we want (we're having the reception and ceremony at the same place) it's not as bad as i originally thought, but it's still well expensive lol

Ordered my first wedding item today as well, got 2 daleks off eBay, gunna make them into his and hers cake toppers hahah. Can't believe my first purchase was daleks.....
The Doctor are you handy with a camera as well as a video camera hahaha....?

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

I'm going to have pole dancers and incredibly vulgar music at my wedding. Mandatory mixed shot of all sorts at the door too. I don't care if it's likely to hospitalise anyone, that's what the on-standby ambulance is for.

Bachelor'ing it up 'till the very last second muddafukkas!

 

[Tyler Breeze]

I guess I could pull a "Triple H" and get married at a drive thru type thing. I'll keep that in consideration. Anyway, I'm not even sure if I'll want to get married. I'm not even wanting a girlfriend right now. But I guess if I ever did want to get married, I could pawn all the work off to my Mom. She seems like she would want to do it anyway. Whatever is cheapest is the way we're going. Since I'm a cheap bastard now, I might as well keep it up. I've heard all these wedding horror stories with all the money going into it. It sounds insane. I also think I don't want to get married because my parents never got married. The whole idea sounds like something that's not too cool to me.

 

[Bambi]

I'll be saving money where I can, but I'm not skrimping on everything either. I know that the venue and catering is going to cost a fair bit, but theres no way we will be spending near whatever the equivillent in pounds of $10,100 on this wedding. I cant even imagine what I would have to buy to have it cost that much....

How wrong could i have been haha, we're looking at double this amount now <_<

Ive got loads done since i made this thread!!

We've booked a date, sorted the venue, Ive got my dress (most important part!) deposits are down on everything bar DJ and lighting, (and all other clothing, but they can wait til next year) Im making all the centre peices and table names myself, ive done my save the dates, just need to print them off, making my own bouquet out of brooches..or....something thats not flowers anyway. Making all my own favours as well, but i keep changing my mind

Also, never realised how much wedding photographers were til i started looking into it. i could go on holiday twice with what we are paying D:

We're getting married here



And my daleks

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Also, never realised how much wedding photographers were til i started looking into it. i could go on holiday twice with what we are paying D:

I know right!

I started looking around for decent photographers and videographer teams to make it cheaper but it's still expensive!

$2500-$3500 is apparently a decent price but I only want to spend $5000 on the WHOLE day! Luckily I'm going cheap on my dress and only spending between $100-200. >.<

It's hard to decide on what photographers/videographers to choose because I want the ones with the better reputation and from a legitimate company but of course they will charge the most.

Then I see the ones advertising their work a lot cheaper but I don't know how good they are without references and they could fuck my entire day up and not know exactly what they're doing etc.

It's all too much and I often get a headache from planning and give up for a few weeks before going back to planning again. At this rate we won't be married till we're 90!

I need to set a date and venue so I'm forced to plan and have it done with!

 

[Jack's Smirking Revenge]

We've had a mock invoice from the place we want (we're having the reception and ceremony at the same place) it's not as bad as i originally thought, but it's still well expensive lol

Ordered my first wedding item today as well, got 2 daleks off eBay, gunna make them into his and hers cake toppers hahah. Can't believe my first purchase was daleks.....
The Doctor are you handy with a camera as well as a video camera hahaha....?

i've only just seen this. i dunno if i could do a wedding. i'm do photography for a gig in a few days time and i'm filming a wedding in a couple of weeks, so i suppose i'll have picked up the basics and everything. i can't do any kind of photo editing though, so that would be a problem.

 

[Koloth]

The reason my wife and I choose to just got a legal ceremony and ran off and eloped. It angered my parents. But we just didn't want all the fuss.