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Have you ever looked at your circle of friends and often wonder that if you met at different times or under other circumstances if you would still be friends? What if it happened a year or five years later, would you be as close? Would the connection and the similarities still be there? Or do we become friends with people during certain times in our lives due to life outcomes, fads, school....

Today I was looking at my facebook and saw my bestfriend since Grade 1, say she was moving back to Vernon. This was a place that she had moved out to with her husband to try find him a good paying job to support her and her baby two years ago. They JUST moved back home, close to both their families because the money there wasn't good enough. They'd only been back maybe 3 months at the most... and are already deciding to go back, despite their families are here, and he makes twice as much money.

I look at her indecisiveness and scoff. Sure she's 21, likely to make random decisions, but when you're hauling around a 2 year old and making your hubby quit job after job just because 'this place' wasn't good enough, just pisses me right off.

I think that we only became friends so many years ago, because we were both the fat kids in our grade. We depended on each other for support and security. Nowadays, we're grown up, living our lives through different periods of it (she's married, got a kid and planning a second, and I'm still living at home with my folks). Whenever we hang out, all she talks about are the same things... ever God damn time. "Billy is so0o0o0o0o0ooo gorgeous and the sex is great... he's so good with my boobs (sorry to scar people, all she talks about half the time is sex stuff)... yeah I miss Vernon, but everybody's here.. and the money.. but we wanna go back... I want to lose weight but I can't find a sitter.. so I'll buy an elliptical and haul that back on the 4 hour drive somehow..."

She whines alot about her weight. And she is, an overweight girl, I feel sorry for her. But I worked my butt off to get back in shape (somewhat), she can try hard too. Buy some dumb bells, do it at home. But no.. she says she does a lot of walking everywhere... Sure, walking is all well and good, but it won't make you lose the 10lbs in a week like you want.

OH and then there's the fact that she wants to drag her family to England somehow and live there for a few years before her kid is in school. She asks me about Permits and Visas, but really.. how are you going to accomplish anything if you're moving back and forth so much, renting this and that to haul everything that you can't save any money towards this? Further more how are you going to take a whole family to just... live in England, who have no ties whatsoever to the country? If you had family there, sure. A job offer? Sure. But they got nothing there.

She frustrates me so much that often times I don't visit her anymore. If I see her on facebook, I go offline. I try be short with messages and wall posts and often don't return phonecalls. I just don't like hanging out with her anymore, it's such a huge difference from who she used to be, as well as me. We're too different people.

Also, there's the added effect of when I borrowed money and forgot to pay her back.. so then when she comes down on my birthday, asks that I pay her back with my birthday money. I've been super pissed about that ever since, and her birthday is coming up... I'm thinking lump of coal. -__-

So this is just another huge tl;dr rant.. if any of you bothered to read any of that, any of you feel like in a similar situation? Are there friends who were different than who they used to be when you met them?
 
yeah i know exactly how you feel.
me and my best friend used to be really close, and tell eachother everything, and talk for hours and hours
as we grew up, I feel like we bolth changed into diffrent people

now we have nothing to talk about, every year she facebooks me the basics"how are you, what are you up to, how is school" I answer, then ask her. then we have nothing to talk about anymore and the conversation gets awkward. it kinda is sad to think about it, honestly id rather hang out with her from 6 years ago, then I would hang out with her now
 
I've been through that before. I see friends from my old primary school (for those of you that are American, the school I went to from ages 4-11) and think to myself, god you've changed. When I left that school I went to a different place to every single one of my friends and it's strange seeing them now, living totally different lives to me.

It's slightly different, but I feel like this about a lot of my family members too. Of course, I see them all, talk to them all, but I often get the feeling that if they weren't my family I wouldn't give them the time of day because I just don't like the sort of person they are...
 
Good one on the move, forgot about this sub forum. :monster:

It's sad yet annoying at the same time, because I want to like her so much, I want to like who she used to be. But now after years of rejection and finally landing a guy through child and marriage, she just doesn't stop talking about him all the time. "Oh Billy is so handsome, this girl here was staring at him, and this chick at this grocery store commented on him..." I'd just nod and agree, cause he is a good looking guy bit it wouldn't end the topic.. "I KNOW. He's so gorgeous, and his biceps ooohhh... and his new muscles, oooo..."

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yeah, that would get annoying to me really fast.

I hate people who only talk about themselves
 
Ack, I was like that at fucking 15, glad my friends smacked the common sense into my head. It was well needed.


Anyway, I can think of one good friend that I would NOT like at all had I met her at any period other than when I actually bumped into her. We met in fourth grade when I moved from New York to the bumsville that's New Jersey (psyche, it's not THAT bad). She was ALWAYS controlling, always the sort to be very self assured, pretty much a know-it-all, very smart alecky. She was a definite smart aleck. I mean yes, did she get me out of some rough patches? Fuck yeah. Did she steer me on the right track? Sure. But it cost me my fucking brain cells. I became a bit of a fucking drone when I hit the age of 10 and steadily stayed that way until I was 15.

Everything was, "Oooh my family does this and so I know about this because of that and blahfuckingblah." Bitch told me that Christmas was evil once, when I slept over her house on one occasion. I was NINE! How the fuck is it okay to let that slip out of your kid's moth unchecked?! Why is it okay to have your kid go into a religion that preaches this kind of shit so they can spread more of this fucking hateful "OOH CHRISTMAS IS EBIL! You know what the bloody fuck it means little girl? It means that those evil sons of bitches used to burn people on trees and you're celebrating that shit! Merry Christmas, motherfucker!"

I still celebrate Christmas but she brainwashed the fuck out of my innocent little mind, that girl did. I went through periods where I hated her. She used to tell me that Harry Potter was evil, she used to scoff at the books that my mom would get for me, when she came over. I'd just think to myself, "Bitch, no onse SAID that your pupils had to stare into the "evil pits of Harry's green puke-colored orbs of DOOM and Devil-worship". Gtfo plz kthnx", she seriously thought that J. K. Rowling was some writhing mad devil worshipper trying to pigeonhole all of us lil' nine year olds into burning people and sticking needles into fucking voodoo dolls.

Ahem anyway here's what broke the straw on the camel's back. 'Kay this friend of mine, this girl that I've known for like ten odd something years decides to do this terrible thing. She says this wretched thing. We're both Jamaican-American. The only difference is I've lived in Jamaica, I've been there during the worst times and at its best times. I can tell where a tourist shouldn't go versus where it's probably safer. She has the fucking nerve to let me into her house, which is all nice and dandy, treat me well okay great, but then turn around and say, "You don't know anything about your culture, haha (yes she fucking laughed, the bitch. You can go and ask why I'm still friends with her.), anything . . . you really don't. You're not really Jamaican. You don't know what it's like to be a real Jamaican."

So I was just shocked. How could she? She used to write letters to me. We used to trade letters back and forth while I was there--long ass three-paged, heart-felt letters. How could she POSSIBLY forget with her oh-so impeccable memory? When I, with my terrible fucked up Alzheimer's-like memory, can remember that detail clearly? What's wrong with that picture? So I said nothing, figured it was worth it, and I just . . . yeah. We talk when we talk. What can I say . . . she has her good sides but Jesus when she swears she knows it all it's just SUCH a fucking ugly quality. God.
 
Wow. I don't envy you for being friends with her. =/

I wasn't expecting much of a thread topic out of this.. I had just seen recent facebook status updates from this girl, and got stressed and freaked out that I needed to rant... in anyway possible, and turn it somehow into a thread. >_>
 
Lol, thank god my friends don't update their FBs with annoying statuses that push me to that.

But I do have some bitchy ass friends though. I need more guys friends. I like guys. They don't PMS or bitch at you (no offense) or anything, they're just calm.

Let's see this next "friend" is another know-it-all but with an attitude problem. She likes to publicly 'baw' about her life even though she insists that she's not "emotional" then she goes off on a tangent about how much she hates her mom for remarrying some dude, I forget his name. She even calls her mom a bitch and stuff, we've all met her mom, her mom seems nice.

What pisses me off too is that this friend treats one of her best friends like shit, he even hates her parents too (still can't fucking see why but hey, he's got her back). Still she started to treat him, especially around this year, like he was always bothering her. He was just concerned cause she'd like close herself off then bottle shit up till she'd just . . . combust in anger. It's like she can't control her emotions or her mouth. She just spews out utter shit all the time. Not like I fucking care.

But nooo she insists on being weird and Gemini-ish but worse because she just ODs on air or some shit I don't know. One minute she's happy, next she's angry, then she's sad and she insists that I'm over emotional. Who said I was denying it? I know I am. I go for counseling to HELP with that instead of whining like a bitch and chedwing people's heads off for fucking up some stupid word from a dead language that no one except the ancient ass POPE FOR FUCK'S SAKE ACTUALLY SPEAKS!!!! :rage:

I seriously hate her. I think she knows that I hate her. Whew. One time I tried to work corroboration with her on a story and it just . . .ugh. She would constantly nitpick at everything but in this fucking annoying way as if to say, "Are you stupid?" Then she'd talk about each and every one of our friends behind their backs and she'd wonder, "WAAH WHY THE FUCK DOES EVERYONE THINK I'M SO ANNOYING AND WEEEIRD!?" Maybe it's because you still carry a dirty disgusting stuffed animal like a fucking 3 year old, make a fucking FB account for it like a crazy bitch, state that you're "currently in a relationship with it", make one of my sweetest male friends look like an utter dumbass after I HOOKED HIM UP WITH YOU, and then turn around and play the "ooh I'm a victim, love meh!" Bitch you have parents, go and appreciate them.

Even if your internet's limited, even if they want you to do chores and shit, who fucking cares. At least you're not beaten, verbally abused, fucking abandoned by your dad or your mom or whatever. At least you have parents. She seriously . . . UGH. So yeah I hate her.
 
Well, from 1st grade until 20 years old, a person goes through many changes, as you know. There's is hardly any stability for an individual, let alone 2 individuals who are friends. So naturally situations can take their toll on a friendship over that specific period of time. I only have 1 real life friend these days, and I've known him since I was in 4th grade. We've always been complete opposites, and most people don't even understand why we're friends. :lew: But after all these years, we're still best friends. We've been through all the trials and tribulations, and never has our change in situations kept us from being friends, even though we're so different already. Now at 27 years old, both of our lives have reached stability for the most part. The only real dynamic that will come up is when we get married in time (and possibly have kids as well).

I've had other friends in time that basically faded away. For the most part, it was never from differences, but mainly just growing apart. Once you leave high school and go off to college, some of them may go off to different states or just to different colleges in the same state, and you sort of lose touch. Some of them you maintain touch in college and lose touch after you finish college. Some take jobs in other places and possibly some decide to start their marriage and family life. Either way, you sort of get filtered out. :lew: Honestly, it never bugged me that much that friends sort of fell out of the picture. I've always sort of been a loner and an independent by nature, so I had no problem having little to no friends. I managed to keep myself occupied just fine. :-)kinky:)

When talking about situations that create friendships, I never had such a case happen, but my first 2 girlfriends came from odd circumstances. I won't go into great detail about it for personal reasons, but we'll just say that they probably wouldn't have happened if such circumstances didn't present themselves. :lew: Well, I think the 2nd one would have happened eventually, but the first was definitely a rare case (which obviously wasn't worth it in the long run :hmph:).
 
I think it's the same in any aspect of life. I mean, I have met some wonderful people here, some wonderful people back home and even some wonderful people on XBL. But I still think if I met Tom/Ted/Jimbob/Fred like 10 months later, it might have been so different.

For example. A friend I originally met on XBL, Dean. He is an awesome lad. Lived a few miles away from me before I moved. Was working in a Supermarket and was pretty much enjoying it. Not the greatest job but it got him by. We'd Text whilst working, just fuck about on weekends and so on. About 8 months into knowing him he lost his job because he was reading a racist joke out to a work colleague and there was a woman behind him who heard it and obviously she went and reported it. And because this woman was putting pressure on the workplace, needless to say, he had to go. After this he was out drinking every night and getting wasted, and just genuinly fucking up his life to be fair. So I can't help but think we wouldn't be as close friends if I had met him during this transition in his life because my first impression would be he was a bit of a boozer and what not.

You have my friend Craig. When we are put in the same room we are like 2 hyper 10 year olds and laugh at everything. I knew him throughout school but I never really spoke to him until my last year there. We were both close to a mutual friend, of which we almost never speak to now. Shows you who your friends are at times, eh? So we just got on better and started hanging out more. Admittedly though my first impressions of Craig weren't great. Like...he would try sneaking into the Cinema's and "forgetting" his wallet and shit like that. Really pissed me off. But I feel liek if I started talking to him sooner then perhaps we wouldn't have stayed in contact after I left school. I can't really explain why but I just have the feeling it would happen?

I am thankful that I don't talk to a lot of friends from back in school. I have a few on Facebook and they are all in their own little cliques now and reading their status updates FUCKS ME OFF! Seriously, it's like "I go to University so I am clearly more intellegent than most of my friends list. Let's discuss current affairs such as Afghanistan or Euthanasia clinics." - It just grips my shit because they aren't the people I remember and it's almost like they don't want to remember that person. They just want to be like "Hooray Henry" and be like "Look at me, look how great I am" and all that bullshit. Everything they say is to try and get one over on you.

But when I look at it the other way, I think I could have easilly lost a friend if things didn't happen the way they did. For example, I have a Norwegian friend who lives in the UK. I always go out my way to see him when I am back home, but we obviously have this sort of special bond due to the fact we both have had the same shit happen to us. As in....Norwegian moving to live with his English partner...Scotsman moving to live with his Swedish partner etc. So we can always talk about foods we miss, or just anything in general so we are always on the same wavelength. But perhaps if I didn't move or he didn't move we might not have had a speciffic reason to stay in contact so much.

I guess it's down to the person really. I always make an effort - perhaps too much at times. But I think if they are worth keeping around you will always make the effort. It's just a shame that sometimes an event can completely change how someone is. Marriage, a new job, a child. Anything really.
 
I used to make an effort to be friends with this girl, and I don't know.. for some reason a lot of friends changing doesn't bother me, but just her does. I can handle losing touch with a few people I thought I was close to.. it happens. It happens a lot, what can you do? But when someone does a completely 180 from who they were, it just really strikes you.
 
Channy said:
I used to make an effort to be friends with this girl, and I don't know.. for some reason a lot of friends changing doesn't bother me, but just her does. I can handle losing touch with a few people I thought I was close to.. it happens. It happens a lot, what can you do? But when someone does a completely 180 from who they were, it just really strikes you.
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I think from every friend I have lost as I have grew up I have met someone far worthier in their place. I was told by my teacher that there was a very high chance that hardly any of us would be in contact with eachother in 5 years due to the fact that most will be hanging around with their University friends a little more as they would see them more frequently and so on.

I think what she says is true, but it shouldn't be. If you were worth the effort on a weekend when you were 18 - you should still be worth the effort when you are 25. Though things can change which is a bit of a shame.

Sometimes I've felt like shit wondering why we I haven't spoke to friends in so long. I moved away a little before everyone finished school officially (Had already done the exams) so I had a little less time than others so to speak. But the attitude from most was a sort of "oh well then" even if I had known them for years because they were leaving shortly after me, so what did it matter?

That's where Facebook comes in and FUCKS ME OFF! :rage: I am constantly added my Jimmy whatshisface or some dick who never spoke to me at school or who was "really close to me" then forgot to write down my number or email or whatever. Then pretty much say: "holy shit!? You live in Sweden? why are you there?" then after I tell them that they just want to be like "I do this, I have done that, I am smart, I went to Uni, I am the best"

And christ I just want to punch them in the face. I feel that 95% of those I knew at school have done a complete u-turn on their personalities and it just feels like the universities are breeding grounds for dickheads or something. It's sad tot hink the people I spent countless hours with throughout and even after school I now couldn't sit in the same room with for more than 30 minutes without completely losing my temper over their general pigheadedness.
 
When it comes to friends, I will say that I have had many and lost many. Some I wish wouldn't have disappeared, some I am glad are gone, but all have a special place in my heart. I am a scorpio, and sadly, most of the time, the parts of the scorpio are parts of me. Except in friends. I had one really good friend, you might even say my best friend, and things were great. We pretty much did everything together, had extremely similar interests (music, girls(she was gay), games, anime, etc.), the only problem is that she was extremely bossy. We were great friends until she decided to join the military. I couldn't join because of epilepsy, even though I had wanted to.

A few years passed and when I saw her again, it seemed like old times. She asked me to move out to Hawaii with her. I had my own house, a good job, car, and lots of stuff that I wanted to keep, but I didn't like my town and I needed to get away from an evil ex (Scott Pilgrim reference), so I agreed. I quit my job, sold my car and house, gave my stuff to my parents/brother, and I moved out there. She told me beforehand that I had at least 3 months to find a job and then she wouldn't be able to afford me if I couldn't pay my own way. After 26 days there, however, she decided that her military friends wife was more important than her friend who was always there for her, so she told me I needed to go back home since her friends wife didn't like me. She did pay for the plane tickets, but I now had nothing to go back to except my parents and evil ex. I have never been as good of friends with her ever since.

I do have a friend who I have known since I was 4. He has never been the most intelligent person, even then, but he has always been there for me and I have always been there for him. We have survived together through the highest and lowest points of our lives. We are completely different people now, he is into cars, sports, health, and sleeping with as many women as he can get to say yes, and I am into music, art, video games, and finding the right one. The funny thing is that even though we have absolutely nothing in common anymore, he is still such a close friend that there is never a time where I question that friendship. We get together and talk about everything even with our lack of common interests. He is maybe not my best friend, but he is my closest.

The thing that separates me from most people is that when I was young, I watched all of my parents friends gradually become less so important. Then I noticed it with other people as well. It wasn't because they didn't like each other anymore, it was just because they got lazy and nobody took the initiative to keep the friendship strong and alive. When I was 7, I made a vow that as long as a friend was worth keeping, I would always make sure they were close and always take the initiative if they didn't. I wouldn't let a good friendship go to waste because of laziness. I am a busy-body only because of that fact. I am always going to visit friends because they are good friends, even if they are a little lazy. What's funny about it, though, is that I don't like going places. Either way, I made a vow, and to me, that is just as important as a promise, and I always keep my promises.

Either way, friends come and friends go, but you can always count on the ones that are always there. People change and that is life. When more friends disappear than stay, then you will at least know who the real friends are. I have lost many friends, but it wasn't a total loss. I think that all experiences have a lesson somewhere in them and friends always teach us something before they disappear. I guess, my mantra on it is that stupid story. You should never regret what you do, but rather what you didn't do. Sorry, long rant leading into a moral of some sort, but I have a lot on my mind and this got me thinking. I have a tendency of going to far sometimes and getting off track. What I was trying to eventually get at is that I have felt the same way before.
 
Facebook what a laugh!

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Apparently not so much of stretch Channy........

People are bound to change the experiences we share are different from one person to another and at the age of about 20 the brain starts to enter its final stage of Development, friends who make rash choices and people who you meet at there lowest are not really looking for friendship.

Friendships that start under such dire circumstances don't have much validity, thats what friendship involves, over the years you learn about each other and can help when things go bad.

I have know fraternal friendships in my life the only person outside of my family is my GF that I consider a friend but she is much more than that (obviously) and making new friends is not a priority to me anymore............apart from my fellow FF freaks!
 
I've had some really close friends that Im not friends with anymore. It is sad, so I completely understand that part, but at the same time, I wouldnt be friends with them again as long as they are in their current state.

Most of the friends I lost (I was really close with them, their parents gave me keys to their house to come in whenever I want) I lost over alcohol and religion. First off some of them got so religiously intolerant, even within their own religion, they would sound ridiculous (and Im the same religion as them) that they would seriously just piss me off because they would seem two faced.

Secondly, they started drinking and smoking. I dont like drinking at all. I dont do it myself and I dont like being around people who are drunk. I just find it obnoxious and a slap in the face to alot of people who screw their lives up over it. But I do tolerate it to an extent. But I also have asthma and I cant be around smoke. Even if I didnt, I still think it's a disgusting habit. But they essentially just became really lazy and unmotivated and indulged in that stuff so I stopped hanging around with them. It became a destructive environment. Sad thing was, they werent even remotely like that at all before but suddenly changed. It's sad, but it just got to be too much to put up with.

It always sucks to lose friends, but sometimes, it is truly better to get out or get away from certain people and situations.
 
i am still friends with the 5..well now 4 friends i was in high school. i have known those guys since i was 11. now as we grew up.. i went the route of riding my bike, and working. my friends all mall ratted it up and hung out at the magic shop ( a store that sold magic the gathering cards and held tournaments) i would hang there with them every so often, but as much as they did. now in all seriousness. if i was to meet these guys now.. a few i wouldn't be friends with and or hang out with them as much as i do now.

as we all grew up.. we did kinda move apart. there were five of us, but back in 2009 one of us died.. i feel we all went in 3 directions. i went in one, he went another and the other four went theirs. now for a while, we'd all meet up and go to concerts and what not. but thats about it. what kinda did me in with hanging with them a lot. they al started smoking pot and i could not be around it.. that and i was dating a girl they did not apporve of.
but really to say i lost friends.. well they do fade form time to time, but we always come full circle..
 
I've been friends with 6 certain people since I was in 3rd grade until high school graduation so 7 years? When I entered University all of us went in different ones or just in other majors, I had COMPLETELY different friends from what I used to had, and when I went out with my old friends for just a reunion, I kinda did NOT enjoy my time with them, they were all "oh I did this and this in university, it's so kewl" even though they have been there for 3 years now, I thought they were just kids who just entered something new for the first time in their life. It seemed to me they didn't even mature at all, even though I noticed they barely did through our school years but after a certain point you've got to grow up a little. =| Still, I don't even remember how I became friends with the people I know, it just happens. o_O
 
I've drifted apart from quite a number of friends over the years... Most of the time, this drifting apart has been a consequence of life, as we have developed new interests, no longer sharing many. Only once has a friendship broken down to the point that I feel just a little bit bitter about it. :hmmm:

The friends from whom I have drifted apart were my friends in sixth form. At the time, we were sort of glued together by who was friends with whom. Some members of the group barely spoke to one another, but we spent time together because we were all linked to at least 3 other members in the group. Bear in mind, this group only contained 6 and then 8 people.

After leaving school, only those friends who shared a connection remained friends. I haven't even spoken to one of the girls since leaving. >_< How many of them would I be friends with if I met them today? It's difficult to say. I've become so disconnected from all but Kat, my closest friend. I have little idea about who they are today. :/

I used to be friends with another girl called Lucy. We met when I was 9 and she was 6 as her grandmother looked after me over the school holidays. My summer holidays back then were 10-11 weeks long! and both of my parents worked. ANYWAY, this meant we spent a lot of time together and we did become very close, a little like sisters. We could easily spend an entire week together, watching movies, playing games, creating animals from pipe cleaners and fimo clay as we discussed the guys we had a crush on... At one point, we spent most of our time walking around her village knocking on each and every door to ask people whether or not they had a dog we could walk. You'd be surprised at how many people said yes. :lew: At one point, we were taking up to 15 dogs, though not at once! that would've been hard. :gonk:

Things changed, however, when she moved house. Pretty soon after moving, she became ill and had to go into hospital. During her time there, she lost A LOT of weight. She had previously been quite chubby, which had led to bullying at school. Upon her return, she received a lot of positive attention because she was thinner and then developed a new mentality. She stopped eating properly and became fixated on make-up, styling her hair and become a part of the glamorous crowd. That had never been my scene... I was far too self conscious to become a part of it. :lew: I also didn't like the bitchiness it encouraged. >_< Anyway, it got to a point where we rarely saw one another and when we did, she'd bring another friend along without telling me and then call my by another name accidentally. Based on their body language, they perceived me as strange and different - I liked games and books, not make-up and tiny clothes - and she reacted to that, patronising my interests. I tried to salvage the friendship for a time, but eventually decided that it was best we went our different ways.

Oh, the things we go through in our teenage years. :wacky:
 
Let's see...I used to have a friend till last year.We met in kindergarten when we were 4 or 5.And for many years we were good friends.I considered her my best friend of course.Two years ago a thrid person joined our friendship and it was all going well you know.Until I saw that I was kinda like a third wheel.They'd arrange to dress in the same colors,go out and not call me with the excuse of deciding it the last minute and me not having a mobile phone made it hard to contact me(yeah,because I live in a cave and don't own a phone...) and generally I saw that they had grown too close while I was kinda getting left out of things.So summer came and she went vacation.Although she knew me for like 12 years she invited the 3rd newer friend(who I introduced to her) to her other house,while she had never invited me seriously over there.Through the course of the summer we both had grown distant towards each other and when she came back she had changed...All the years I had known her she was the shy,quiet type,perhaps more romantic and all.And while I had being present at her gradual change over turning more out-going and talkative during that summer I felt she turned superficial too(something I cannot stand).She had started messing with guys(not too serious as on a sexual level) but even with some she didn't particularly like...Well,that was the end of it.We both grew apart,so it was kind of like a mutual distancing thing.
I've bumped into her a few times and all just being formal and sharing a "how are you" conversation,nothing more.
I guess we both changed,but I feel her change over one single year was very dramatic.Which made it hard for me to keep up with.
But then if she wanted that much to continue a friendship with me she would have tried to contact me at least once...and I would have appreciated it greatly.
 
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