im gay

My fiance and I have a friend who just came out as being gay a few years ago. Thing is, everyone kind of suspected it. He doesn't act stereotypical at all and kind of acted more asexual. But we all just kind of knew. It didn't bother us. He was still the same Rick. XD

My uncle is also gay. And he is very stereotypical XD You would suspect it in the first five minutes of meeting him. He helped me pick out one of my prom dresses :)

But I wouldn't mind if any friend just came out and said that they were gay. Our generation is much more accepting of homosexuality.
 
Ohri-Jin said:
True :rofl:

You are absolutely right, that would be weird indeed..

Yeah I tend to avoid those types anyways...hmm,

so someone I know that didnt have any signs whatsoever suddenly tells me he is gay.. :hmmm:

I dont know man what I would do.....I wouldnt invite him over to my place thats for sure..cuz im too SEXY :mokken:

I think I would accept it over time...


@Lewis - You know what pisses me off the most? LIARS !
And those people that are gay and are not coming out are liars IMO
I understand it could be hard for homosexuals to come out of the closet because of the hostel environment etc.. or because of their insecurities...etc..

But the one thing I hate the most about homosexuals is some of them come out of the closet AFTER THEY MARRY A FEMALE AND HAVE KIDS !!! :rage:

That shit pissed me off, that thing is unacceptible imo.

Imagine you have a nice family and cool father and suddenly he confesses to be gay,. thats screwed up.. or worse your father got caught sleeping with another man either by your mother or by yourself.. :gonk:

sigh....
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theyre not liars at all. its none of anyone's business who they like to fuck. if they feel its sensitive information and value you enough to tell you then you should acknowledge their respect and the friendship you have.
 
Ohri-Jin said:
@Lewis - You know what pisses me off the most? LIARS !
And those people that are gay and are not coming out are liars IMO
I understand it could be hard for homosexuals to come out of the closet because of the hostel environment etc.. or because of their insecurities...etc..

But the one thing I hate the most about homosexuals is some of them come out of the closet AFTER THEY MARRY A FEMALE AND HAVE KIDS !!! :rage:

That shit pissed me off, that thing is unacceptible imo.

Imagine you have a nice family and cool father and suddenly he confesses to be gay,. thats screwed up.. or worse your father got caught (sleeping with another man) either by your mother or by yourself.. :gonk:

sigh....
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...:hmph: So, the fact they aren't ready to reveal they like guys/girls pisses you off? You can't rush stuff like that. And I highly doubt what you described happens very often...and even if it does, most rush into those types of relationships because they think that by getting married and starting a family it will ease away the feelings, when all it does is put them on a backburner to erupt later.
 
Aw what I remember filling in an application for a job or other, infact ive conem across a couple, asking about sexual preferenes, HOW is that relelevent to teh job, really. I cant remember what this particular one was for but i just remember thionking, fuck meeee at the absurd questions it was asking

If folk are all for equality in employment, why ask this shit in the first place? If you dont know, then youre no gunna be accused of discrimination or just employing someone to fill a quota for fucking minorities or whatever

I've never been able to get my head round that shit. We're all fucking people, why feel the need to disect parts of our PERSONAL lives for shit that doesnt have any bearing on anything

And while Im on one, who cares that obamas black? OH WOW FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT, and what? Hes just another fucking man. his colour shouldnt make a dot of diofference, considering everyone wants to be treated equal, they dont half fuel this so called fucking divide between folk by making a fucking song and dance about the fact that he happens to be black

Aw what, Ive well just gone off on one

Tl;dr: It really shouldnt fucking matter in the slightest what anyone is unless they make an issue of it themselves :hmph:

edit* WEhy are they liars? Do they have to walk around with a placcard saying IM GAY?

Its NO ones business but their own

they dont have to justify their sexuality to anyone

Are we all to just assume everyone is straight?

Surely you dont go round and say, Hi, Im Ohri, pleased to meet you. Im heterosexual

Bloody liars my arse
 
I'm gay. So I guess everything would be fine. xD

That isn't who I am though. Like, I'm just just a gay guy. there are other things about me, and thus I don't usually tell people or discuss it unless they ask.

Just to clarify things. ​
 
MagicMasher said:
...:hmph: So, the fact they aren't ready to reveal they like guys/girls pisses you off? You can't rush stuff like that. And I highly doubt what you described happens very often...and even if it does, most rush into those types of relationships because they think that by getting married and starting a family it will ease away the feelings, when all it does is put them on a backburner to erupt later.
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It happens more often then you think...
@Kelly
I used the explanation of the homo marrying a woman and having kids and then confesses..IMO that is lying to your family for years and even betrayal..

1+1 =2 , do the math Kelly..

Yeah not all gays are liars but those that marry a woman and have kids..and bla bla bla,, ARE LIARS>..!!

You know its damn hard to explain my believes and opinions...im dutch for God's Sake.....:ffs:


Also MagicMasher I edited my previous post as in replying to your post.
 
Kelly said:
And while Im on one, who cares that obamas black? OH WOW FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT, and what? Hes just another fucking man. his colour shouldnt make a dot of diofference, considering everyone wants to be treated equal, they dont half fuel this so called fucking divide between folk by making a fucking song and dance about the fact that he happens to be black
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It's significant that a black man has ascended to the highest political office in the nation when just 40 years ago black kids still attended separate schools. Even though we're pushing society towards removing race/orientation/etc. from being the first judgment we make on a person, it doesn't mean we forget that it is a defining characteristic, or that we don't celebrate when we see those types of prejudices overcome.

Kelly said:
edit* WEhy are they liars? Do they have to walk around with a placcard saying IM GAY?
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On top of this, they get married because they feel enormous pressure to suppress their sexual orientation because someone has taught them that it is wrong and they are wrong for feeling these particular urges. It's called cognitive dissonance, and conforming to soceity's norms as much as possible is a way of coping with the discomfort that it creates.

They are very much not liars. They are simply trying to protect themselves.
 
if you have kids then decide to accept that you are gay that doesnt mean you dont love them the same as you did when people thought otherwise. ok it would be devastating for the partner, though i think theyd probly suspect something at some point.
 
@ Ohri dont patronise me thanks :]

My mate was with a man and had 2 kids, she wasnt decieving anyone, she didnt really know herself til recently. You dont know the ins and outs of everyones lives

Yeah, maybe some people do do that, but not everything is as black and white as it may seem

regardless of WHO they get caught sleeping with its shitty
 
Ohri-Jin said:
It happens more often then you think...
@Kelly
I used the explanation of the homo marrying a woman and having kids and then confesses..IMO that is lying to your family for years and even betrayal..

1+1 =2 , do the math Kelly..

Yeah not all gays are liars but those that marry a woman and have kids..and bla bla bla,, ARE LIARS>..!!
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@Rinoa: : Rock on~

@Ohri: Hm. You do realize it happens because the person doesn't want to accept it, right? That's usually the case. You think they WANT to purposefully deceive (we'll use the words you're using) someone? Not really. They want to wholeheartedly like woman and do not want to have any part with their desire to be in a relationship with a man. Many people do even more drastic things than marrying in hopes that it just passes by.

I don't think you understand the gravity and stress that trying to keep it in or denying it puts on you. :hmmm:

EDIT: What Terry said. :hmmm:
 
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It wouldn't bother me, in fact a lot of my friends are bi or gay, including myself, so... no. If people see it as a way to treat another differently then as already said, how good of a friend are you then?

Just because someone likes the same sex doesn't mean that they'll go after every single person, including you. Kelly said this before, but it's true, it works both ways and I think it's just because a lot of people don't understand it.

On top of this, they get married because they feel enormous pressure to suppress their sexual orientation because someone has taught them that it is wrong and they are wrong for feeling these particular urges. It's called cognitive dissonance, and conforming to soceity's norms as much as possible is a way of coping with the discomfort that it creates.

They are very much not liars. They are simply trying to protect themselves.
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It's not a nice thing but it does happen, as I grew up I was under the impression that it was wrong/immortal/dirty etc, but at the end of the day, how is it? It's not exactly like you go around trying to hook up with every straight person. Also, to those of you who think it's a choice... it really isn't, I can tell you that from personal experience.
 
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I found this image a few weeks ago and I find it quite fitting here.

It really is much more complicated than "you either are, or you aren't", or even "you either are, aren't or are both". We're quite an incompetent species in that we never really fully understand our feelings or emotions all of the time. We aren't handed a list at the end of a day which explains the meaning of our thoughts, feelings or chemicals. Some people simply have more complicated things going on inside them than others. That's the same for anything, and not just sexuality. As a result, it can take people a long time to discover themselves, and people may not even like what they are suddenly being told that they are, and don't enjoy it at all.

I don't know many open homosexuals, but I can imagine that I'd be surprised a little if a close friend I've known for years did "come out" (if that should even be used, as it isn't even as simple as that). That said, I guess I wouldn't be too surprised (surprised and not surprised at the same time :hmmm:) since my friends and myself aren't exactly pin-up hunks of masculinity (not that appearance is even an indicator), and neither of them, like myself, ever talk about who we "like" or girls or anything like that. It just doesn't enter conversation between us, so I really don't know much about what my friends are attracted to since the lot of us don't have any luck with relationships regardless.


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Honestly, it wouldn't phase me at all. It might surprise me, but, I wouldn't stop being their friend or treat them any differently. It amazes me how narrow minded some people can be, at the end of the day, it's just sex. Does it matter who your friend wants to sleep with? At the end of the day, that act won't affect you at all, you're not involved. They're still the same person they've always been.

As for the issue of whether they'd start acting more "feminine" more power to them if they do, I say. I'd hate to think that my friends couldn't be themselves around me, and I'd never reject them if they started behaving how they wanted to behave; instead of conforming to how the norm in society expects them to behave.
 
I don't think I know anyone in real life that is gay. :hmmm: I thought about this for a long while, but I haven't stumbled across anyone yet, I don't think. If I did, and they told me, I don't remember.

With that, you can probably tell how important it is to me to know, or how much I care about this.

What I don't like however, is the people that say it's perfectly fine to be gay, and then when someone says they feel awkward, and are honest about it, the one that is fine with it will go "Why? You're so rude! It's just a person!" :lew:

I can understand why someone would feel awkward, or would be distant even. It's feelings, you can't control that in these situations, I think, without lying to yourself, and others - if you were to say you are fine with it, though you feel uncomfortable.

To me, most of the time, a person is a person. Congratulations on the penis or vagina, and congratulations on what you fall for. I'm not gonna judge someone else while I still have my own life ahead of me, I think I'll concentrate on that. It's far more important to fuss on that.

I don't think I'd feel awkward if someone were to tell me, however, I do think I'd be like "Okay... You're telling me this why?" :lew: Just like I said, most of the time it's a bigger deal to the person coming out, than the person hearing it.

If it wasn't normal, it wouldn't be there, I think of it as more... uncommon.

What does make me facepalm though, is both guys and girl customers we get for example, there was this guy 'manly' looking I suppose, who had this sucked in cheeks going on to have a jawline stick out, I suppose.

With a glittered gold handbag, and had that annoying handflick going on, or the whole "Like omg? Yah, totally.", like seriously - you don't have to act that way. :ffs:

But that's just something that irks me about personality traits, not who they're into.
 
I'm gay, and i often think about coming out, i go to do it, then i will just forget about it. I'm worried about what my family and friends would think. One of my old school friends came out a couple of months ago and he got disowned by his parents. I don't really have too much to say on the subject as I don't have much experience. Though of course I would be fully supportive of any of my friends and family coming out, it may even help me to do it myself.
 
I wouldn't mind, i have alot of gay friends and i'm pretty much open minded.
Although, having a woman that i've lusted over tellin me she's gay would cut me up something fierce, but then again, i guess i'd respect that and ask to be mates, and go drink myself into a coma... world wonders for a guy like me :P
 
I'm considered gay to most people in real life (the real term to describe my sexuality is pansexual ). So clearly people should know that I'll be friends with anyone, irregardless of their sexual preferences. There are boys and girls that I have talked to on first impression and they would talk about stuff that they have done with their boyfriends/girlfriends, and I would talk to them back as if it were completely normal. I hate the Don't Ask Don't Tell policy in the army, especially since I'm all about free thinking, and I refuse to lie about anything personal - so not being able to talk about your preferences to other people would just be like not being able to talk about anything to anyone. Any details you want about my sexuality, I won't hesitate to give. And I'll see the homophobes in hell .
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Who gives a shit? So your own gender makes you feel funny in your pants, okay. That's cool. A lot of the rest of the world is the same way, and I don't care. You're still the same human being I knew yesterday. I wouldn't have any reaction.

Honestly, I fucken hate having to go through someone coming out to me. It's supposed to be all emotional, but it just doesn't do anything for me. There are homos in this world, just like there are bis and heteros in this world. If someone who thought they were gay for the longest time came up to me and said "I think I'm straight..." I wouldn't have any type of reaction. But of course it's not about me, so I don't even know what the fuck I'm supposed to do/say. Someone's sexuality is none of my fucken business anyways.
 
Someone is gay just on bed and supposing this everything else is normal tipically... unless a straight gal/guy gets disappointed to want to date her/him ^^
 
It wouldn't make a difference to me. A person is who they are and unless that's like a serial murderer, it would take a lot for me to disown a friend or a family member. In this case, I don't think it's a choice and it's certainly not something I'm going to hold against them.
 
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