I'm so upset...

[Serah]

Before I post this, please just let me say this is a serious topic. I debated on whether or not to post this in the Sleeping Forest, so I'll just stick it here for now. Also please no insulting or flaming me...okay? I honestly never really post stuff like this, but to be honest if I don't get this off my chest I'm seriously going to explode. My son started preschool last year. A few months into it, he got really sick with a throat infection called Croup. It kept worsening and worsening, and he ended up with whooping cough. He missed about 2 weeks of school because of how sick he was.

Off and on throughout the year he'd miss days because of how sick he'd get. He ended up with food poisoning (actually all of us did) for about a week, and he missed a couple of days of school out of that. Another problem we had is mine and my husband's medical problems. We'd have doctor's appointments and such and have to keep him home from school because nobody would be here to pick him up off the bus. My mom would never help and my step dad is constantly working. We pretty much have nobody here. My mom has moved off to Iowa now (because she and my step dad split up last month) and we REALLY have nobody to help us at all...We literally have nobody here.

Well, today the school called and they're kicking my little 5 year old boy out of preschool because he's missed so much school because of being so sick and for lack of help. I don't know what to do. I mean I know there's only really 2 months left of school, but still. I'm absolutely devastated, and I have no idea how I'm going to explain to Logan that school is over. I can't afford the tuition of the other preschools around here, and I just don't know what to do. I tried calling my mom and talking to her about it, but instead of getting the support of a mother she told me I was an effing irresponsible mother.

So, she and I ended up getting into a shouting match over the phone. I tried so hard to tell her that what I needed was the support of MY mother because there are times when I don't even know what I'm doing is right as a parent, and I'm bound to make mistakes. Then she proceeded to scream at me and tell me she HAS supported me which is bullshit, and I told her as much. She then throws in my face "Then what do you want from me!? I don't support you because I don't give you money!?" ....Money? MONEY has NOTHING to do with it! I swear that's all that fucking woman cares about is MONEY.

What I need is the love, support and guidance from my mother when I make mistakes as a parent. Why does being a parent have to be so scary sometimes, and why can't I just get family support like I need? I'm sorry for ranting, it's just I've been crying all morning knowing my son is about to be pulled away from all his friends and not see them until sometime in the fall and he loves school so much...and I don't even know what to do or where to turn or HOW to tell him that he just had his last day at school...

 

[Meiks]

I assume you showed medical papers and doctors notes to show the absence of you kid sometimes that helps rather than just saying he was sick.Sounds weird to kick a kid out for being sick for 2 weeks then with 2 months left kicking him out.What do you mean lack of help like school work and stuff like that?.I would try to go to that school and try to talk to them and well if theres anything you can do to keep em there but you might have already done this.I would say dont give you is all.

 

[Serah]

Of course I did, I'm not daft. x_x I always sent doctor's notes and a note written by myself explaining why he was seen by the doctor and why he was out of school for those days. He was even sent to school with his prescription medications he's had to take. Yeah it seems a bit odd to me. They were so cold-hearted about it as well. I just don't understand it...it makes no sense to me. I called them back and got their voice mail so I left them a message, demanding records of the days he was absent, etc...

 

[Gaige]

Really I don't know what to say to make it any better but surely, since you've paid these tuition fees, you have the right to send your son to school and surely the teachers have the responsibility to teach your child, otherwise you're not really getting what you paid for. I know it's not about money, and I really sympathise with you and your son, but it won't be long now until your son will be going to primary school, or elementary as I believe you call it there. The best thing to do is show them medical papers and try to appeal to the owner's better nature. If that doesn't work, I suggest writing to your local Board of Education. When my cousin was kicked out of preschool for her absence, they managed to get her back into the school, because what the Board cares about is the education of children. They won't just stand by and do nothing.

 

[M1ghty Mous3]

A. Don't take this the wrong way but, I think your mom just doesn't care. IF all she wants is money then she's not worth the effort.

B. The school, in my eyes, has committed a big foul. Yes, he's missed some school due to being sick, but then again theirs kids that miss more and don't get a slap on the wrist. I find it to be an injustice that a PRESCHOOLER is kicked out due to being sick. Do they have any idea how this can effect a kid his age?

I'm not sure if money is tight around the household or not, but have you tried hiring a babysitter? When you say there is nobody around i take it you also mean theirs no family that lives nearby. I wish i could of more help. I really do. Kicking a preschooler out and having your mother yell at you for your parenting skills is horrible. I wish you the best of luck during these troubling times.

 

[Scarlet]

Whaaaaaa!!!??? That is so fucking stupid! What the hell? Does the pre-school want everything to be documented so you can prove to them that your son missed school because of sick days!? Shouldn't they have asked for doctor notes before kicking your son out? It's not like you brought him to Disney on vacation, and purposely missed school. Some parents did when I was in grade school.

That's such a bullshit reason to sick your son out. First of all, kids get sick a lot... A LOT. It's common that kids miss quite a few days from school at such an early age. And really... It's preschool.... Does it really matter that missed out on a few weeks of school? It's not like he's in High School and cutting school on purpose.

If I was you, I would threaten to school that you'll bring them to court. Your son has two more months to finish up school, and wasn't he doing really well? =/ Not to mention, this is rather traumatizing to a child.

On a side note... One of my friends missed out on quite a bit of school because of her's and her family's health. Our high school did help her work around the situation and she was able to graduate with her grade. I don't see how this pre-school can't pass your son. It seems like they're uncaring and don't want to deal with the hassle of passing your son. Sounds like bullshit to me.

Your mom is a bitch. She only cares about herself. You're not a bad parent. Don't blame yourself.

 

[Meiks]

The best thing to do is show them medical papers and try to appeal to the owner's better nature. If that doesn't work, I suggest writing to your local Board of Education. When my cousin was kicked out of preschool for her absence, they managed to get her back into the school, because what the Board cares about is the education of children. They won't just stand by and do nothing.

Oh yeah I forgot about the Board of Education that always helps rather than just going to the school.

since you've paid these tuition fees, you have the right to send your son to school and surely the teachers have the responsibility to teach your child, otherwise you're not really getting what you paid for.

Agreed if it was just a normal public preschool would have been diffrent but still not a good excuse to kick a child out.

I really wouldn't trust a babysitter after what i have seen in the news and on the net i would rather choose a close friend.But since you say you don't have anyone around you to help I guess a babysitter would be the closest thing to or just change work shifts one night and your husband day something like that.

Btw isn't there something called "No Child is left behind".

 

[Saix]

I'd recommend contacting the governing body of the school, rather than enquiring to the school itself; this sounds like complete bullshit to me, and Logan's medical needs should've been accommodated rather than snubbed. More like a teacher's intolerance more than anything tbh. =/

This really blows. Take it high, Mandi.

 

[Mitsuki]

There should be no reason for the school to kick Logan out. Thing is, they would have sent him home anyway due to his sickness, so you actually did them a favor by not sending Logan to school. I mean what did they expect you to do, exactly? My guess is that one of the teachers had complained to the administrators about Logan missing so many days, and it's their intention to bring the ratio down as much as possible to make work easier for them. It's a possibility - I've seen it happen before. I would definitely bring it up with the board. As long as you pay the tuition fee on time, the school have no reason to deny your child in their system.

Anyway, I'll talk more about this with you on MSN.

 

[Aztec Triogal]

Sorry that it happened. Hopefully it gets fixed.

I also wasn't aware that pre-school was that important these days.

 

[Fusilli]

This is really, really unfair on your son. What kind of idiots are running that nursery?! If a kid has missed a lot of school then how exactly is kicking them out going to help the matter? It'll just make whatever they have missed out on even worse, idiots. =/ And it's not like he'll have missed out on lots of work either, as far as I know children go to nursery to play and make friends.

If I were you, Mandi, I would go down there tomorrow and fight for your son. There's only a couple of months left in the school year anyway so what would be the point in kicking him out at this stage?

 

[Serah]

I'd recommend contacting the governing body of the school, rather than enquiring to the school itself; this sounds like complete bullshit to me, and Logan's medical needs should've been accommodated rather than snubbed. More like a teacher's intolerance more than anything tbh. =/

This really blows. Take it high, Mandi.

I plan on going straight to the board of education about this. It makes no sense to me. None of it does. They say Logan's missed too much school, so let's kick him out 2 months before the semester ends. None of it makes any fucking sense to me. You can bet I WILL be going down there tomorrow and fighting for him. I paid tuition to get him into that school and you're all right. With as sick as he's been, if I'd sent him off to school I would've been getting phone calls to come and pick him up anyway. It just pisses me off that they can be so cold-hearted as to call me, bitch me out because my kid missed school for being ill and then tell me today is his last day. What gives them the right to throw a child out of school JUST because he's been sick? There is none. Anyway, thanks guys. I do feel better after some of your posts. This is just frustrating beyond belief.

 

[Coco]

I seem to be a little late in all of this, but I just wanna say I really agree with all this being nonsense. You SHOULD go down there and fight for your son.. Whether he missed two weeks, those were valid absences. It's not right for them to kick him out.

I wish you luck during these utterly frustrating times.. Hang in there!

 

[Shu]

Yes ma'am I would really lose my head if I had a child who was kicked out due to being chronically ill and such. I mean at best they could have warned me even the slightest that they were considering a strict attendance policy at a "PRE-SCHOOL!" I mean not everyone can stay at home with their kids all day long, most of us have to work and make money for our families.

It kills me to see the lack of humility some people have and/or empathy. If I were you I would fight this in the most civil way. Legalities take time and money, so I wouldn't bring in the law for this, this should be a simple... work over in my opinion. And Mom's will always be guilt whores in my opinion. That and they are crazy in their own ways. I hope for your sake one day she comes to and realizes you only needed a friend in her to talk to.

Sorry again for the shiznit you are going through this week. We are always on the side line to help and cheer though when shit goes right. Take care now!

 

[PrincessGarnet]

Im so sorry this has happened. As a parent,I understand how this is affecting you. Although my son is not in school,I know that if this happened I would be just as torn up about it as you are! I hope you will be able to get everything straightened out with the school. It's not your fault in any way that you do not have anyone to help you out with your child when you need it. I wish that your mom was more of a mom. I wish she would help you out,watch your child when you needed her to,or take him to school when you aren't able to. It's not like you are one of those people who just use their parents as an excuse to dump their kids off with them just because. Your mom sounds like she is the bad parent,not you. You are trying so hard for your child, and once again I hope it all works out.

You sound like to me you are doing a great job raising your child and being a great mom to your child. As a first time mom,I know you probably are wondering if you are doing certain things right. I know I am always wondering that. I usually ask my pediatrician. Since your mom won't talk to you about those things,maybe you can ask someone similar.

And I don't know how you feel about nannys or babysitters. I know Im very picky when it comes to people watching my child. I usually only will let his grandparents do it. Im even skeptical when it comes to letting my own sister watch him and she is older then me. I hope that you are able to work something out and find someone who you can trust to get your son to school on days that you can't or watch him when you need someone to.

I wish you all the luck and am so sorry for all of this happening.

 

[Serah]

So we had our meeting yesterday, brought in all the necessary documents, proof, doctor's notes, etc...(I had to go his doctor's office to get records and excuses from the doctor himself even though they ALREADY HAD THEM), and they were quite adamant on not letting him return. It was a waste of fucking time, I could've done all this shit with them over the phone. They even threatened me and tried to scare me by saying if this happens next year when he's in kindegarten that the truancy officer will be coming to my door and questioning me, blah blah etc...They were downright shitty basically, but I kept my calm the whole time as best as I possibly could. Then his teacher decides to finally speak up and say that Logan is well advanced over all the other kids in the classroom anyway, and he's pretty much ready for kindegarten...

So I demanded a refund for this month's tuition. At first they tried to tell me since he attended the beginning of March we couldn't get our money back. This was when I got pissed. I was getting just a little sick of the director's attitude and coldness with me, so I got about two inches from her face and told her they either refund me that money or I'd get a lawyer and we'd take it to court. I wanted to THROTTLE her. Dave pulled me back. They didn't like that much, so they're refunding me the tuition money for the month of March. They said I should see it in arrive in the mail in check form within the week.

If that money isn't in here in one week I'm going to be infuriated. I'm already upset enough that they threatened all this shit on me and now that I've threatened to get a lawyer they've backed down. I don't know if I seemed vulnerable to them or not, but I wasn't. I didn't let my guard down either. I just don't see how ONE SCHOOl, a preschool of all things, could just kick a child out for being extremely ill like Logan was! It's downright cruel to deny a child education, but that's fine. I can teach him on my own for the next 2 months anyway and work with him by myself. That school can seriously kiss my ass.

 

[Meiks]

They even threatened me and tried to scare me by saying if this happens next year when he's in kindegarten that the truancy officer will be coming to my door and questioning me, blah blah etc...

This never works for some reason why question if you have the excuse i'd have to say this never work one time in high school i didnt go for 5 months.

SThen his teacher decides to finally speak up and say that Logan is well advanced over all the other kids in the classroom anyway, and he's pretty much ready for kindegarten...

So she didnt say that before you went though all this until then lol what a bitch.

So I demanded a refund for this month's tuition. At first they tried to tell me since he attended the beginning of March we couldn't get our money back. This was when I got pissed. I was getting just a little sick of the director's attitude and coldness with me, so I got about two inches from her face and told her they either refund me that money or I'd get a lawyer and we'd take it to court. I wanted to THROTTLE her. Dave pulled me back. They didn't like that much, so they're refunding me the tuition money for the month of March. They said I should see it in arrive in the mail in check form within the week.

Assuming you rather have your son in school then getting your money back but then again its good you are getting your money back.

That school can seriously kiss my ass.

All in all it kinda sucks that you didnt get what you wanted which i think was to keep your son in school hope something better pops up though.

 

[Serah]

I would prefer to have my son in school absolutely, but no matter what I said, no matter what I showed to PROVE to them that my son had a legitimate excuse for being absent they STILL would not allow him to come back. Since they weren't letting him come back, I wanted a refund of the tuition I paid. It's less than 2 months before the kids are out for summer vacation anyway. I highly doubt he's going to miss out on anything important.

 

[Six]

I don't know if this is still going on (from what I assume it is) I can't do anything about it really, but I wish you and your son the best of luck, and hope everything works out just fine. *Hugs tight*