Serious Job sucks/still living at home

[DarkLordSephiroth66]

Well, here goes.

(laugh if you want)I'm currently 25, and still living in my parents house.
The reason(s) is/are:

1) That my current job pays shit wages(8.75/hr)+job=diswasher/kitchen help=lame

2) My car is currently fucked up at the moment: Blown head-gaskets

3) I look for other forms of employment but most of the jobs in my state(WI) are looking for someone with "experience" in their job field and the only jobs I have had so far are either Dish-washing/kitchen help and my only "Industrial" job, wich was 5 years ago and the company i was working for then laid of all their employees(including myself).

4)Every job interview i have either goes to shit, or I am not qualified enough for the job I interview for.

5) I am currently not getting enough hours to be able to save enough $ to move out of my parents house(which really pisses me off)

 

[Ilyena]

I'm guessing this is just a general rant thread overall?

There's nothing wrong with still living with your parents if you can't afford to move out on your own. It would be really silly of you to move into a place of your own if you're unable to afford the monthly bills.

You should probably try and save money to fix your car and then you'd at least be able to expand your range for a job search.

You say you're a dishwasher. Do you work in a restaurant? If so, maybe you can try moving up to another kitchen position. The restaurant I used to work in paid the cooks pretty well. Or you can try moving out to restaurant and becoming a server or bartender. You can make pretty good money doing that.

At least working out in the restaurant will give you customer service experience and you can build from there. Some customer service jobs pay pretty well.

 

[Tom Badguy]

I wouldn't feel bad about living with your parents. Some of my friends still do. But what is the cost of living in Wisconsin? $8.75/hr seems like enough to get at least a studio apartment if you work 40 hours a week. Is rent high or something there?

 

[DarkLordSephiroth66]

I wouldn't feel bad about living with your parents. Some of my friends still do. But what is the cost of living in Wisconsin? $8.75/hr seems like enough to get at least a studio apartment if you work 40 hours a week. Is rent high or something there?

The cheapest single-bedroom apartments I have found in my area run about $700/month+security deposit and 1st and last months rent. And again my car is in the crapper for now untill i get my U.S. Federal Tax returns back.

 

[Tom Badguy]

Good lord, why is rent so fucking high there?? I live in a two bedroom apartment and it's only $550/month. That does sound like a real pickle. Good luck.

 

[DarkLordSephiroth66]

I'm guessing this is just a general rant thread overall?

yes just a general rant..........im in a bad mood(day of post)

Good lord, why is rent so fucking high there??

Good question. I wish I knew. Maybe it has something to do with the renter's insurance here? *proceeds to do research on why rent in Wisconsin is so ridiculously expensive*

But thanks for the good luck wishes

 

[Bambi]

my mum wont have me back, id love to live back at home

i really dont think its looked upon as a bad thing to still live with your parents in the current climate, its really hard to make that first step these days with the ridiculous cost of everything

 

[bearsfwd]

The only time living with your parents is looked upon as odd is when you are in your thirties, not working, and you live in the basement, and it is covered from wall to wall in collector's edition star wars/trek paraphernalia. /sterotype


I actually moved back INTO my parents house since I had lost my job and couldn't afford living in my apartment anymore. And if it makes you feel anywhere, all the apartments I originally looked at (here in South Central PA) were over $700. I happened to get lucky and found one for $549.

 

[Valvalis]

Actually I think $700/month apartments are mid-range for the U.S. average Where I live (south FL) it's about $900-$1000 a month just for a studio, honest to goodness it's actually cheaper to buy a 2/2 townhouse on a mortgage than rent a place (if you don't mind waiting a year and a half for banks to get their shit together that is ). So $700 really isn't as bad as it could be.

And as far as still living at home, there's certainly no stigma to that which I can see, and IMHO it's pretty lame whenever I hear people criticize/make fun of someone for still living at home when it has absolutely nothing to do with a person's merit or character. There are plenty of spoiled young people who can only afford to live on their own because they have rich parents who give them shitloads of money for no reason, and pay for their apartments, bills, college, cars, speeding tickets etc. And maybe some of them are nice but a lot of those kids aren't even worth talking to, believe me I've met plenty of them and they think they're hot shit and are quite obnoxious and think they're better than everyone else So tl;dr, living away from home definitely doesn't dictate whether a person is cool or not.

There are about a million reasons why young people have trouble moving out, it doesn't automatically mean they have trouble managing their money or something, so I don't see why there should be any shame in it. Financially our lives are pretty much controlled directly by the big cheeses at the top (CEOs, government etc.), so if you can't get a good paying job there's not a lot you can do about it, and college doesn't guarantee a job anymore like it used to either. If everyone's financial situations are ever going to get better, then it has to happen by way of resources across the world being managed better by those who have control over them, and how we manage to make a living on our own individual levels is only under our control to a certain extent.

Therefore, lack of money = no shame at all, unless the person has honestly just sat there and pissed it all away on useless/consumable luxury items. And though yeah, some young people may do this and have to live at home because of it, it's certainly not the case all the time.

 

[Rapture]

I feel for you really, but the plus side is that you have food to eat and a roof over your head. I'm not trying to patronize but there are many people out there who don't have any jobs in Wisconsin (and many other states) that have families that they are trying to support on what is veritably zero income...so try and be grateful for those things that you do have.

First I'd save up whatever you can to get your car fixed, that way whenever something job-wise eventually comes along for you...you have a ride that will get you back and forth while you save to move out of your parents house.

Look around on the internet and read the papers for something close to your house that is within walking distance if you are UBER desperate...that way you could walk to work if you had to (which would probably be more practical, that way you can save all of that gas money whenever you get your car up and running).

All I can say to you is chin up. The unemployment rate is horrible in Wisconsin and there are many down on their luck. Something will eventually come along. If not, you at least have a roof over your head for now.

 

[coffeecup]

Nothing wrong with living in your parents' house if you're going to be in the same city anyway. Saves you a lot of cash. Moving out for the sake of moving out is a bit...juvenile imo.

Anyway, I'm sure you've considered this, but what are your thoughts in investing some $$$ for higher education, in either a community college or a vocational school? Yes it's comparatively expensive and there is risk involved (i.e., loans), but with the right preparation you can easily jettison yourself into a higher pay grade.

Like I said, you just need to plan right and be very careful. You spend big bucks on the wrong place and you'll just end up coming out with similar job prospects with the additional burden of student debt. Take the time to thoroughly research the institutions you may be interested in, and plan to apply late (even 2 years from now to up your credentials). Preparation is really key in ensuring that you're going to get the most value for your education.

 

[Sepalcure]

Dude, there is nothing wrong with living in your parents' house at your age. I'm actually a little irked that you have a problem with it. I only say that because I know people personally who would kill to have a car and a job and a roof over their head with warm food to eat. I'm not your age but I know that I might not have enough money scraped together in my early 20s to move into my own place. My bf's sister is 24 I believe and she's still living with her mother, working very hard to hopefully get applied for a college grant so she can study to become a mortician.

You should be fortunate that you're making $8.75. Do what I'm doing though if you're not impressed with the current hourly wage you're making. Go out and apply at places within walking distance. As Stella said, it would be more practical since you mentioned already that your car isn't in the best condition. Focus on getting a job that pays you at least $8-10 an hour that you can wake up early and walk to (you won't have the excuse of NOT being able to make it to work that way too, plus side! ). Save up enough money to pay for your car repairs and then keep working, putting some money on the side to get yourself a $700-800 apartment, which mind you is a really fucking nice amount of rent in WI to start out with. In NJ, apartments here start around $1200-plus, the lowest you can get is around the pricing you listed and that's IF you're making at least $7.25 plus hourly. So you're very lucky just keep your chin up, the key here is positivity. If you think your life is shit and can't look at the bright side: you're working, you at least HAVE a car, you're parents allow you free lodging pretty much, etc. then you'll reap subpar results.

Put in the effort, try to find a better job whilst working this one, switch over to your new job when you get it, pay off your car repairs, and try to move out. And please think on the bright side. There are people starving, people who can't go to college, people doped up twice your age living at their parents' house. I know people who fucked up their lives, spending the money they got laid off with on useless shit, and now drink themselves into a stupor. I know people like my bf who work their asses off at 19 because they're trying to pay off car payments, insurance, and while living at their parents' they pay bills and shit. My boyfriend, not to brag, but he works his butt off even though he complains and bitches sometimes, because he KNOWS that he's going to school. No one has to tell him to be positive or that his life is harder than it should be because he has no dad to coach him on his shit. He has to fend for himself. I'm not preaching to be like him but attitude is everything too so consider that as well. Boosting yourself with a little pep talk in addition to walking around town and applying at place that don't even have a 'NOW HIRING' sign really shows that you want it. Want it. But be happy and optimistic about it too, I promise you that you'll see a turn around, due.