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A topic that has been on my mind for some time. What's your take on parents and their involvement in their children's education? What was it like for you and your parents (if you're comfortable to share some stories) when it came to your education? Were they involved on a regular basis, even going as far as being involved in school activities and the likes? Were they strict or lax with you? Share your experiences and struggles, whether it's from a parent's point-of-view or something you've noticed while growing up, etc.
Growing up (since I could write/read - 7 years old) my mom was really the only one involved in our education. I'm sure my dad was too but I don't remember any vivid memory at the moment. She was strict as hell, even going as far as locking my brother and I in our rooms (with her there, of course) until we finished our studies and homework. That was her rule: work before play. Their closet doors were filled with presidents names and info, ABCs, 123s, and whatever else she could think of. She did make it fun for us though, setting up competitions between my brother and I, creating little games to hold our attention, etc. In return, anything below a 90 was not good enough for her. I remember for a reward for getting 100% in school, she gave me an abacus while my brother got a toy truck. xD I actually loved it though - I remember wanting one for some reason. She probably drilled it in my head.
When I came to the U.S at 7 years of age, I knew how to read English fluently. Comprehension was something I did have trouble with, however. Without my mom there (she was left behind back home) I struggled pretty hard with my studies even though I wrote and read faster than most of the kids in my class. From then on, I can honestly say that my brother and I were left to ourselves with very little support and guidance from my dad and grandparents. My aunts would occasionally help me when I asked for help, but for the most part we were on our own. My brother's grades suffered tremendously and while I felt bad, I didn't really know how to take initiative to get him to focus, as he was all play and no work. I didn't always have a hard time with school though. Even with little help and guidance in my elementary years, I managed well with grades. When my dad married, my stepmom played a huge role in our lives and our education. She wasn't as attentive as my mom, but she was the one who attended parent meetings and helped my brother and I with school projects and homework as necessary.
High school was a breeze for me. Due to teenage hormones and personal stuff though, I started talking less to my stepmom to the point that I'd only utter a few words to her, sometimes none. If I needed advice, had to suck it up since I was too stubborn to ask her questions. So I put a lot of focus in my studies to avoid my stepmom as much as possible. I think I started hating the idea of relying on her, among other things. That's kind of how it seems, looking back on it.
Now that I'm a parent myself, I've taken some of my mom's traits when it comes to my children's education. Posting posters in my room, study sessions, quiet readings, etc. I'm not as strict as my mom though. Well, I guess that depends on how my daughter sees it. I am strict to a point. For instance, if I can't read her writing or there's way too many erase marks, I'll have her start over with her paper, much to her frustration. My daughter is now in 5th grade so work is a lot tougher. Taking accountability for her actions is something she'll be learning quite a bit too, as she seems to have adapted ways of making excuses to get out of trouble and tight situations. For many this may sound familiar. Been down that road a few times.
While I am not involved in my daughter's school organizations (PTA - parent-teacher association), I do make it a point to attend parent meetings and award ceremonies if I'm able. Same with my husband. Actually for the most part, we both attend meetings together. I believe that parent involvement is important, though I understand that sometimes it's hard.
Growing up (since I could write/read - 7 years old) my mom was really the only one involved in our education. I'm sure my dad was too but I don't remember any vivid memory at the moment. She was strict as hell, even going as far as locking my brother and I in our rooms (with her there, of course) until we finished our studies and homework. That was her rule: work before play. Their closet doors were filled with presidents names and info, ABCs, 123s, and whatever else she could think of. She did make it fun for us though, setting up competitions between my brother and I, creating little games to hold our attention, etc. In return, anything below a 90 was not good enough for her. I remember for a reward for getting 100% in school, she gave me an abacus while my brother got a toy truck. xD I actually loved it though - I remember wanting one for some reason. She probably drilled it in my head.
When I came to the U.S at 7 years of age, I knew how to read English fluently. Comprehension was something I did have trouble with, however. Without my mom there (she was left behind back home) I struggled pretty hard with my studies even though I wrote and read faster than most of the kids in my class. From then on, I can honestly say that my brother and I were left to ourselves with very little support and guidance from my dad and grandparents. My aunts would occasionally help me when I asked for help, but for the most part we were on our own. My brother's grades suffered tremendously and while I felt bad, I didn't really know how to take initiative to get him to focus, as he was all play and no work. I didn't always have a hard time with school though. Even with little help and guidance in my elementary years, I managed well with grades. When my dad married, my stepmom played a huge role in our lives and our education. She wasn't as attentive as my mom, but she was the one who attended parent meetings and helped my brother and I with school projects and homework as necessary.
High school was a breeze for me. Due to teenage hormones and personal stuff though, I started talking less to my stepmom to the point that I'd only utter a few words to her, sometimes none. If I needed advice, had to suck it up since I was too stubborn to ask her questions. So I put a lot of focus in my studies to avoid my stepmom as much as possible. I think I started hating the idea of relying on her, among other things. That's kind of how it seems, looking back on it.
Now that I'm a parent myself, I've taken some of my mom's traits when it comes to my children's education. Posting posters in my room, study sessions, quiet readings, etc. I'm not as strict as my mom though. Well, I guess that depends on how my daughter sees it. I am strict to a point. For instance, if I can't read her writing or there's way too many erase marks, I'll have her start over with her paper, much to her frustration. My daughter is now in 5th grade so work is a lot tougher. Taking accountability for her actions is something she'll be learning quite a bit too, as she seems to have adapted ways of making excuses to get out of trouble and tight situations. For many this may sound familiar. Been down that road a few times.
While I am not involved in my daughter's school organizations (PTA - parent-teacher association), I do make it a point to attend parent meetings and award ceremonies if I'm able. Same with my husband. Actually for the most part, we both attend meetings together. I believe that parent involvement is important, though I understand that sometimes it's hard.