Artemisia
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A week ago my 17 year old brother's girlfriend disappeared from home. We all assumed she'd run away of her own accord; her parents found chat conversations on her computer with various men in nearby cities and towns, some in their 30s and 40s. She had been doing this behind her parent's and my brother's back for quite some time. She was missing for 4 days and was eventually returned to her parents by the police 4 days later. During this time my brother was beside himself, he had no contact with her and we all wondered why she had run away to these strange people she'd been flirting with over the internet and not to him or another friend in town. She had written the names of some of these men in notebooks and journals in her bedroom, surrounded by hearts and endearing phrases. No mention of my brother, his name not written anywhere. No little hearts and "I love you's" for him.
Needless to say I got rather inflamed regarding this girl. I openly expressed my distaste for her foolish actions and told my brother he'd best forget about her. However her parents kept getting him wrapped up in the situation, as well as my own mother. Anyway after she was returned home we were told she'd been abducted and gang-raped by these people she met online, who were supposedly planning to get her into drugs and sell her into prostitution. A case has been opened and the girl will be testifying against them in court.
Though what happened to her is absolutely horrific and I truly feel for her, I am still furious that she was doing all this flirting with other men behind my brother's back. Her internet profile stated she was 21, turning 22 (she is only 17). I tried to point this out to my brother, that she played all hard to get with him while she was having sexually explicit conversations online with these perverts. Now that she's back, she's crawling back up to him and he's carrying on like she's a heavenly saint who has been tragically defiled. When I told him I hoped she'd maybe start appreciating him more after this, he exploded at me, screaming at me and saying that I think she's a slut and I'm saying she deserved what happened to her, which is completely untrue. She made a very, very foolish mistake and unfortunately is paying a heavy price for it, something no girl ever deserves to go through no matter what she's done.
I don't know how to look at this girl now. I don't know what to say to her. I genuinely do feel terrible for what she went through but I still can't get past the fact that she was entertaining these men online with a fake persona while she was supposed to be dating my brother. I am in no way saying that she deserved what happened to her, not at all, but this issue has caused a great rift between me and brother and because I live close to my mom and him I have to interact with and hear about this girl all the time, and I honestly don't know what to do. I don't want my brother hurt by her, and even though she's probably learnt her lesson now, how do I know she isn't just using my brother in some other way? How do I speak to her and interact with her now?
Any advice??
Needless to say I got rather inflamed regarding this girl. I openly expressed my distaste for her foolish actions and told my brother he'd best forget about her. However her parents kept getting him wrapped up in the situation, as well as my own mother. Anyway after she was returned home we were told she'd been abducted and gang-raped by these people she met online, who were supposedly planning to get her into drugs and sell her into prostitution. A case has been opened and the girl will be testifying against them in court.
Though what happened to her is absolutely horrific and I truly feel for her, I am still furious that she was doing all this flirting with other men behind my brother's back. Her internet profile stated she was 21, turning 22 (she is only 17). I tried to point this out to my brother, that she played all hard to get with him while she was having sexually explicit conversations online with these perverts. Now that she's back, she's crawling back up to him and he's carrying on like she's a heavenly saint who has been tragically defiled. When I told him I hoped she'd maybe start appreciating him more after this, he exploded at me, screaming at me and saying that I think she's a slut and I'm saying she deserved what happened to her, which is completely untrue. She made a very, very foolish mistake and unfortunately is paying a heavy price for it, something no girl ever deserves to go through no matter what she's done.
I don't know how to look at this girl now. I don't know what to say to her. I genuinely do feel terrible for what she went through but I still can't get past the fact that she was entertaining these men online with a fake persona while she was supposed to be dating my brother. I am in no way saying that she deserved what happened to her, not at all, but this issue has caused a great rift between me and brother and because I live close to my mom and him I have to interact with and hear about this girl all the time, and I honestly don't know what to do. I don't want my brother hurt by her, and even though she's probably learnt her lesson now, how do I know she isn't just using my brother in some other way? How do I speak to her and interact with her now?
Any advice??