It is relationship-related of course,XD...
Anyway,I will try to be brief but I am gonna have to tell it all from the very beginning.
About a month ago...I was to go to an anime/cosplay party(I am also an anime fan).I found out about this party from the anime forum.So I wanted to go but had no one to go with.That's what I posted there.Then later on that day,someone messages me telling me that I can come with the group of people that will be meeting up on that day to go together.
I started thinking about attending to the party more seriously,and I started chatting with that person(who's a guy btw).He started to show interest in me and I kinda was too since he was talkative and I enjoy people like that.His interest in me grew with the day and he was looking forward to seeing me live on that day.He would talk to me everyday until that day(i started chatting with him 1 week before the party).As of that he would say whether we should talk a lot,do one thing or another when we meet and stuff like that.I told him not to make plans since it is not sure whether he will like each other when we meet irl and not feel disappointed later.He would continue to day-dream and I would try to not let him get all those he said seriously since you truly have no idea how a future event is gonna turn out.
So that day came and we met up,in the end friends of mine accompanied me to the party too.He was waiting at the spot he said he would be waiting.He was with a friend.We shook hands and stuff,then headed to meet up with the rest of the people we were supposed to go to the party.
I was kinda shy on that day(which I believe it is pretty natural in a new situation with people you don't know).We arrived at the party(which took place at a bar/club)we sat at a table me and the two friends and his friend and another person.He basically just left and sat with another girl and stayed with her all night,despite everything he had told me he'd do once we'd meet.Surely I got mad and felt really stupid for that kind of thing,cause I was kinda expecting to chat with him at the bar.The next day he started dating her,XD.(I kinda find this so funny,since he knew her less than me,he had chatted with her online for like 2 or 3 days and then when they met they got in relationship)
This is the first part...
Like I said he had a friend that was with him at the party.He seemed like a nice guy so I be-friended him the next day at the forum and started chatting.
In the meantime,the guy who made a fool of me,kept talking to me.
His friend added me on MSN.It seemed that he had taken a liking on me too.And so said the guy who made a fool of me(how am I supposed to call him?Hm...Guy A).
I decided to go out a day with the Guy A's friend to see how he is cause he was pretty shy at the party.Well,the Guy A kept trying to give me advice like "talk a bit cause he is shy and the conversation will end if you don't try" or "he's shy,he doesn't talk much" etc.You get the idea.So I went out with the friend and had fun...But the weird person I am,that is not enough for me to start dating a person.Sure,he was ok...but he caused me no feelings,like excitement,or a lot of sympathy for him etc.He was just,simply well-liked,nothing special for me.I was not trying to rush though on my decision,so I wasn't sure whether I'd reject him or not,since it is very hard from just one meeting.I arranged for a second one.Guy A found out and he stuck his nose...trying to give me "advice" again.He started telling me that maybe I should kiss his friend(oh yeah,they're e-friends,not very close I think irl) and stuff like that.I had an argument over it non-the less,cause while I don't consider myself a traditionalist,I do prefer to take my own time and my pace is like a snail's....XD
Continuing now...I met for a second time with the second guy,I did not kiss him or anything since I did not felt like it.
After a week he asked me if it was going anywhere and I told him it was not.So that's how it ends,but we still chat as buddies.
I am asking now...why does everyone rush so much?Why a relationship so fast?Dating so fast?Kissing so fast and what more...
I don't get it,is it that it appears way too fast in my eyes or others see it too?Or maybe it is me who is out of time and place and don't go well with today's reality?
Like I mentioned I am not a traditionalist.I am fine with people who enjoy having one night stands,those before marriage and so on.I even have an interest in discussions related to sex.The thing is...I cannot go against my feelings.When thinking whether I should go in a relationship with the friend of the first guy I felt such a dillema.Cause I wanted so bad to try a relationship,to see how it is,to gain some experience but if I did so I felt like violating myself.I didn't feel any romantic interest in that person,so why should I pretend to by kissing him?For me these things are expressions of love not just whatever!I can't reall get how people function...how can they show affection to another person if they don't feel like it?
Why should I rush into things?WHY?Romantic interest develops,it's not just like that,in my opinion at least.Why is everyone kissing,dating,doing one thing and another like there is no tomorrow.I totally don't get it.Maybe it's me who has a problem and can't start dating a person whom I know only 2 or 3 days.
This is all I wanted to say and would really like to hear opinions from both girls and guys.Sorry if my post is hard to read...for whatever is making it hard for you to understand what I have written just tell me so and I'll make it clear.
Anyway,I will try to be brief but I am gonna have to tell it all from the very beginning.
About a month ago...I was to go to an anime/cosplay party(I am also an anime fan).I found out about this party from the anime forum.So I wanted to go but had no one to go with.That's what I posted there.Then later on that day,someone messages me telling me that I can come with the group of people that will be meeting up on that day to go together.
I started thinking about attending to the party more seriously,and I started chatting with that person(who's a guy btw).He started to show interest in me and I kinda was too since he was talkative and I enjoy people like that.His interest in me grew with the day and he was looking forward to seeing me live on that day.He would talk to me everyday until that day(i started chatting with him 1 week before the party).As of that he would say whether we should talk a lot,do one thing or another when we meet and stuff like that.I told him not to make plans since it is not sure whether he will like each other when we meet irl and not feel disappointed later.He would continue to day-dream and I would try to not let him get all those he said seriously since you truly have no idea how a future event is gonna turn out.
So that day came and we met up,in the end friends of mine accompanied me to the party too.He was waiting at the spot he said he would be waiting.He was with a friend.We shook hands and stuff,then headed to meet up with the rest of the people we were supposed to go to the party.
I was kinda shy on that day(which I believe it is pretty natural in a new situation with people you don't know).We arrived at the party(which took place at a bar/club)we sat at a table me and the two friends and his friend and another person.He basically just left and sat with another girl and stayed with her all night,despite everything he had told me he'd do once we'd meet.Surely I got mad and felt really stupid for that kind of thing,cause I was kinda expecting to chat with him at the bar.The next day he started dating her,XD.(I kinda find this so funny,since he knew her less than me,he had chatted with her online for like 2 or 3 days and then when they met they got in relationship)
This is the first part...
Like I said he had a friend that was with him at the party.He seemed like a nice guy so I be-friended him the next day at the forum and started chatting.
In the meantime,the guy who made a fool of me,kept talking to me.
His friend added me on MSN.It seemed that he had taken a liking on me too.And so said the guy who made a fool of me(how am I supposed to call him?Hm...Guy A).
I decided to go out a day with the Guy A's friend to see how he is cause he was pretty shy at the party.Well,the Guy A kept trying to give me advice like "talk a bit cause he is shy and the conversation will end if you don't try" or "he's shy,he doesn't talk much" etc.You get the idea.So I went out with the friend and had fun...But the weird person I am,that is not enough for me to start dating a person.Sure,he was ok...but he caused me no feelings,like excitement,or a lot of sympathy for him etc.He was just,simply well-liked,nothing special for me.I was not trying to rush though on my decision,so I wasn't sure whether I'd reject him or not,since it is very hard from just one meeting.I arranged for a second one.Guy A found out and he stuck his nose...trying to give me "advice" again.He started telling me that maybe I should kiss his friend(oh yeah,they're e-friends,not very close I think irl) and stuff like that.I had an argument over it non-the less,cause while I don't consider myself a traditionalist,I do prefer to take my own time and my pace is like a snail's....XD
Continuing now...I met for a second time with the second guy,I did not kiss him or anything since I did not felt like it.
After a week he asked me if it was going anywhere and I told him it was not.So that's how it ends,but we still chat as buddies.
I am asking now...why does everyone rush so much?Why a relationship so fast?Dating so fast?Kissing so fast and what more...
I don't get it,is it that it appears way too fast in my eyes or others see it too?Or maybe it is me who is out of time and place and don't go well with today's reality?
Like I mentioned I am not a traditionalist.I am fine with people who enjoy having one night stands,those before marriage and so on.I even have an interest in discussions related to sex.The thing is...I cannot go against my feelings.When thinking whether I should go in a relationship with the friend of the first guy I felt such a dillema.Cause I wanted so bad to try a relationship,to see how it is,to gain some experience but if I did so I felt like violating myself.I didn't feel any romantic interest in that person,so why should I pretend to by kissing him?For me these things are expressions of love not just whatever!I can't reall get how people function...how can they show affection to another person if they don't feel like it?
Why should I rush into things?WHY?Romantic interest develops,it's not just like that,in my opinion at least.Why is everyone kissing,dating,doing one thing and another like there is no tomorrow.I totally don't get it.Maybe it's me who has a problem and can't start dating a person whom I know only 2 or 3 days.
This is all I wanted to say and would really like to hear opinions from both girls and guys.Sorry if my post is hard to read...for whatever is making it hard for you to understand what I have written just tell me so and I'll make it clear.
