true love

[Tyler Breeze]

I'd like to give a more serious response to this thread.

What do you define as "true love"?

True love, to me, is when two people can stay together through any up and down a relationship can throw at them. They can overcome any obstacle, and at the end of the day, still say that there is some sort of connection between them. An example of this would be my parents. Sure, they fight all the time, and they're mad at each other a lot. However, they're still together. They still enjoy movie nights, and hanging out together. To me, that's what true love is all about. They've been together for 17 years, and have went through every possible situation a relationship can go through (I should know, I was around for almost all of them >_>), but they're still loyal to each other.

Do you think it really exists?

Absolutely. I don't believe in the love at first sight stuff, but I do believe that in due time, and with a lot of hard work, you will find your "true love" at some point. It might not be until you're 50, but it'll happen. I do believe it exists.

Do you think you found it?

Err.... No. I don't even have a girlfriend right now, and I honestly don't want one for a while. I want to focus on these last few years of school/college first. I get the dirty looks from people (including my own family) when I say that, but it's just the way I am. I'm not the average teen. xD

If not have you given up hope on it?

Oh no, not at all. I know my future wife is out there somewhere, and hopefully, she'll be a WWE fan ^.^, but seriously, I know I'll find somebody eventually, and we'll be in "true love" together.

 

[Shu]

Maybe I've just been weathered a bit. I've been married for a good bit, I've been in a lot of relationships, but true love.. is not something I categorize lightly. It might be totally opposite from what you think too.

I love my wife. I love my brother. I love my nieces and I love my folks. I love my friends as well. True I love my wife quite a bit more, but it's not what I would call true love. Maybe I just have a very different meaning.

True love.. it's a spiritual/chemical thing to me. I have a very strong wavelength and charisma about me. People get along with me quite well, but some are more attracted to my outward personality and my looks than what I would consider who I really am. I focus a lot of my life working and trying to better myself these days. I lost a lot of that with trying to appease others over the years.

Always giving, always expecting not much of anything and only hoping for some kind of dream like humanity. Those dreams seem so damn far away. I'm not complaining a bit, I'm just saying. People are fickle and I am tired of trying to understand their fickle ways.

I can be a down right ass hat. I can also be a total ass hole when pushed. I can also be the best friend and I can also hold a person close and nurture. Though overall.. it's a combination.

True love can be brotherly or it could be something that stands above.

Here's a list of things I don't consider true love:

1) Sex - It fades. You can say you have great sex maybe up to 2 years if you are lucky. IF YOU ARE LUCKY. Then sex is sex, bottom line.
2) Looks, great. You have that for a bit. La-di-dah.
3) Conversation.. to a degree. If it's just straight talk, and conversational pieces you relate to, that's not a deciding factor of you. Especially if you date yourself.. that's the worst combination. Chemistry is chemistry it takes a lot to call it love. You have to understand that experience and learn from it. I don't mean experience in the.. "physical" sense.

The best thing I can say is. Know yourself before you even consider true love.

1) Who do you NOT mind showing your true self to at all times of the day?
2) Who do you mind being away from (2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, 10 years?), just as long as you know you can come back to that person?
3) Who do you think tries to build you to be a better person, without being condescending?
4) Are you finally willing to drop your walls?
5) What is your true intention of finding true love? Loneliness? Kids? Family? A dream? Physically being in someone's arms?

Now turn it on them:

1) What would you do for this person aside from just "being with them"?
2) How much would you sacrifice for them?
3) Are you willing to give them up for their own happiness?
4) Are you willing to be apart from them to give them time to grieve?
5) Are you willing to be patient?

True love is something rare. Rare is not even the word I'd call it. It's a fucking oddity. In fact it's so rare, that I don't even think I can find it, though I think others have.

True love is for those who have hit the bottom and have seen the path of giving up on themselves or pushing back as hard one forcibly can. To come out of it, and to actually do something not for you, but finally for everyone who has ever done right for you. No religious tie ins, no hidden agenda, just finally, to do something that fills you up.

It's the music that most try to hold on to forever. They try to go back and listen, and try to bring themselves back from nothing. The wavelength that makes one feel no pain. The most beautiful thing in the fucking world. It's the great communicator that ties us all together.

That's true love. Good luck to ya, I can only hope you find it. If you do, tell me about it.

 

[Howl]

I think that fairy tale romances encourage the notion that true love is out there, and that it's for everyone. This idea could really screw up a good thing for a lot of people. For instance, you may be unwilling to accept the flaws of someone that your currently with because you're under the impression that something better is out there. I personally believe that you make things better for yourself and everyone around you by accepting people (and the world for that matter) for who/what they are.

So, is it out there? Does it exist? Well, life is what you make of it...

I've been with my current...let's say 'partner' (because I feel as though the idea of marriage is obsolete in this day and age) for going on 9 years. Since high school. Considering that I've gone through multiple personality changes, as most people do during this particular range of time, I think that acceptance played a vital role in keeping us together. If either of us had decided to believe at any point in time that the best had yet to come, then by no means would we still be together. By noooo means.

At this point in time, I'd be willing to call it true love in the sense that it took a fair share of effort from the both of us. It's wasn't some welfare handout either, it was hard-earned, I'd say. When you work for something, you have much more appreciation for it's true value.

We poo in front of each other. It's the real deal.