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Do you like when people do this to you?
I have no problem at all hearing whats wrong with my friends and listening to whats bothering them. If i feel i can help in anyway or that telling me helps then im all ears and il do the best i can for them.

But it bugs me when people i barely know and/or im not close to at all do this. It doesnt feel right, i feel awkward and mostly i really dont care.
Some people ive spoke to in real life and on msn they start off a conversation with me by saying how shit things are for them atm. I dont like it at all.

I remember about a month back i went to a gig. AFterwards i was waiting for my pal outside having a smoke. This girl asked me for a lighter which i gave her. And immediately i got a story about how tough it was with her parents back she was a teenager. She had to keep elbows off the table. Wasnt allowed to talk with a full mouth.......i dont know you, i dont give a shit??? go away :rage:
 
I'm pretty much the same, I don't mind listening to friends' problems at all, but if someone I've just met starts giving me their life story it is a bit uncomfortable. Sometimes at work, a client whom I've only said five words to will start telling me things that I don't really care about. Or if it is something serious, I do feel bad about it, but I don't know how to respond because I have no idea what sort of remarks they're looking for me to give them, because I don't know them at all. Hell, I have trouble even saying the right things to good friends sometimes, so I'm not really sure how I would be able to give support to someone I've only met for five minutes :/ I'm always compelled to try, but I often fail miserably :ffs:
 
Big Casino said:
ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

Do you like when people do this to you?
I have no problem at all hearing whats wrong with my friends and listening to whats bothering them. If i feel i can help in anyway or that telling me helps then im all ears and il do the best i can for them.

But it bugs me when people i barely know and/or im not close to at all do this. It doesnt feel right, i feel awkward and mostly i really dont care.
Some people ive spoke to in real life and on msn they start off a conversation with me by saying how shit things are for them atm. I dont like it at all.

I remember about a month back i went to a gig. AFterwards i was waiting for my pal outside having a smoke. This girl asked me for a lighter which i gave her. And immediately i got a story about how tough it was with her parents back she was a teenager. She had to keep elbows off the table. Wasnt allowed to talk with a full mouth.......i dont know you, i dont give a shit??? go away :rage:
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Hahahaha

taxi drivers do my head in. im paying for you to take me from a to b, not to give me your life story, or I'LL start charging YOU

I really dont give a shit about other peoples problems if i dont know/care about them
 
Some people are a bit self righteous about it to be honest. Like if I have a troubled look at a party, I do not want to be asked about it the whole night. I had a pretty girl kept asking me while we were playing a drinking game with cards, and then followed me all around the house asking and then hanging her head. I'm like.. eh, I got a girl friend (at the time), no need to have two.

Sometimes I just think to much, let me do it so others don't have to etc. Over analytical and over critical about everything I do. Usually I let loose at parties, but something was on my mind fresh that night.

I hate folks like that, I don't mind telling my stuff, but I usually don't do it because I find it never helps me to be honest. I also hate the folks who like to give their own little feed back. If someone says "Yo what's wrong.. dude" I'll usually respond in a short reply and then get "Well I wouldn't .. blah blah blah." Well if I wanted your opinion I would of asked!!!! I don't do it to you. On MSN occasionally if I notice someone is in a shit mood, I just try to cheer em up, that's about it. I am not the all knowing all seeing eye in the sky. I can only be there to give guidance, what little I have.
 
Eh I come from a family that talks alot so I usually listen to random people who share their life story. Chances are, sometimes I learn something or can give advice. If I dont like what's being discussed then I simply daydream about something more exciting(which isn't really that hard for me). With most of my friends I'm known as the person who can take "bullshit" because I listen to people talk about anything, etc.

What I benefit from this though is I know when people are lying in a conversation and when they are avoidong a certain subject, etc. I have been learning to not waste my time with certain stories when I'm not in the mood XD
 
This thread means so much to me. I was literally going to write one similar.

So like what most people said, I don't mind if it is my good friends talking to me about their problems. I love them, they're awesome and i want to help them and they try to help me in return.
But it's people I do not like, know or care about that piss me off when they dump their personal shit on me. What especially annoys me about it is when they do it and I think "oh well, might as well help them out." so I give them some advice and they completely ignore it and keep bitching. It's like wtf, stfu if you don't want a solution. I don't know you, I don't have to listen to this, but I chose to help you, you could at least acknowledge what I said.

I also don't like it when people tell you their issues but don't give a shit if you want to talk to them about something afterwards.
I recently made a couple of new 'friends' and the very first things they said to me was their life's story of angst, betrayal and loneliness, yadda, yadda, yadda.

Anyway, I am getting mighty tired of absorbing peoples issues for nothing. :mokken:
 
o0PinkSquid0o said:
I also don't like it when people tell you their issues but don't give a shit if you want to talk to them about something afterwards.
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That bugs me aswell alot. Im not one to talk about deep stuff but its just rude when your looking for advice back and they just totally blow you off or to continue speaking about theyre issue.
 
I've worked with people like this. I really hate it because I never know what to say. I feel like it would be rude to say "I really don't want to hear about your problems" but honestly, that's what I want to say.

When I started my new job, my co-worker proceed to tell me all about her marriage and how often she and her husband fight and how much she hates her sister. This was like all on the first day. I was like "8("

I don't mind listening to and giving advice to people I care about but I really don't like it when people I've just met decided to unload their issues on me.
 
Yeah, i'm one of those people who will listen to anyone's problems, if the problem is actually worth listening to. What pisses me off, are those people who, they'll tell you something that's their own fault, you'll tell them to STFU and deal with it because it's their own fault, then they'll start spreading shit about you.

OR

When they tell you shit that you clearly consider not important, so you tell them you "don't wanna hear it", but they keep on dribbling on.

Long story short, I'm there to help, not there to boost your ego or to back you up, just because i'm a friend. :mokken:
 
Big Casino said:
I remember about a month back i went to a gig. AFterwards i was waiting for my pal outside having a smoke. This girl asked me for a lighter which i gave her. And immediately i got a story about how tough it was with her parents back she was a teenager. She had to keep elbows off the table. Wasnt allowed to talk with a full mouth.......i dont know you, i dont give a shit??? go away :rage:
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Sounds to me like she wanted some. :goout:

I try to escape these situations with strangers. When I go to the bar, there's always some chick or some depressed dude wanting to tell her life cause she had a few beers. Do I know you? Does it look like I care? Is there a sign on me that says Sigmund fuckin' Freud? Just let me drink my damn beer in peace you crazy alcoholic.

Or it's like that person at the party that kills your buzz with stuff like, "I got kicked out of my house. It's bullshit." or "My boyfriend cheated on me. I don't know why? I have such a glowing personality and my 1st grade teacher said I'd be a model someday, blah, blah, blah." You're boyfriend dumped you because you're a fucking slut. MOVE ALONG BITCH.

People should confide in their families or therapists. NOT ME.
 
I got enough of my own problems to want to take on other people's as well. Why the hell would I want to be more stressed then I already am? :rage:

One of the main things I hate is when people just come right out with it and tell you everything and then they expect some sort of response back and if it isn't the right response then they'll continue blabbing until you think that their life story is the most angsty, deprived story of all time.

I hate those sort of situations. Some people can fake being interested and go, "OMG really. =0 *SHOCK!*" and continue faking their astonishment for however long.

I just answer with, "Oh really." in the most uninterested way I can to get them away from me. :rage:

I'm a bit anti social and I hate getting caught up in other people's lives like that. It's depressing and seriously, what the hell am I meant to say? You won't take my advice and do anything with it other than ignore it and continue doing what you're already doing in order to make your life more miserable so that your life story is more and more exaggerated every time you share it with someone. :rage:

So no. I do not like it when people do this to me. It bores and annoys me and is quite simply a waste of my time listening to other people's crap. I don't do it to you, so don't do it to me!
 
This may sound crazy, but I promote and encourage it. I feel that I can be very insightful to most, especially around these parts just because of my many years of experience. I have no problem being a therapist figure to my friends, especially if it helps get them out of their funk. I've spent so much time mentoring my best friend for the many problems he's had over the years, that I sort of got used to trying to be helpful to others.

The thought came into my head in college that I may want to be a Psychiatrist. I feel like I have a great handle on how and why people think the way they think, given their situations. But the reality that I've never had to deal with people that are completely off their rocker was a big turn-off for me. Some people have some scary thoughts that I'd rather not want to know or understand. Besides, I'm more of a hands-on person than a thinker.

But yeah, I don't mind being unloaded on. Sometimes if a person is way too needy, dependent and thick-headed, then I can sometimes lose interest. Sometimes a person has to start applying suggestions others give them instead of continuing to complain about it. I don't mind be helpful, but don't depend on me to hold your hand through life, etc.
 
I can help people tbh. Even people I don't know that well. I will try to get them to open up, talk to me, and get on the first step towards fixing their lives. BUT. I am not an ego trip. I will tell you flat to your face if you're being a tard. I will not mollycoddle you and tell you everything's going to be all right, because if it's a real problem, it's gonna be tough. I've been told by a few people that I should be a psychiatrist. XD

However. I make an exception for lost causes. People who just want an ego trip and then go and do the same thing they were doing before are people I won't bother with. I know a lost cause when I see one, and I just give up on them. It might sound cruel, but that's how I am.
 
First small talk and now this Jerome? Stop :rage:ing.

I had a similar experience to Jerome. I was outside a Chinese place waiting for my food and some chick asks me for a cigarette, normally I'd tell her to get fucked, but she wasn't bad looking so I gave her one, hoho etc etc. Having a smoke with someone else is a form of bonding, so she began to talk about how she had a shit job in the hospital etc etc. It didn't bother me, so I didn't make a thread. What does annoy me slightly is when people on eff eff eff want to talk about how bad their life is, usually most people have the courtesy to do it in the temple of ancients so I can just ignore it. But some people do it in the sb. Or use it as an excuse as to why they're being more a cunt that normal. Almost everyone has some kind of sob story, who cares.
 
All my life I've had to listen to other peoples BS. I was much better at advice giving when I was 10. I'm serious. I was giving my older aunt relationship advice at that age. I was always willing to listen to ANYBODY, friend or not, and try to help them out. I was always the one to come to when you needed a shoulder or an ear.

But life moves on and I eventually stopped giving a fudge about what other people were feeling. I can't even try to listen to my Mom anymore. It's too boring. Nowadays, if somebody tells me their story either one of these two will come from me....

"I don't know how to respond to that"

Or

"Cool Story"

I just can't be arsed anymore. I've got my own things to worry about. While I may come off as mean, I will still try to give help to you. Even if I don't want to. That's the nice part of me that I hate so much.

Maybe I'm just so angry because nobody wants to listen to me anymore. But they all want me to listen to them.
 
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