Serious What do you look for in a boyfriend/ girlfriend

[chronotrigger]

Ah, what attracts people to the their potential mates. As for me, looks are not important, to an extent. I really don't care about height, hair color, weight, muscles, etc. in women, as long as they are fun to be around. I love to talk, so a woman who can talk is already on my good side. I also would like to have a date that didn't end with sex. Yes, I know, a guy that doesn't want a date to end with sex is strange, but my first date led to my first kiss which led to everything else in the natural order of things. I was just happy to go to a dance with a girl finally. Anyway, if I had to choose something that would be important to me in they physical aspect of women, it would have to be the eyes. I am fairly good at reading people, especially if I can look into their eyes. I read body movements, tones, etc. but nothing beats the eyes.

Personality is key to what draws me in. I basically want a girl who is accepting of my faults, because I have some. It would be nice to meet a girl who actually has a sense of humor. I deal with painful memories frequently by turning them into jokes. It's easier that way and it would be nice if the lady I was into realized that. I also want a woman who loves music, and being a musician/singer is a huge plus in my book. Arts are good as well. I would also like a woman who enjoys just cuddling together, with no other reason than to be close. I would add hugging, but I hug everybody because hugs are nice. I would also like if the woman is not afraid of intimacy, because that's hard for me being an intimate person by nature (no, not sex. Kissing, holding hands, that sort of stuff). Don't get me wrong, intercourse is fun, but that's not what I need in a relationship.

Now onto things that will make me want to stay, thus drawing me in for the, for lack of better words, kill. She has to be, I repeat, has to be honest and faithful. No cheating (one accidental time may be forgiven if feelings are strong and honesty was in use) and no lying. I have yet to meet a woman that is not married, isn't into drugs, or doesn't have at least 5 kids that meets this criteria. The other things are nice and things I want, but these last two seem like they are gone from the world or no longer among the available women of the world. Don't get me wrong, I know men are just as bad usually, but that's one more thing that I don't like about men either. When I was young, I never thought I was asking for too much when I said I want a girl that won't lie to me or cheat on me, but I am beginning to question that conclusion. Sorry for the rant. It is just irritating that through five relationships (and what's sad here as well is that all of them combined don't even quite equal a year), all ended with cheating and lying in one instance. I look for fairly simplistic stuff. I will end now or I will begin the rant again, I am afraid.

 

[Rapture]

1) Honesty- My ex lacked this and because he lacked it our relationship ended. I don't deal well with people who lie to me as I'm always nothing but honest with people, especially people I care about. If someone gives me reason to suspect they are hiding something from me or lying about something I will call them out on it. Why waste my time if you are just going to lie to me?


2) Someone of the same religion I am (I'm Christian)...if we don't share the same religious views then I don't plan on furthering the relationship. I'm not going to spend the rest of my life explaining, debating or reasoning with you the reason why I believe the things that I do...if you don't agree, just don't argue with me, walk away...or I will.


3) Someone with goals and a drive in their life- I ran across a guy in his mid 20's and who was content with working two dead end jobs and had no life goals other than to survive from day to day (I do realize that some people HAVE to do this nowadays with the economy being crap like it is, but the person I talk about was doing this since he got out of high school and never wanted to pursue any sort of college education -so its not to offend anyone who is absolutely forced to do this because they've been laid off or etc...). Show me you want to go to school to have a real career and show me you are willing to work hard for something that you want and show me you can take care of yourself so I don't have to. No, I don't want someone who is filthy rich and I'm no goldigger, but I don't want to come home from my 12 hour shifts feeling like I have to support someone else too.


4) Someone who can make me laugh-Ohhh the humor I find in daily life. I really need someone who is like that too, otherwise I would be miserable.


5) Someone who loves me for me- Beauty is only skin deep. It will fade with time and someone who you can grow old with and will be there for you if you get cancer and have to have chemo treatments while your hair falls out or when your skin is sagging and you are 80 years old.. will see past that and still think you are beautiful IS love.

 

[Cecil Strife]

see, every girl that has wanted to go out with me, were the extremely creepy ones that stalk you xD. I've actually met a lot of girls that i would go out with, but they always turn out not to wanna go out with me, but do i really care, NO

Have you been copying me? This pretty much explains it.
Usually who I get is a girl who's like...
"Where where you at 2:00?! What about 2:15!?"
When I want to go out with someone, no. Oh well.

Anyway, look doesn't really matter. As long as their not creepy and fun to be with, I'm fine.

 

[Dean Winchester]

I could have sworn I have posted here. Curiously enough, I was searching for an explanation of how love works from a possible chemical basis. Not that the information I have stumbled across seems to be accurate. Anyhow, of what I've read so far it seems that most people tend to post what they want to find yet most of us knows that in reality it doesn't happen that way at all.

But to limit myself to the primordial purpose of this thread whilst avoiding to turn this in a debate, I suppose...

That the woman must first be intriguing. It must have that intellectual and mysterious look. Should be quite independent of course, someone who thinks by herself....I don't want a "Barbie-Air-Head-Clone". The nuisance would be highly unbearable.

She should have some level of honesty since, in reality, we all lie, even without an intention or unknowingly. I don't mind small lies, I usually always notice, but big lies are definitely not of my liking.

I also don't mind someone who tells me that I am wrong when I am mistaking.

Confidence, and it should also be able to hold an interesting conversation. Interesting enough, on the first date what I highly look forward is for a very interesting conversation. If she is smarter than me, then I am in heaven.

The looks....well that is irrelevant most of the time, but I guess she should fall under the "acceptable" range.

 

[Dionysos]

I don’t look for relationships as such, and if I did I’m not sure if I’d ever find anything. If I set lots of rules though I’m pretty sure that I’d remain single for the rest of my life, as no real person could ever truly conform to a fantasy.

Anyhow, of what I've read so far it seems that most people tend to post what they want to find yet most of us knows that in reality it doesn't happen that way at all.

Yeah, I agree. I think if people stuck to what they are saying in this thread then it's going to be very hard to find a partner, and they'd probably discard a lot of what they want when they meet someone. That said, some people are better at finding partners than others, so perhaps some people can get away with being very picky and discarding love interests who don't quite fit exactly what they want.

Myself, I've never really set down rules. I'm not desperate, but I am rather concerned for my future in relationships as I've essentially been single my whole life. I'm really not in a position to be very picky, so I'm quite flexible. If I really like a person then that's the main thing for me as it would be quite hard to ignore it.

The only other thing that I would absolutely require would be faithfulness and the desire to be long-term, though I would not be able to enforce or guarantee either of those, and some people would even be scared off by that if anyone ever did get to a stage where they were close to falling in love with me.

Other than that I really don't set anything else down. My mind would probably do the rest without me having to think about it. It most likely makes me attracted to friendly people. While I tend to see from the point of view of people who are not friendly, understand why they are not, and still accept them, I obviously don't think that I could easily develop a romantic relationship with a girl who isn't very nice to me. So I guess that would be the third thing.

As for habits, level of intelligence etc, I'll have to be adaptable. I have bad habits myself, and I don't feel particularly smart despite getting through university, so I'm not really in a position to turn my nose up at anyone who is below me like that, if indeed anyone is below me at all.

People are people etc. If I like them and they like me, they are friendly (doesn't have to be outwardly friendly and throwing friendliness everywhere, but to have a good heart, and to be understanding and accepting), and they would be faithful, then I don't care what else they can do. When it comes down to it though, my mind will probably make the necessary decisions on who may be suitable without me really having to consciously pick or kick and feel like a git.

All of that said... Having no relationship experience of my own probably turns all of this post into a pile of trash, as I can't possibly know what it's really like to be in a relationship with somebody who isn't imaginary.





Teal Deer version: I'm crap. I'm not in a position to be a picky git. I'll like who I like and will not deny myself liking a person just because they aren't exactly like my fantasy-girlfriend.

 

[L]

Anyway, look doesn't really matter. As long as their not creepy and fun to be with, I'm fine.

amber says "hi"

*shudders*

I like for a love interest to have an average size body, to be funny, to add an element in my life that makes me feel complete, and have an amazing smile. i also have to make them be able to laugh with some jokes, or they suck imho

 

[ANIM0SI7Y]

My dream girl is a girl with long black hair with unnatural colors in it, her height is really short because i like short girls, her body is really skinny, she dresses punk/hippie, and she can actually think for herself.