Would you beat your kids as a disciplinary action?

That's quite possible, but being on the receiving end of such abuse allows you to see why it's wrong.

I've never been smacked since I was five, when my mother chased me around the shop, found me behind a maniken and took me across her knee. It wasn't until I was crying that she realised several tens of people were staring at her through a shop window. She never once raised her hands to me again. My dad has never layed a finger on me since the same day, when he was disguisted at the handprint that he had left on me.

I respect them more for teaching me, rather than assaulting me.
 
Yes, five and older is kind of pushing it when it comes to physical discipline, but you can't teach a two or three year old. It goes right over their head and you're lucky if they even listen. You can send them to their rooms but they will just be up their playing with their toys.

Depends on the kid too. One of my nephews absolutely hates time out and is one of the best behaved kids I've ever seen. The other, he'll kick the dog, push his little sister down and hurt her, you put him in time out, the minute he gets out he's back to what ever it was he did to get himself in time out.
 
That's when you take away priveledges. For example, if I was being cheeky, enough to get grounded, I'd have the playstation taken away for a week. If I continued, my toys were taken away, so on and so forth. When all you can do is sit on your bed and feel sorry for yourself, you quickly realise that it's better for you to listen to your parents, no matter what age.

In the same manner as the morality for infants - hitting them wont get them very far, either. I can't remember a thing from my infancy, so who's to say that being hit shaped me? I know my parents would argue that it helps now.

As I say - respect.
 
Yeah, I got hit over the knee a few times when I was little. But I was a demon child when I was little and was also quite a bully. Grounding never did help me or taking away my toys because my imagination was way to active. I can say that physical discipline helped me alot because that was one of the only ways that my parents could get any control over me and everything pretty much stopped after that. They didn't beat the hell out of me or anything. Just enough to piss me off that I would stop.

I guess we should just agree to disagree?
 
hitting childs is NEVER a solution, NEVER, not even if he has killed some random dude on the street
or has thrown a bomb somewhere and blew up a house... in fact if that would happen i would laugh but well... that's me, but you get my point
 
From my experience (only as a child, not a parent) "beating" or hitting kids is often the only way they will learn in certain cases. I see far too many cases nowadays of kids mouthing off to their parents and elders, and why not? If the only discipline they receive is a stern talking to, or yelling, or even to have to go without tv (oh no! don't take away my imagination killer!) what kind of motivation is that really to stop doing something? Even in nature, animals learn not to do things mostly when they hurt. Physical pain is the best deterrent in most cases.

Once when I was younger, about 15 or 16, I called my mom a bitch, and my dad, who was standing nearby decided that he wasn't fond of his wife being referred to as such and backhanded me in the face, causing me to stumble and thus fall down a flight of 7 or so stairs. I was not seriously injured, and the staircase thing was unintentional, but I'll be damned if I ever called my mom that again! My parents never beat me, but they did use physical ways to discipline me every now and again and thank god they did. Nothing kept me from walking a straight and narrow path in life better than trying to avoid physical pain. Of course, the physical actions were only a precursor to their discipline. A talk, and explanation, of why what I did was wrong allowed me to understand why I shouldn't be doing things when I was older.

In essence, the threat of physical pain kept me from doing things that I didn't understand was wrong until the day when the explanation for why it was wrong made sense to me. I never called my mom a bitch again because I knew it would result in a strong stinging, possibly throbbing, and all around painful experience for my face which I wasn't all to thrilled about receiving, and eventually I grew to understand that calling my own mother such a thing violated the respect I had for her and therefore I was able to stop the action on my own. Nowadays, it's because of the respect I have for her that I don't call her such things, not because of the threat of physical pain.

Had my father not have hit me on the other hand, I would have kept calling her names. Because I don't personally believe that the actions I take in life are wrong (in most cases) I would probably never thought that calling my mom that would be disrespectful because I do respect her, and I am calling her that... does that make sense? I call her something because I'm angry, not because I disrespect her, and therefore, I would have never linked the two, even had I had been told so. However, by being "physically persuaded" not to call her that allowed me to step back from the situation and understand why it was disrespectful.

I'll take my swearing as an example. I swear like a sailor at times, and have no issues with it. I do not believe that a mere word can be bad in and of itself, only in the context in which it was used. However, my mother hates swearing. She thinks it is immoral and offensive. My parents never hit me for swearing, but they made it quite clear that it was not to be tolerated around them. I still to this day do not swear around my parents, even my dad (I work with my dad in a shop, and he swears all the time). I do, however swear all the time otherwise.

Had they hit me for swearing on the other hand, I would have stopped (not just around them either, for fear that my mothers magic ears might hear :P), and stopping would have let me look around and probably notice the context in which most people swear, which is generally a negative one. I would have corresponded swearing with negativity, thereby understanding my parents point of view, and I would have made the decision to stop on my own eventually.

So, in other words, if you're a parent and are serious about the issue at hand, hit your kids. And, in my opinion hitting hard is not usually the issue (unless you break or injure something), it's hitting too often that makes it child abuse. Hit your kids only when it's necessary, and shower them with true love whenever possible.

As a side note: Don't hit your kids, feel bad, and then buy them ice cream. Feel sorry about what you did if you must, but don't negate your own actions. My grandmother did that I haven't learned a thing from her! She once yelled to a car full of her grandchildren (myself included) this exact sentence:

"If you guys don't stop arguing right now I'm turning this car around and none of you are going anywhere! ... Now what do you want from Dairy Queen?!"

I couldn't stop laughing!
 
As a child, a small sharp tap on the hand or leg was enough to teach me right from wrong. When I was a teenager, my mother tried the revoking of privelages, grounding etc, but that didnt work with me, simply because I never left the house to play with my peers (I was bullied terribly), and would rather spend my time reading books.

My cousins also got a smack if they were bad, and they have turned out into the most loveliest well mannered young women I know.

I guess, what im trying to say is that there is a different between reasonable chastisement and kicking the crap out of your child. Its just a shame that governments cant define between this and are now taking away options of how we should discipline our children.

And yes, I dont have children yet, but if they were misbehaving in a way that couldnt be dealt with by revoking privelages etc, then yes, I would give them a smack.
 
ya i would spank my children because if you dont they think they can get away with whatever they want... i know my little sister is that way...
 
I disagree with any form of beating in any respect.

My parents used to just "smack" me as a kid and it never did me harm. Even taught me a lesson here and there.

I live, and like many how we were brought up. I know my little girl is very young at the moment. But in later years if she has done something that is wrong and would need to be punished harsher than a grounding then a smack round the legs or something would seem more appropriate.

Deep down it would be the most hurtful and hardest thing to do, I love my daughter more than anything in this world, but sometimes you have to cruel to be kind.

Saying that I hope she never has to turn into the person I used to be as a kid so maybe she'll never need any discipline. Well here's hoping ^^. No matter what me and my wife love her unconditionally.

Raptorg said:
hitting childs is NEVER a solution, NEVER, not even if he has killed some random dude on the street
or has thrown a bomb somewhere and blew up a house... in fact if that would happen i would laugh but well... that's me, but you get my point
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A typical example of why the age of sexual consent should be increased to 21+ in all countries.
 
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Personally, my kids would have to do something REALLY bad for me to lift my hand at them. But I'll let their mother beat the shit out of them. I don't know my own strength sometimes, and I'm a pretty big guy, I wouldn't want my hand to slip a little too hard and really hurt them. But I like my women short and small (5ft 4inch or shorter) that way when they hit them, it won't hurt that much.
 
If my child was being naughty, then yes they would get a smack across their backside or on the hand. IMO thats why the UK is messed up at the moment. Parents cant discilpine their own children anymore and they are running riot on the streets, at home and in schools. Its ridic! A good smack didnt do me any harm and I was never a trouble maker cause I knew I would get a smack for it.
 
And old wise Man sayd you will get what you give.
Dont do something to someone who doesent has got the same power as your self.
If you Slap lets say a child one day it will slap at you as well,and this will hurt you as an perant very much,because than you will hopefully understand that you made something wrong.
Chids are not stopid they understand very well,more than we can think of.
So talk to the child but never never beat,slap or beat it.
Remember on day it will hitt you like a Rock.Everything is comming back on you soner or later.
 
id never hit a kid no matter the circumstances. I grew up with a very voilent and abusive dad and wudnt want to see any kid go through that
 
I don't think I would have the heart to hit my children. I'd probably end up sending them to sit in a place where they couldn't watch tv, have games or anything: They'd just to sit, and depending on how bad they were, for 5 minutes to maybe half an hour.

But I'm not opposed to spankings or hand smacks. I just think my husband would have to do it if it came down to disciplining that way.
 
You know what the big problem is? That parents nowadays want to give kids everything they didn’t have.

They were discipline through beating, then they won’t hit their kids
They had to get good grades at school, then their kids don’t have to
They had to blindly obey their parents, then their give much more liberty to their kids
They didn’t get everything that they wanted, then they give their kids everything they ask
Their parents were to rough to them, then they’ll be too soft with their own kids

Do you see were I’m getting?
 
The problem is that these parents shouldn't be allowed to breed in the first place. Any ape so unevolved they have to teach their children that violence is the only way to solve their problems should not pollute humanity with whatever is wrong with their genome. Even if the kids were violent in the first place, it doesn't excuse a grown person using violence against them.

We are of course talking about normal children who do things like lie about homework. Feral urban children who get in knife fights at age 9 should be shot on sight.
 
Not contributing to the current conversation, but... Technically according to the pigs in my area, a parent can punch their child in the face and call that "discipline". Complete bullshit. I'm speaking from an experience in my life.

But to answer the queston to this thread, Yes I would. I mean it'd be great if someone came up with a way to make children listen better and faster without violence, I'd be all for it. But that would take so much time.
 
I’m creating a poll about this topic

I’m creating a poll about this topic to see how many people have actually gone through this.

Why not just add the poll to this thread? Simply because it would generate another discussion, here we are discussing if we would do it, there we will discus if it happened to us.

This is the new poll
 
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