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If you could would you go back to the start?

When i look back theres been a lot of stupid things ive done in my life and many mistakes thats been made. I never spoke or saw my dad in 8 years and there were many things i shoulda went for instead of just hanging about. I was listening to biblical the other night i couldnt sleep and i was thinking about the question. You tend to remember the misses more than the hits when your looking back. I think given the chance to go back to a time and start over from there i would have to say no. Despite all the regrets and mistakes ive made i would say ive lived a good and enjoyable life thus far. You learn from your mistakes and know better the next time they come around. There are some things currently that im not happy with and i plan to try and set them right again if i can. You an only try.
Starting again would be good for settings things right but theres some things that wont change at all and i dont have it that tough in this world so i can say that i wouldnt go back. Im happy where i am now, looking ahead to the future and all that stuff.
 
I've thought this a lot and I'm kinda the same. There's things I've done I'm not proud of, people I've been involved with I regret, but I really think it's just helped in shaping who I am. And I think if I were to reset it all and try things different, I probably wouldn't like how it turns out. If given the chance, I'd say no. Too much costs outweigh the benefits, imo.
 
I would also say no. The reason for me being who I am today is all down to past events, the mistakes I've made and whatever else I've done. I've learnt from all that, and it's helped me be more the man I have ever been. If I went back to start over, I would only make a completely new set of mistakes.
 
I would and wouldn't. But then I think that changing the slightest "bad" thing could drastically alter many wonderful events that happened subsequently in my life. None of us can see the passage or pattern of time, cause and effect. We can only wish we hadn't done something because we feel guilty, ashamed or stupid about it now. But I guess I'm a bit of a fatalist and I think that everything does happen for a reason, good and bad.
 
Yes and no. I don't think I would be where I am today if I went nd did things differently... unless I went back with the knowledge I have now to make certain things happen. I certainly wouldn't have gotten with a particular ex, but other than that, I'm happy with my life. Im certainly happy where I ended up. I just wish I was employable :wacky: I don't like it when someone talks to you like shit, just because they happen to be a manager or whatever and I will give it back.
 
It depends. If I could restart all over again from the craddle knowing what's going to happen (and therefore avoid the known mistakes), then totally yes, why not? But in the end, something tells me we would make new mistakes anyway.

Now if I could go back to the start to start it all again without a clue of what's going to happen, then there's no point in going back.

That's why I try to learn from other's mistakes, so I avoid doing certain things.
 
definitely not. there's the odd thing where i wish i knew then, what i know now, and i could have improved things, but there isn't really anything major. it sounds painfully hipster to say so, but i try to look forward rather than backwards, and i know that everything that has happened to me in the past has built up to where and who i am now, and i'm pretty happy with everything at the minute.
 
Yep. Obviously there's some things in life now that I wouldn't change. I accepted my mistakes for what they were, and while some of them turned out to be okay in the end, there's a few really rotten ones that I wish didn't happen, or I (heck, anyone for that matter) really could have done without - and it has nothing to do about whether it shaped me to who I am now. It has nothing to do with drowning myself with regrets and what-ifs. Sure, the failures and mistakes in life teaches us all something valuable, but in a general sense...if I could do it all over again, I would - on the chance that I could avoid or fight the demons.
 
I think there are naturally things that everyone regrets. I would love to change one or two things that I've done and I wouldn't think twice about doing so. Some people here have said that it would affect some good things that may have happened in your life, but if you regret something so much then that's a very small price to pay imo.

It's better to have nothing that hurts you emotionally in your life, than to have a few good things that don't cover the regrets.
 
There are particular things I would prefer not to have happened, but I would not like to relive my whole life again and risk changing everything.

Don’t get me wrong, I have sometimes daydreamed about this very thing. I sometimes would think that I wouldn’t mind living it all again with the knowledge I have now, and imagine how much I could achieve. Compared to how I was as a youngster I’d be a relative superhero the second time round. I probably would make different mistakes, sure, but I’d also benefit as a person so much if at a younger age I thought and saw things as I do now, or if I spoke much at all instead of wasting my youth hiding away from myself and not discovering myself. Reliving life would give me a much needed boost earlier on, and every little helps to match the level of confidence and social behaviour that people generally have outwardly.

However, I don’t think that such thinking is very healthy. Ultimately I am trapped as who I am now. And since I can know and contemplate the situations and circumstances that led me to be who I am now (the determining factors), I can now exercise an enhanced free will in sorting out anything I’m not happy with and improving myself and the quality of my life. In discovering yourself and what circumstances formed yourself, and other people around you, I believe that then you are better equipped to take control of your life (only to an extent, obviously).

Yes, I made a lot of mistakes. Mostly personal ones, I hope, rather than ones that have affected and damaged other people. My mistakes tend to be of the missed opportunity type, or sometimes it is the frustration that I should have sorted myself out earlier on and developed my social skills.

Alas, this did not happen, and in a way perhaps there have been benefits for it. By taking a backbench (but not being entirely ignored either), I was able to observe people, listen to people, respect people, and ultimately grow really fond of people and appreciate them to such an extent that I don’t think there is anyone out there that I hate, rather I find something to like in most people. If I was yapping away like a terrier pup all day long I may have missed out on this. Even if I was just conversing in a normal human-like way, I may have missed out too if I’d been a part of a stricter social group. You never know, however.

The way I've been living, I've been taking the slow road. I guess I'm a bit behind people of my generation in many respects, but hopefully it'll turn out okay in the end. If not, oh well. The world spins. I'll try not to fall off.
 
I'd love to redo my life. It'd give me the opportunity to make exactly the same mistakes again, only faster, and with a greater feeling of self-irritation once I realized that I'd fallen into exactly the same pitfalls again; those ones I was trying to undo in the first place by redoing my life.

There are things that I would love to change about my past; things I couldn't cope with as a child that severely impacted my life that, had I been able to look at them as I do now, would not have had anywhere near as much significance. My life would be significantly better now for it. But, that said, if I were to relive the worst parts of my life, I could very well find that things were worse than what I remember them to be, and being a powerless child again doesn't really hold much appeal...especially if I'm aware of just how little freedom I actually have. So, on second thought, perhaps it's not worth it: things would probably be less traumatizing, but no less frustrating.

The thought of doing all those exams again makes me shudder, as well. Lord knows how my education would turn out if I did it again...
 
I used to spend a lot of time thinking along these lines, and to an extent, I still spend some time thinking about my own personal history. However, I no longer over-analyze my past and all the little and big moments and event that comprise it in the attempt to craft personal alternate histories.

There are certainly times that I used to wonder how things would be if I handled them differently. Two big examples from my life involve a former best friend and how that 15+ year friendship ended (it was a VERY stupid reason), and making the decision to join a paid dating site (met the woman that I'm now married to from there). And then there are the scores and scores of smaller decisions that would've sent ripples down the line of history, such as the way I handled myself in high school or how I interacted with various people.

While I do think a multiverse is possible, and that any time we encounter a point where a decision is made, all possibilities are expressed though we only see one of them, I now take life one day at a time versus trying to figure out where things could've gone better. Granted, it's definitely plausible that my life could be better than it is, just as much as it could be much worse. That being said, I am very happy at how things have turned out as of this moment, and since where I am now is a culmination of everything that's happened before, I wouldn't want to change my past if I was given the chance.
 

Only with memory still in tact, otherwise no thanks. It would be like a horrible circle of suck, just doing the same errors over and over again.
 
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