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Daenerys

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Dominate, or be dominated?

It's a question that's being asked around recently, I said I'd rather dominate, as not being in complete control of something kinda freaks me out, and I'm not trusting enough to let another person dominate me.

Well? :neomon:
 
Um, I'd rather dominate than be dominated. I hate being taken advantaged of, I really do. At least when I do dominate, I'll keep in mind not to be so harsh or bitchy about it.

...Although, I guess it depends on what kinda subject of domination we're talking about. =P Because then I wouldn't mind being either one at all. (Yes, that subject).
 
Dominate or be dominated? To whip or be whipped?

I'd rather dominate to be in control...but I agree I don't want someone dominating me...god knows what they'd do :wacky:
 
I'm pretty much the same. Though I'm not the uber dominant "Alpha male" type, I much prefer dominating than being controlled. And not in a sexual way, thankyouverymuch, Mr Freud. Not to mention, that I'm a megalomanical control freak.

It is better to control than be controlled.
 
I thought this was about secks :'(

If it's something trivial, I'd let other people be in control because I'm lazy. If it was something important then I'd dominate everyone else to make sure it's done right.

Though I don't think dominating someone is something admirable.
 
Ugh, I'm a total control freak. I don't trust people to do anything, they ALWAYS mess things up. Always. I feel much more comfortable being in control of a situation...
 
I'd only let myself be dominated by a woman that I either...

A.) Find highly attractive
B.) Am in love with

Other than that I'm always in control of any situation.
 
Eh...it sorta depends on the situation. There are some cases where I wouldn't want someone else calling the shots. I'm far from being a control freak, but that doesn't mean I'd let someone waltz all over me.

Overall, I'll go with being dominated. It doesn't really bother me. I'm laid back enough to just let it go.
 
D'aw I was wondering if it was about secks aswell ¬_¬

In everyday life, I'm a complete control freak. I don't even like getting drunk because it's a loss of control I can't handle. I don't try and control other people's lives, but I have to be in charge of every single aspect of my own. Though sometimes I wish I could be a bit tougher on other people, I tend to take their problems out on myself, because I hate to say no. Stupid backwards thinking :mad:
 
I thought it was about sex aswel, is it not...?

Anyway, I don't mind either way, depends what mood I'm in :wacky: It can be quite fun to take either role.....

There's nowt kinkier than being tied to the bed and letting someone else take control

*ahem* moves on.....

In everyday life, if I can get away with it, Il just let other people make the decisions and shit, I'm just too bone idle hahaha. I do like to have my own way though and have had one or 2 temper tantrums if things aren't going my way :wacky:

I think it all really just depends on my mood, Im generally so laid back, Im horizontal, but catch me on an off day and I just growl :monster:


If it's something trivial, I'd let other people be in control because I'm lazy. If it was something important then I'd dominate everyone else to make sure it's done right.

Yeah what he said
 
In everyday life, I'm a complete control freak. I don't even like getting drunk because it's a loss of control I can't handle.
My friend's like that. She doesn't like being drunk because she hates the idea of not being in control of her actions. I've never really thought about it like that... I've only ever been tipsy though, and didn't exactly feel like I was losing control...
 
It depends on the situation, sometimes it is smart to allow others to bear the burden of rule, but mostly I prefer to be the puppeteer instead of the puppet. I admit that I am the kind of person who prefers to have full control of the situation due to my tendency to view most things as some sort of strategy game, in fact, I consider life as a chess game. Of course, the kind of control I mean is like the one who plays his role secretly, somewhat like the "power behind the throne". Pulling the strings without making others aware of it, that's how my game is, and I prefer to do it at school. I am fully certain that "words" sometimes are sharper than "swords", and that with the adequate words, you can do anything.

Although, the game can change, and so does the rules, for I have like two kinds of mood, Good Julius and Bad Julius. Depending on my mood, I can be quite sarcastic, senseless, selfish, not willing to show an ounce of leniency towards traitors with a tendency to distrust others (a.k.a. Bad Julius, in summary "I don't like anyone, nothing personal"), or I can be self sacrificial (somehow like martyrdom), loyal, forgiving, and with a tendency to try to correct everything in this world like helping others solve their problems, like some kind of "adviser".

In addition, my mood tends to stay in "Good Julius" unless someone really pushes my patience way beyond the limit, which instantly classifies those willing to take the risk of arousing "Bad Julius" as "non-intelligent". My philosophy is based on the belief that each individual has a balanced amount of "Good" and "Evil" within their being. Mine tends to go one way or the other, depending on the situation :wink:

Of course, not everyone can be King, for bishops, rooks, horses and pawns are strictly necessary for the game to be unfold.
 
Of course, the kind of control I mean is like the one who plays his role secretly, somewhat like the "power behind the throne". Pulling the strings without making others aware of it, that's how my game is, and I prefer to do it at school. I am fully certain that "words" sometimes are sharper than "swords", and that with the adequate words, you can do anything.

And you're one of the high class RPG moderators...oh crap.

Anyway...it depend on the person. If its someone i can trust and i know they are reliable at the job then i will give the position of power over. However even if its someone that i dont trust or trsutworthy, but i dont think they are capable, then i force myself to take control of the whole thing whatever it may be because i know i'm more maturer than most people and can make wise decisions.

Btw...if this is sex we're talking about thats a whole different story:wacky:
 
My friend's like that. She doesn't like being drunk because she hates the idea of not being in control of her actions. I've never really thought about it like that... I've only ever been tipsy though, and didn't exactly feel like I was losing control...

Best way to be!!! I was fine until I got to Uni and started going out, trying to keep up with the others who'd been drinking a lot longer than me (I've always been a lightweight), and I just couldn't do it. I got paranoid that I was showing myself up in front of people, and one of my friends was also a lightweight but she enjoyed getting shit-faced, and seeing her throw herself around freaked me out for some reason. I like a little drink just to feel a buzz but that's it for me ^^

Hehehe I like how people are just stating their sexual preferences anyway, bold of y'all!!!! :D
 
And you're one of the high class RPG moderators...oh crap.

Hence my obsession with games, specially chess, and also RPGs with medieval-strategy theme. Of course, first I must be provoked, and so far I haven't been tempted.

>__>

Also....the title of this thread made me believe, at first, that it was somehow sex related....

Ah but don't get me wrong, I tend to allow being controlled, when the situation requires it. To lead or to follow? That is the tragic dilemma that our civilization faces everyday.
 
Well, I agree with alot of what Julius said.
I've found that I'm a good, very insightful strategist and planner, and I have a contingency plan for everything that matters. I'm also highly ambitious and driven.

Well, you have to let yourself appear to be controlled in order to gain control, sometimes. If it's part of a bigger plan, of course.
 
I like being "dominated" so to speak. I'm not up my own ass with "I'm better than you" and I don't really care about anything except relaxing.

I don't do well with structure, so if someone were to try and control me, I wouldn't fight it exactly. I'd just get out of that situation. Life's more fun for me that way.
 
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