bullying

Vagabond said:
I don't like proselytizing, but you need martial arts training. Real martial arts training, at a classical school, none of this "Jim's School of Karate-Fightin" crap.

I think you lack confidence in yourself as a person, and that's why people pick on you. This would be a good way for you to gain confidence, strength, intelligence, (most important) self-control.
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my confidence has improved but the presence of those people who bullied me can still give me a mental blow but most of them dont bother me now also the whole aspect of martial arts i cant handle i am just not one to trust people and without trust how could i gain discipline to learn? i am giving fencing a go and i am thinking of a hand-to-hand martial art to take as well but i cant decide yet

@helena_lou i am moving on but because i get fixated with the past it can be difficult to let these things go and i have a history of bottling things up but i am trying to deal with it which is working out quite well
 
Bullying? I've been bullied by a bunch of really husky butch black girls before. It's one thing when you've got one person picking on you, but...a whole pack?
 
FFGuy said:
@helena_lou i am moving on but because i get fixated with the past it can be difficult to let these things go and i have a history of bottling things up but i am trying to deal with it which is working out quite well
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woo i wasent trying to be nasty or anything. i know its hard. but talking about it is good for you. i was also bullied by my stepdad and had to move out 2 days after my 16th birthday.
i felt much better when i told mum that i hated him.^_^
anywho i digress, just talk about things with people. bottleing things up makes things worse.. Trust me!
 
your telling me! i learned that lesson the hard way

@hell_razer that was one of the things that kept me thinking i was better than them so in my new school i just study hard and my exams are going great so in the end i will be showing them just who was the bigger man back then
 
FFGuy said:
my confidence has improved but the presence of those people who bullied me can still give me a mental blow but most of them dont bother me now also the whole aspect of martial arts i cant handle i am just not one to trust people and without trust how could i gain discipline to learn? i am giving fencing a go and i am thinking of a hand-to-hand martial art to take as well but i cant decide yet
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If you want to learn real martial arts then it's more about how good your teacher is than what you take. You can pick any martial art and have a great time, or pick the same one and have a terrible experience because your teacher was what I call an "American martial artist" meaning one more interested in scoring points in tournaments and getting people through a "system" than actually teaching.

Find a classical school run by someone who seems eccentric ;] You won't regret it.
 
I've continually been on the receiving end of bullying and to be honest its horrible especially when nothing seems to help. I know it's hard but you need to stay positive and remember that the reason these cowards bully people is because they are insecure within their own selves. They need to make others feel bad so they can feel good about themselves. Now tell me that isnt gutless =/
 
yeah it did they look quite interesting i will have to have a look about once i am in my next school year
 
Nephany said:
Bullying? I've been bullied by a bunch of really husky butch black girls before.
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[sarcasm]Yes, I'm pretty sure the fact that your bullies were black is a very necessary part of that comment of yours. [/Sarcasm]

I don't think they're is a solution for bullies at all. The causes of bullying has been long since figured out, but they're is no solution to make them go away. They're is the whole ''stand up to them'' solution, but that one doesn't work a all, I speak from experience. They're is also the ''tell an adult'' one, but the only thing that does is piss them off. Although, I think that there is a shred of hope in the latter solution, because the parents might transfer you to another school.
 
i always hoped i would get transfered but i never did. and FFGuy doesnt have that option. hes in a special school
 
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