Serious What do you look for in a boyfriend/ girlfriend

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Okay, this is real simple, what do you look for in a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Me, in a girl, I look for
trustworthy, kind, courageous, funny to a certain degree, one who will listen to me, one that i can learn from, interesting personality, gamer girl!, not overly hyper, tuff, would not try to hurt me.

well, thats just half, I wanna hear what u guys have to say
 
I personally get along extremly well with "tomboys" or girls that most would consider "weird"; e.g. goth girls, otakus, werd quie girls, geeky gamr chicks, vry artsy intellectual chicks - gnerally not the ghetto, slutty type. It's at the point whre I hav more best friends as girls than guys, bcaus theyre sorta just like guy friends. xcept they hav vaginas. And making out with them won't mak me gay. Then we play Tekken together. Thn we smoke.

Yep. That's my ideal girlfrind.

My girlfriend actually recommends me maaaad manga and anime; subsequntly, I let hr borrow my PS1 and all my old RPG's. Plus w both listen to death/black metal (I got her into it, she got deeper in).
 
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Well i have a fiancee and i have been with him for 4 years and loved him frm the day i met him ^^ i love his eyes, personality, looks and cuteness! People have said to me he looks like sylar from heroes (good thing???)
 
I always date gamers and geeks. But its ood how I get the quiet guy, then the flirt, quiet guy, flirt. Drives me mad. I like tattoos and piercings also and its always the flirty guys who have them. I like a guy who gives me attention and doesnt flirt on purpose with another girl to annoy me. That happens alot and Im sick to the back teeth of it.
 
Well i don't want to go overboard on what I see in guys and whatnot 'cause then i'd be expecting too much out of them :hmmm:


I look for (in a guy):

How funny they are
-Make me laugh and we'll be good :ryan:

Honesty
- I much preferred it if you were honest with me 'cause it'll just become a bigger issue then it needs to be if you were honest in the first place

Strong
-Not in the sense of muscles but someone who can take care of themselves and someone who isn't overly emotional. (Stable)

Space
-I've dated a guy before where all he wanted to do is be with me all the time. I mean, its cool that your really into me but, I have friends and whatnot that are apart of my life too. So, i'd like it if he'd let me go out every once in a while with my friends (of course he can have a guys night out too)


I wouldn't really say i have a 'type' (such as i like jocks only) It totally varies.

Those are just a few.
 
see, every girl that has wanted to go out with me, were the extremely creepy ones that stalk you xD. I've actually met a lot of girls that i would go out with, but they always turn out not to wanna go out with me, but do i really care, NO
 
Personality and Trustworthiness.

Two main aspects imo. You could say looks I guess but I suppose if you didn't find them good looking you probably would attempt to look for a relationship with them. But yeah, definitely personality, I've known some very good looking lasses in my time but a lot of them drive me up the wall especially when they come across as "listen to me" sort of people. Trustworthiness has got to be up there too. If you can't trust them would you really want to go out with them? Probably not.
 
whenever i'm looking for a girl, my quest is a difficult one.

i start off by searching for looks, and once i have found a group of girls, the 'getting to know them' begins, i spend time with all of them (not at the same time) and i tend to search for trustworthy, funny girls, who act like girls, screw that tomboy crap, i like to defend my Girls.

then comes the next stage of my search that i call the 'DAMN' stage thats right, you guessed it, i sleep with them, personally i have a high sex drive, so a girl who is gonna be with me needs to be able to keep up at least, she must also know what she is doing in the bedroom (not slutty, just not new to sex)

and of course there is one thing that is a must have from any girl who wants to be with me, she HAS to be shorter than me. . . god tall girls are just odd.
 
Me, no sex, until you've been going out for a long time.
Also, looks come after personality for me.
 
This is me.

I'm very picky (going as far as to find one who respects my religious beliefs). I'd want them to be nice, and personally, I couldn't care less if she didn't give me enough room to breathe. At least I'd know she cares. I'm almost 20, and I still have NOT kissed a girl. I can't wait for it, but at the same time, I hope I'd do it in a relationship that will last.

Another thing: Looks are okay with me. I don't want her to be too pretty, but at the same time I don't want her to let herself go (hairy legs, armpits, etc.) after we marry. Perhaps this will change over time, but for now, I'm kind of in the middle when it comes to looks. Not too pretty, but at least grooms herself every day. She should have SOME standards, right?

Personally, I think tattoos are a way of saying "(Insert name of ex here) was here." I don't want to be "this guy" but I just don't like tattoos on a girl. Friends are okay, but my future wife is a different thing.

I'd definitely be up for fornication if I wasn't a Christian, but now sex before marriage doesn't appeal to me much. I'm a virgin, but I really don't mind if my next (and hopefully last) girlfriend has been around the block. It still wouldn't hurt if she was a virgin too, and stay that way till we marry.

As with a girl with kids, as long as they're under three years of age, I'd go out with her. I want to be the best father figure I can be, because my father left my mother when I was 12, and it was during that time that I needed him the most. I didn't know it then, I realized this just recently. As for the kids being 3 or under, well.....

(Hypothetical situation)
Me: Eat your peas, son.
Kid: Why? You're not my real father! *knocks plate aside*
(Perhaps I'm getting carried away, but I just want to be safe)

Finally, someone who just gets me. Someone who isn't bothered that I still watch cartoons. Someone who can take several hugs during the day. Someone who can stand just being around me. If she doesn't show any affection, I'd dump her on the spot.

Maybe this is my insomnia talking, but at least most of this is true.
 
for me it depends on the background,looks,and personality

in my area theres a lot of french girls,none of them(from what i see) are even pretty,even in my school.if i find a pretty french girl with nice personality she would be rejected by my family,not that i care but could be pretty sad.my friend once brought a french girl to his house and his parents rejected her and told their son to get a greek girl,cux my frind is greek.I learned something from this,quebecois could give u problems in your life. Theres other girl nations i see in my school,like spanish,greek,italian,paki,and of course french. Im pretty scared to have a greek girlfriend,they dont like italians(the ones in my area).
 
I look for someone who has simular interests as me, but not so identical that it would drive me crazy if that makes any sense XD. I also want someone who works hard, and is very kind and caring. I never wanted someone who, could never be wrong, shared very simular beliefs and values with me, and who liked kids and animals XD.

I've been with my fiance for 7 1/2 years. He pretty much matches up to that XD.
 
I look for a guy who is as affectionate as me and who cares about me a lot. =)

I can't stand guys who think it looks 'uncool' to hold hands, hug etc in front of others at all. Not that we do it all that much, out of courtesy for other people who'd rather not see that sort of thing.

I really tend to go for the rugged, manly looking guys who look a bit bad-boyish, with their tattoos and such I've noticed. >.<

They need to have the same values as me otherwise things won't go along very well obviously.

I like the 'opposites attract' theory as well. I think that Steve and I are very alike where it's important and then we're different in areas as well but it works at the same time.

For example:

Alike: We both like to be outdoors together and have fun doing outside activities. It would not work if one liked to stay indoors and the other was an outdoors person.

Not alike: We have different tastes in food sometimes and so when we're out and ordering dinner, we often pick two meals and we eventually finish everything on the plates, with each of us picking apart what we like from both dishes. It works out awesomely. XD No wasting. >.<

Just little things like that. I think we compliment each other very well.
 
What I used to look for in a guy, was far far faaaaaaaar different than what I ended up getting.

At first I wanted a very affectionate guy in public, someone who wasn't afraid of us, someone who never smoked, did any drugs or was a raging alcoholic. I wanted him to share my love of video games as well as video game merch. He needed to be confident in himself, and driven for a career of sorts.

What I ended up getting in a guy... was someone who smokes frequently, has a spliff every now and again (either when his back is in raging pain, or I'm not around), and doesn't know what he wants to do with his life career wise. While he is affectionate publicly, he isn't over the top with it, but he isn't always confident in himself. We share a mutual love of games and genres, as well as most movies and tv shows, however he makes fun of me for collecting game merch. (refers to them as laybo people, long story)

But while these differences occur, I believe it's made us stronger. He's a lot more level headed than I am, and doesn't get so frustrated over stresses that I nitpick at a lot. He's usually the one to bring me back down to Earth after I blow up, and I like that he manages that. If I need space, he gives it. If he does, I give as well. But through all of this, Ist and I have stuck together through thick and thin for the last 2 years... and hopefully longer.
 
Personally, I think tattoos are a way of saying "(Insert name of ex here) was here." I don't want to be "this guy" but I just don't like tattoos on a girl. Friends are okay, but my future wife is a different thing.
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Not every tattoo a person gets they get for their relationship. Mine, for instance, was one I picked a long, long time ago, and got with a few friends simply because I wanted it, and could afford it.

As for me I’ve found The One, so I’d probably be better off listing what he has, because honestly he hits almost every one. xD But anyways, here they are.

Kind. Caring. Intellectual. Ambitious without being overly so. Loving. Honest. Supportive. Understanding. Looks help, but it’s never a necessity with me (except that, yes, personal grooming must be there). Commonalities is a strong thing, especially in relation to belief systems. He can’t be emo, or self-destructive or manipulative, whiny or needy. He has to love me for me, and not try to control me or fall apart just because I say it won’t work. I don’t love the types that can’t stand on their own two feet. I love the ones that believe in being a good person, and are against vengeance.

And nice. Nice is…well, nice. xD
 
My Gf is the best she is so similar to me its scary but l think we off set each other pretty well Im tall shes short, Im strong she is fast were both aggressive and cynical and she is the best thing in my life.

lf we werent together l would probably go on a rampage and have to be sent into outer space.....you may lol but l'm HULK-able at that rate!
 
I'm happily in a relationship of 2 years... aha. But I'll base this on if I was single and if I could create the perfect boyfriend...

But usually I look for someone with a good sense of humour, is laid back, is caring, is a gentleman, is open-minded, likes games!, likes the fact that I like games, likes cuddling up on the sofa watching movies, likes to cook, likes to eat out...

For some reason I cannot help but shake the feeling that my post is similar to that of a dating advertisement you see in newspapers. :D "Corny Capricorn, 17, looking for a silverfox who likes to cook, eat out..."

Joking aside. :3

But yeah, those are the qualities I would look for. :) Not saying my BF isn't any of those, but you know, for the thread and all that. :-) I couldn't be with someone who was racist, I know that much. I come from a mixed background (My grandfather is Black) so I've been brought up to love all! So, yeah, a big no-no for me is racism.
 
Well! I really couldn't tell ya what I want from a boyfriend because, to be quite honest, I haven't ever really had a boyfriend. But, that being said, I do have a few ideas of what I want/require.

1) The ability to comprehend my extensive vocabulary and intricate, sometimes even archaic, syntax.

2) The ability to understand and participate in my natural witty comebacks and repartee. (You'd be amazed at how many guys simply cannot or will not engage in such lighthearted and funny conversation.)

3) Zero sexism or even old-fashioned beliefs.

4) A love of books and reading.


And that's pretty much it. The last two are quite common, but it's the first two that seem to be the guillotine on things. One friend of mine (whose interest I do not reciprocate) has a hard time finishing a sentence, much less engaging in humorous repartee! Woe, woe!
 
Well I dont particularly look for anything in someone but I do tend to go for people who
Make me laugh effortlessly
Are able to stand their ground in an "argument" yet dont take it personaly
and can be just as sarcastic if not more than myself

Id say those are the main three things all the people I gravitate towards seem to have in common cause lord knows not a one of them ever look like the other
 
I believe this thread exists already, and I believe I posted in that one, hence the reason I didn't post in this one, but maybe I'm mistaken.

I don't think I can actually put a template out for the "standards" I'd look for in a girlfriend. I guess in my pursuit to find that special lady, I'm willing to cast away things that I once considered to be a "standard". I haven't had a lot of relationships in my day, but I'll say they were pretty diverse overall.

The things I sort of consider standard are broad enough that many different women can have. I like a girl to be nice. I've had relationships that would resort to lots of fighting and fighting that frequently gets old very quickly. Even the best relationships have fights, but fighting everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, leads to a lot of unwanted and unnecessary stress.

A sense of humor is a must. My sense of humor in some regards tends to be a little twisted and in some cases, not understandable. I've known girls in my day that I would joke with and it would completely fly over their head. Then months later, they would finally figure out my humor and I just think to myself "how did you not understand before?". But I use humor in conversation quite often, so I'd be uncomfortable without it.

Having a stable mind is a must. I don't care so much if she doesn't know "what she wants to do when she grows up", but has it together in her mind. I've dated confused women, and it just turns out to be a train wreck in time because they have no idea what they want. Some women priortize things in their life much better than others, which I find important as well. I guess, more than anything, I like a girl with a "good head on her shoulders". One who's realistic enough to make good decisions in her life and also has the common sense to understand life.

I suppose those are the only real "standards" I look for in a woman. Other than that, I'm pretty open-minded about who she is. I'm accepting to a fairly high percentage of women, then it all becomes an issue of how compatible we are, which narrows down to a very small percentage. :lew:
 
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