Is it okay for a man to ever hit a woman?

[Squid]

EDIT:

I find this. Not only infuriating. but disgusting and insulting as well. It may seem like overkill. But a Women can easily kick a mans ass and Men while i admit started out biologically stronger. have long since fallen in line with Women in strength. Anyone who say's otherwize are totally wrong.

You find it 'disgusting and insulting'? You need to calm down
Also you cannot say I am totally wrong when you have no facts to back up how totally wrong I apparently am.

Also you will notice I said 'mostly'.

Also men are biologically built to be stronger than women, I am pretty sure in !!!***MOST***!!! cases that is a fact, but ofc there are going to be cases when women can beat up a man, specially if the man is some weedy nerd or something. Now I happen to think that it is wrong for a man to strike a woman unless it is really called for. That's my opinion, I am so terribly sorry if this opinion of mine has impacted upon your health. I do hope you'll be ok.

 

[Naoto Shirogane]

Well I do. I don't take kindly to things like this. maybe I shouldve toned it down. and I'm sorry. but still, That was rather uncouth for you to say. And again I say that At this point in time. It's not MOST Cases anymore. It's a stalemate.

You have an opinion, That's your opinion. doesn't mean I have to like it. I'll say again. there should be no Men are better or Women are better. It's just plain stupid and untrue.

and to look back at your orginal post: If men were the stronger species now they could easily tone it down. No gender should be looked down upon. And I don't like it when people do. especially if it's coming from the own gende.r

Otherwise. i see your underlining tone. Men shouldn't hit women because your a girl and you don't want to get hit. Then Girls are allowed to hit men? Girls can hit both genders? Even an ever day to day girl can kick your ass. not one of those special cases. why do girls get the special treatment? They have boobs and can bear kids. So? Men have the equipment to make the girl have kids.

Kicking a guy int he crotch is A-OK! but kicking a girl? Nope! i feel that grouping of people because they are a different gender is stupid. So what if you have boobs. You should still get the punch in the face you deserve if you ask for it. Same with men. They do something stupid? They deserve the pounding they get.

Men and women. One gender doesn't need to be treated differently. Men and women are equal, and excuses shouldn't be made for either of them unless in Extreme special conditions.

again. My opinion. Sorry for lashing out. Ducky

 

[Squid]

I never said men are better than women and women are not as good as men I merely stated that women are a lot of the time, weaker than men. That doesn't make them any better or worse. Men are just biologically stronger most of the time, it's a fact.

I also never said that it is OK for a woman to hit a man, it's not ok and those kinds of women who will lash out at a guy for any reason are horrid, I would never hit a man unless he was hurting me, but that doesn't mean that a man should then backhand her. Firstly why stoop to her level, secondly more than likely, he is stronger than her and will damage her a lot more than she will him.

That is all I meant, I wasn't trying to get into a 'this is better than that' fight at all.

 

[Sexy Beast]

I honestly don't get the whole "a woman is weaker than the man, so he has no business hitting her". Seriously, if the bitch deserved it, then she deserves to get slapped.

Let me clear the air that I do not approve of woman-beating or anything along those lines, but seriously if we're gonna go down the path of a woman hitting a guy is alright, but not the other way around, then do I have some thoughts on that.

I perfectly understand that physically women aren't as strong as men, and that is usually used as the basis of any argument of this subject. Let me say that is complete bullshit. I just feel that if the girls ask to be hit, then dammit let them be hit.

Simply put: an eye for an eye. Of course, the situation has to call for said hitting.

Now with that said, I will never stoop to that level.

 

[Squalllionheart]

Unless its an extreme case then I say no. If a girl is hitting you and its hurting you restrain her or move away. If you're arguing and she slaps you round the face in public in front of loads of people you may feel like hitting her, but no.

There are only two times I could possbily think of hitting a woman

1. She is trying to kill me or cause me serious injury by using a weapon.
2. She is trying to hurt\kill my family

So apart from the obvious biological instinct to protect your loved ones then I would say no, hitting women is wrong.

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

im convinced Ive posted in a topic like this before, I dont think it's ok for anyone to hit anyone ever, but if someone hits another person, they should expect to be hit back, regardless of their gender. The fact that the other person may be a woman should not even come into it

I think there are a lot of women, especially on nights out, that hide behind the whole 'he cant hit me, becuase im a woman' kinda thing, and they will be screaming like a banshee proper going for it at some poor bloke that wont retaliate because hes been brought up to think its wrong, and probably worried about the repercussions if he snaps and does so

Also, how can anyone claim to know how they would react in the heat of the moment, woman belts man, man reacts and hits her back, yet hes the arsehole?

This.

Personally I don't think I would because a conscience part of me says that if you do hit a woman then the repercussions of being a man are far worse regardless of the situation and also that it's not in my nature to throw a punch, I can't recall ever being in a fight, solely because there are other ways of handling conflict. However, if a woman thinks she's big and clever enough to punch a man and he retaliates then she should have no qualms about it. It goes for anyone who throws the first punch imo unless it's thrown in the act of self-defence.

 

[Risey]

I don't play that. Domestic violence is wrong, plain and simple. However, if you ever do get hit by a man...hit it BACK, bitch!

 

[~Griever~]

One thing that bothers me about the whole 'men should never hit women because they are stronger' argument is that it should also work as a deterrent for women to not hit men. For example, I'm around 150-160 lbs at 5 ft 11. Pretty slight. If I were to find myself a 200lb guy in the street and give him a right straight would he be expected by society to take it on the chin and just restrain me because I'm smaller and weaker? No he wouldn't. And that's why I wouldn't hit a 200lb man (I wouldn't hit anyone for that matter). However, I've been attacked a few times in the street (on nights out and in the middle of the day) and a few of these situations involved girls. Gangs of girls in one or two cases. I was basically attacked by a group of girls with other pedestrians in plain sight. No one stepped in or even looked too concerned. Reverse the gender roles and you'd have a full scale uproar which is partly the reason I didn't hit back. Men are brought up to believe you shouldn't hit girls, so much so that there are a lot of white knights out there who will instantly assume a man hitting a women is an abuser and deserving of a beating himself. Which I know to be rarely the case.

Also, I train at an MMA gym and there are plenty of girls who also train there who are just as tough as the guys and they give no sympathy during sparring sessions. So in conclusion, I think in some circumstances it is absolutely necessary to hit a woman. Not to prove your dominance, but in self defence and also as a future deterrent. I know too many girls who instantly jump to violence against boys/men because they've grew up thinking they're untouchable when in reality we shouldn't be attacking anyone ever. There's nothing that can't be solved with a discussion after all.

 

[JasonsBasement]

What if said woman was a man before? Does that count?

Jokes aside - this is not a black and white situation. If a woman was aggressively attacking me I would, with no hesitation, hit her. I think it should be said that you shouldn't hit ANYONE regardless of gender unless it is in self defense. Violence in a verbal argument or dissagreement should never be tolerated.

 

[Shu]

GIRLS! (and boys) Women are not made of glass. Yes, we're not men or have the male hormones and muscle structure, but we are not made of glass. If someone, no matter what gender, is assaulting you, you MUST defend yourself. I've beaten up as many women as I have men and I am damn proud that I'm able to do so.

You sort of contradicted yourself, you say you aren't violent but you are proud that you have beaten up folks or are able too?

I disagree strongly with this. I'm not saying to put up with abuse, I'm saying from what I said before there are better ways to do it.

Kick/Punch etc, It's not hard to break someone's nose period. To fight back and swing depending on the body type can easily injure someone. There is a thing in fighting called Cutting as well. When you swing with your elbow or edge of the knuckle, you can physically pierce the skin as well.

A kick, can be even more brutal. Depending on where you kick, you can fracture someone's bones. Of course you can break your own too, especially on the shin. Or even worse, you can cause internal bleeding in severe cases.

I recommended Grappling earlier, due to the risks are very minimal unless of course you don't know what you're doing. If you lock the joints of a man or woman, you can make them submit and hopefully lose their cool.

 

[Coco]

However, I've been attacked a few times in the street (on nights out and in the middle of the day) and a few of these situations involved girls. Gangs of girls in one or two cases. I was basically attacked by a group of girls with other pedestrians in plain sight. No one stepped in or even looked too concerned. Reverse the gender roles and you'd have a full scale uproar which is partly the reason I didn't hit back.

I don't think this about the fact that they were women. You'll find that most people just turn a blind eye when they see crimes happening because they're too scared of getting mixed up in it.


I'm just going to focus on the thread topic itself. No, it's not okay to hit a woman except if she has a knife or a gun, and she is dead serious on harming you with it. But if you're going to say it's okay to hit because girls are just as strong... Maybe it's time to hit the gym or do sports.

I don't think there are any sane girls out there who'd just start hitting guys they don't know for no reason. It happens with a girl close to you. A sister, girlfriend, wife - women you know you can exploit because of your closeness with them.

There's a reason people eventually started raising their sons 'never to hit girls'. The reason we even have the term battered wife is because men, once they get started on hitting, don't stop. Sure, there's always an exception to the rule, but the odds of them stopping are ridiculously slim.

It's a serious issue. It wasn't just a handful of guys who've punched their girlfriends or wives throughout history. Millions have, and they don't do it 'only when she's being a bitch'. Once they start, they end up doing it regularly, for reasons that get pettier and pettier over time. I researched this for one of my classes and the numbers are just shocking. Not even taking into account the ones not reported yet.

If it's about striving for equality, humanity's on it's way there in terms of respect on male and female intellect. But physically? Unless all women are built exactly like males, then generally, no.

 

[Richard B Riddick]

The reason men hit women is....

They can get away with it. Women are generally smaller and weaker. Most men can get away with being abusive.

In those scenarios, its not ok for men to hit women. Its not an even fight and its unfair to women in general.

There are exceptions to the rule where women are violent and men are not. In those cases, its usually a guy who is 5 foot 2 & 100 pounds whose wife is 5 foot 10 weighing 300 pounds.

Violence and abuse isn't reserved for either gender -- no one implied it was.

Its a case of those with power who can successfully abuse others or throw their weight around deciding to become bullies to pretend they have some influence and power in the world, which often stems from insecurity, ignorance and feelings of inadequacy & weakness in general.

 

[L]

fuck yeah

bitch would have to be crazy though. I do think that Chivalry is a little outdated and want to punch everyone in the testicles that has White Knight Syndrome, but I was brought up to treat women with respect.

I don't think that it is acceptable to open on a woman first for any reason, but if she is really starting to kick your ass then it's just self defense to backhand and/or restrain that crazy bitch.

but i don't think that i could ever hit a woman with a closed fist

unless she was like an ogre or something, ogres aren't pretty to look at anyway

 

[Tmoo]

there was a thread just like this, months ago. violence perpetrated by either gender is abhorrent, and if you need to defend yourself, you have every right, regardless of who they are. That's really all there is to it. The only caveat is the degree of threat they pose - don't sock someone in the face if you get slapped.

 

[Dionysos]

there was a thread just like this, months ago.

It was a few years ago now, but it seems only a few months. However, since a few people have commented on the older thread I have dug it up again and have merged the two. They are the exact same topic.

-Threads Merged-

 

[Setzer007]

Nope. If i feel like my life is being threatened like Tmoo mentioned then i might have to trip her or something if she's running at me with a knife and then just pin her down until she calms down a bit. I don't think i can bring myself to hit anyone, man, woman, or animal. I don't even kill insects i find inside my home, i just pick it up with a napkin and release it outdoors.

-Setz-

 

[AerithG]

I don't think anyone should hit anyone. The only time is perhaps if it's a life or death situation, in that case I don't mind. People shouldn't hit others just because they're ticked off or they didn't get their way. That's douchy and immature. I can't really think of a life or death situation that would really require hitting, though (unless, you know, it was with a weapon or a car giggle rather than punching or smacking).

 

[Saints&Storms]

In my personal opinion; No, its not okay -- and I know people might think I'm being sexist when I say on a more general level women are weaker then most men, men are just some sort of natural strong, some of a womans bones or more fragile and so on. As a woman who has had a man come at her on more than one occasion I think its something only people lower than scum do; especially when/if the woman has never laid a hand on anyone seriously enough to bruise or break something (I mean c'mon a punch for a slap?)-- and more obviously when the woman has only said something to upset the man -- which honestly is how it has gone down for me every time.

Again I'm not trying to sound sexist when I say this but a lot of men only need words to believe they have the right to hit you or even choke you -- and its something I would never forgive on any circumstance. Maybe that's just me though.

Although I have been told the man would only fight back if the woman is strong or heavy-set and big, but its a load of shit to me quite honestly, I sure as hell am not bigger than any man at 128lbs and 5'7.

-- but then again this is all my personal opinion and experience, so if this is insulting to anyone please just ignore it

 

[Kei]

I've never been told not to hit a woman because dad did something of the like at point in the past so I guess I developed the idea of being against hitting women because I didn't like that. Even if the girl hit me, I'll just hold her off while trying not to hurt her. I don't know I guess I don't like to see a girl get hit nor do I like to see a girl hitting someone. It kinds of rips whatever respect I would have hold for that person and if I did it I'd also lose whatever respect I have for myself.

Don't know if I made any sense but this is how I think. <_<

 

[Tucker]

Hey, if your wife is smacking you and being macho and you are threatened of your life I don't see why it would be considered an outrage to hit her to get away if he's fending for his life. But that barely ever happens

You have to consider (what many people have already said and posted) is men are generally much stronger than women. If you take an average woman and average man, the man is stronger. So that's why it is seen as a serious thing.

But really, I don't think anyone should be hitting eachother Is it okay to hit a woman? No...But it's not okay to hit a man either. No hitting. Just stop hitting